| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Beesluv: 8:15pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
so I dint make front page  |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Truckpusher(m): 8:16pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
lookingbuoy:
I have a little problem and need some advice on it:
I've got a girl I like. We met at nysc and got along really good. Even today i still remember the first day i saw her. She studied psychology and even though I'm an engineer we could relate and talk a lot about her subject, as I read a lot and kinda have read much on psychology. After nysc we still kept in touch and continued to talk even though i never asked her out formally. Soon i got a job away from her. Our talking continued on phone.
While out of Nigeria on training, I met another lady. She's just as pretty as the other one, but has a great job and is a confident woman. The other girl is still searching for a job; and her psychology degree is no help. I have a great job myself and i earn seven digits in naira per month. The new girl also works with an oil form and earns very well. We have got along these past few months and I really have fun talking to her and hanging out.
I have always wanted an independent woman as a wife, a woman who can stand by herself and who has prospects for a huge career. I'm career-minded myself. But now, I'm really confused who to plan my life with and settle down with as a partner: this independent lady who I believe I like or the other unemployed lady who I seem to have a more relaxed, longer friendship with.
Note: I've not asked any of them out formally. Please help. Marry one and keep one as a concubine.  2 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by fart: 8:17pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Pick the one that enjoys your di.ck the most 2 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by ZYZZA: 8:17pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Wait let me ask one emir
#IHATEAPC
#BROOMWAVINGDEMONDS
#IREFUSETOBEAZOMBIE |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Beesluv: 8:20pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
lookingbuoy:
My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.
My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.
And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other Go for both of them, you still have 2 more slots after these 2 |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by kinibigdeal(m): 8:20pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
lookingbuoy:
I have a little problem and need some advice on it:
I've got a girl I like. We met at nysc and got along really good. Even today i still remember the first day i saw her. She studied psychology and even though I'm an engineer we could relate and talk a lot about her subject, as I read a lot and kinda have read much on psychology. After nysc we still kept in touch and continued to talk even though i never asked her out formally. Soon i got a job away from her. Our talking continued on phone.
While out of Nigeria on training, I met another lady. She's just as pretty as the other one, but has a great job and is a confident woman. The other girl is still searching for a job; and her psychology degree is no help. I have a great job myself and i earn seven digits in naira per month. The new girl also works with an oil form and earns very well. We have got along these past few months and I really have fun talking to her and hanging out.
I have always wanted an independent woman as a wife, a woman who can stand by herself and who has prospects for a huge career. I'm career-minded myself. But now, I'm really confused who to plan my life with and settle down with as a partner: this independent lady who I believe I like or the other unemployed lady who I seem to have a more relaxed, longer friendship with.
Note: I've not asked any of them out formally. Please help. Imagine! You have never even propose to any of them, you are here thinking of how to curb bokoharam 2 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Acidosis(m): 8:21pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
I'm only interested in your salary package
Sir you earn 7 digits monthly? When did you finish nysc again? 8 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by EbirichBen(m): 8:22pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Please just do me a favour by Fasting, I repeat FASTING for 7 days morning and Night.
After then, you will see the Answer
Thanks
Again just imagine yourselve, saying this " The new girl also works with an oil form
and earns very well. We have got along these
past few months and I really have fun talking to
her and hanging out."
You are A Bronze Digger 8 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by ivyy(f): 8:23pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Pointless asking a bunch of strangers to advice you on stuffs like this. I mean cmon we don't know these girls personally. You know what you want. Figure it out. 1 Like |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Nobody: 8:23pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
lookingbuoy:
I have a little problem and need some advice on it:
I've got a girl I like. We met at nysc and got along really good. Even today i still remember the first day i saw her. She studied psychology and even though I'm an engineer we could relate and talk a lot about her subject, as I read a lot and kinda have read much on psychology. After nysc we still kept in touch and continued to talk even though i never asked her out formally. Soon i got a job away from her. Our talking continued on phone.
While out of Nigeria on training, I met another lady. She's just as pretty as the other one, but has a great job and is a confident woman. The other girl is still searching for a job; and her psychology degree is no help. I have a great job myself and i earn seven digits in naira per month. The new girl also works with an oil form and earns very well. We have got along these past few months and I really have fun talking to her and hanging out.
I have always wanted an independent woman as a wife, a woman who can stand by herself and who has prospects for a huge career. I'm career-minded myself. But now, I'm really confused who to plan my life with and settle down with as a partner: this independent lady who I believe I like or the other unemployed lady who I seem to have a more relaxed, longer friendship with.
Note: I've not asked any of them out formally. Please help. Apparently,you don't know what true love is 5 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Nobody: 8:25pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
I tell you bro. All lies. Funniest part, folks are dishing out advice like ish got real. alexistaiwo:
seven digits? That is a million and u aren't sure who to date. I smell lies |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by mastasam(m): 8:25pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
pray harder |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Etizz: 8:26pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
hob:
Test the water my guy
Ask both out and do your research, its not about just picking one It's dangerous dat way, both of dem might accept his proposal..... Den who do u expect he turns down, he shouldn't ask both out, he should go for what he desire in a woman and who his heart melt for......... Most of all, I don't think u should be tripping for a woman because of her high pay job or career, there should be something special in a woman dat moves u..... U should figure it out yourself..... Career don't last forever...... But d love does. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by slap1(m): 8:26pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
sugah:
Then you should do something about her "unemployed situation". You know not all relationships should lead to marriage. Relationships should be about what you can offer to the next person, not really what you want from them. If you have the wherewithal to empower her (a lil from your seven figure salary), you should do that. Empowerment doesn't necessarily have to be about giving her money. While she is waiting to be employed, does she have any passions that can fetch some form of income from? Have you talked her into getting anymore educational qualifications that would give her an edge against the other millions of graduates being churned out from schools? Does she have a business plan that you can finance? You should help her.
Even if she doesn't end up being as financially independent as you want her to be and end up marrying the other broad, she would never forget you and how you touched her life(as long as sex isnt involved). OP this is it. The independent one might give you headache one day because you actually contributed little to her life. The other one is more like your best friend, and it's always good to marry one's best friend, if possible. And forget about your fantasies; you can't have it all. 2 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by vjsmiles: 8:27pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
ivyy:
Pointless asking a bunch of strangers to advice you on stuffs like this. I mean cmon we don't know these girls personally. You know what you want. Figure it out.  |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
lookingbuoy:
Hmm...
You are right. I'm actually more smitten by the unemployed lady. But i dont like her unemployed situation. And she also comes off as not so independent. The other lady is as pretty, way more independent (perhaps totally), holds her on and carries herself well. She has most things I've fantasized about my woman having, only my relationship with her is not as boundless as what i have with the unemployed lady.
I believe i can comfortably take care of the home with the unemployed one. However, i don't like her unemployed situation one bit. . Nothing eye no go see, if to say na woman this kind thing happen to now  dem go begin call us gold digger. I dnt really get your story anyway, if you've been dating the unemployed girl before you met the employed one then there is probability that you're still gonna leave this employed one for another well paid girl. If you love the first girl enough u would help her get a job so she could be as independent as the second girl Nobody on NL can decide who you will marry for u. You have a good heart and we hope you take your brain along while deciding this for yourself. 2 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Harbosede02:
I never knew there was a theory that states that once an unemployed is forever an unemployed.... Pls ur thinking faculty is so so annoying.... So becos the other lady is jobless makes her less eligible to be ur wife??
Guys!!!!  As in ehn...extremely annoying 3 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by fanex: 8:28pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Money gives you choices... do as you will. Btw the lady with the good job doesnt need you. She probably just wants you.
Engage your armed robber salary and enjoy your life. 1 Like |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by DoTheNeedful: 8:28pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Acidosis:
I'm only interested in your salary package
Sir you earn 7 digits monthly? When did you finish nysc again? Lol....Mr entrepreneurship,you don see say some salaried guys dey hammer . He is obviously working in an oil company. An average top multinational oil firm pays around 1m for fresh guys 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
lookingbuoy:
My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.
My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.
And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other she is not the sole cause of that situation, you cant love that chic as long as she is still unemployed, this is so. Obvious. Bro, pls don't think of marrying any of them as long as you not looking for to empower or change their present situation. You are attracted to this other chic because of the " seemingly bright future ". Which may turn out to be something else. No one knows tomorrow. You can empower the first chic if she is motivated to be successful. |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by freshiest(m): 8:29pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Just settle down |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Chiscomax(m): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Slimzjoe:
Marry the one with the bigger Br3ast
very hilarious |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by mekonglobal(m): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
sugah:
Then you should do something about her "unemployed situation". You know not all relationships should lead to marriage. Relationships should be about what you can offer to the next person, not really what you want from them. If you have the wherewithal to empower her (a lil from your seven figure salary), you should do that. Empowerment doesn't necessarily have to be about giving her money. While she is waiting to be employed, does she have any passions that can fetch some form of income from? Have you talked her into getting anymore educational qualifications that would give her an edge against the other millions of graduates being churned out from schools? Does she have a business plan that you can finance? You should help her.
Even if she doesn't end up being as financially independent as you want her to be and end up marrying the other broad, she would never forget you and how you touched her life(as long as sex isnt involved). |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by ivyy(f): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
1 Like |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Mogenerous(f): 8:31pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Harbosede02:
I never knew there was a theory that states that once an unemployed is forever an unemployed.... Pls ur thinking faculty is so so annoying.... So becos the other lady is jobless makes her less eligible to be ur wife??
Guys!!!! GOD BLESS YOU! Its like you picked every word from my head 3 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Sophiespeaks201: 8:31pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Been jobless is not a terminal disease or death warrant.
The psychology babe joblessness shouldn't be a yard stick in choosing a life partner.
Bros, use ur brain.
She might become gain fully employed in the next minutes...think well. 1 Like |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by olujaidi: 8:32pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
sugah:
Then you should do something about her "unemployed situation". You know not all relationships should lead to marriage. Relationships should be about what you can offer to the next person, not really what you want from them. If you have the wherewithal to empower her (a lil from your seven figure salary), you should do that. Empowerment doesn't necessarily have to be about giving her money. While she is waiting to be employed, does she have any passions that can fetch some form of income from? Have you talked her into getting anymore educational qualifications that would give her an edge against the other millions of graduates being churned out from schools? Does she have a business plan that you can finance? You should help her.
Even if she doesn't end up being as financially independent as you want her to be and end up marrying the other broad, she would never forget you and how you touched her life(as long as sex isnt involved). Hmmn I was in a similar situation some months back. I tried to empower the girl I was dating at the time by getting her to learn skills like hairdressing and bridal make up. She was unwilling to put those skills to use to make something herself. Some women think that because they're women they are entitled to receive. What if the lady in question is like that? 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by mikedimeji(m): 8:33pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
sugah:
Typical female response. Emotional and sentimental.
Finances are a major problem in marriages my dear..many people go into marriage without thinking of their financial state because they think 'love conquers all', 3 years down the line when hunger has thrown the love out of the window the marriage ends in a divorce.
So let lookingbouy be a 'man' trying to make an all round decision for the future. Baba the guy lay too much emphasis on the unemployment stuff, no one knows tomorrow, the person that have plenty today may end up not having as much tomorrow and vice versa. If u love this lady then make conscious effort to get her employed any which way and move, Abi if u had not meet this ur independent woman will all this one be coming up abeg do the needful and save us the epistle 2 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by Dandeson1(m): 8:33pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
if yu are dis confused as a man on an issue like this then you don't deserve any of those ladies, and how can you be career minded and you want to marry another career minded woman, who wan stay house with the kids... smh... see as your children wan take join isis;  9 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by DoTheNeedful: 8:34pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
@op,If you really like the unemployed girl,you should not have issues with her employment status especially with the kind of salary you earn. I earn far far less than what you put up there but that wont stop me from marrying a lady i so much like because she doesnt have a job. 6 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by prettyjo(f): 8:34pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
you have laid so much emphasis on the unemployed as if its a crime.
let us hear word biko.
at this stage of your life,you should be able to know what you want.I guess you are the type that hardly gives,maybe Dats why you want an independent lady.
mstcheww 8 Likes |
| Re: Which Girl Do I Decide On? by 9iceboi(m): 8:35pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
Its possible that the 2 already 've boy friends.. I won't b surprised if I c a new topic"how I got dumped by my 2 gal frenz " 2moro |
