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How To Approach Women And Win by UndespicableMe(m): 10:53pm On Oct 08, 2015
How to Approach Women and Win:
It is perceived to be increasing difficult for guys these days who are seeking emotional bond of natural affection to their significant other to go through the process without being seen as creepy or socially awkward. Whether you trying to kickstart a random convo with her in a bus, in church, office or a reception event by which the forces of nature has brought two opposite pair together.

The problem has some basic solution. So if you are male with loads of frustration at approaching women keep digging, there is a nugget within this piece of bytes written in a quest to make your dating life easier.

When your behavior goes against the accepted social context, then you end up making people uncomfortable. You’re incongruent with the location and that can be incredibly creepy to people; it tells others that you either don’t understand the rules that govern what is and isn’t acceptable or you don’t care. Someone who doesn’t care that it’s not appropriate to yank a book out of somebody’s hands or pull the earbuds out of her ears is sending the signal that they may well not worry about little things like “consent” either.1

Consider your Skill Level: Ok! I know you have friends who seem to do what Psquare once said "dribble like Okocha & score like Ronaldihno" Yes! they break the rules, get the girls. Well the truth is they started somewhere, built reputation over time and have a better understand on how to swing a golf ball that lands them the right hole. Horn your skills and do so gradually and dilligently. Start with online dates before graduating to approaching women on the streets.

Never Assume Intimacy: Everyone has boundaries, the more you ignore their boundaries without better level of intimacy, the harder it will be to get women to want what you have. Approaching people you don’t know and have no connection to means that you have to behave accordingly. Tracking them down on social media, randomly texting them (when they didn’t give you their number) or proclaiming your undying devotion for them when you don’t actually know each other are all examples of assuming excess levels of intimacy. So does trying to escalate things physically (demanding a hug, trying to put your arm around someone you’ve just met, etc.) or turning the topic to sex when it’s not wanted or warranted.2

The guy who shows respect (and let’s be clear: there’s a difference between respect and being a suck-up) is someone who’s going to have far greater success with women. Why? Because women will feel comfortable and secure around them. Not sure if something’s off limits? Ask.

Women Owe You Nothing: In a world dominated by rights and demands, makes it difficult for women to accept guys who fail to understand that a woman is an autonomous being. When their autonomy is threatened through pushy behaviour for responses and replies they hold back. So never mix politeness with obligation.

Another factor to keep in mind is that meeting basic standards like “not being a rapist” or being a “good guy” doesn’t entitle you to a woman’s time or attention. Similarly, your various accomplishments, however impressive they might be, don’t create an obligation for someone to bow to your whims. You want somebody to give you the time of day when you approach them? Be someone worth talking to. Be interesting. Be charming. Be respectful. Demanding a response just because you’ve paid what you think was a compliment isn’t respectful, it’s being a douchebag and it’s creepy. It demonstrates that you weren’t interested in just paying a compliment, you were really making demands on her time and attention. That sort of behavior is a distinct turnoff and makes sex disappear like dust in the wind.3

Rejected but not Dejected: Hard truth time you’re going to get rejected. Everybody does, no matter how hot or how skilled they may be. You could be rejected for a multitude of reasons which could range from your saying something wrong to the moon being in the wrong house for her to date right now. At the end of the day, the reason for your being rejected doesn’t matter; it just means that for whatever reason, the two of you were not going to work out. It’s on you to accept that rejection with grace and aplomb.

Why? Because people who’re able to handle rejection well ultimately get rejected less. Being able to take rejection and not letting it either destroy you or turn you into a red-pill-fueled rage monster is a mark of emotional intelligence and higher levels of emotional intelligence correspond directly with greater dating success.
Someone who realizes that one rejection isn’t the end of the world? That’s somebody with confidence and self-assurance. He may be single now, but he won’t be single for very long

The guy who has the confidence to let rejection slide, to feel the sting but not let it destroy him? Who can take a rejection with grace? He’s the one who’s going to succeed in the long run. You may not get that particular woman… but other women will notice these things. They pay attention. And a guy who can avoid being creepy, who can show respect? Someone who’s fun and socially well-calibrated? That’s the kind of man women like.4

Goodluck winning the woman of your dreams!!!
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by henribj(m): 10:54pm On Oct 08, 2015
cool
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by LifeIsGuhd(f): 10:57pm On Oct 08, 2015
That's how a guy will just see a lady he has never seen before and starts calling her 'Baby' up and down angry

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Re: How To Approach Women And Win by henribj(m): 11:00pm On Oct 08, 2015
LifeIsGuhd:
That's how a guy will just see a lady he has never seen before and starts calling her 'Baby' up and down angry

a baby is a baby no matter what.
if a girl looks like a baby, you call her a baby. It matters not if you know her or not.
#justsaying
grin
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by LifeIsGuhd(f): 11:03pm On Oct 08, 2015
henribj:


a baby is a baby no matter what.
if a girl looks like a baby, you call her a baby. It matters not if you know her or not.
#justsaying
grin

There's a difference between a 'lady' and a 'girl'
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by UndespicableMe(m): 11:05pm On Oct 08, 2015
henribj:


a baby is a baby no matter what.
if a girl looks like a baby, you call her a baby. It matters not if you know her or not.
#justsaying
grin

Are we referring to someone here?
If... your escape route! Someladies don't want to be addressed like that bro, knowing the difference is what counts really.
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by Adasun(m): 11:05pm On Oct 08, 2015
:-( undecided
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by henribj(m): 11:08pm On Oct 08, 2015
LifeIsGuhd:


There's a difference between a 'lady' and a 'girl'

says who? they are all the same, its just language color coding things as usual
what a girl has a lady also has, right?
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by LifeIsGuhd(f): 11:09pm On Oct 08, 2015
henribj:


says who? they are all the same, its just language color coding things as usual
what a girl has a lady also has, right?

Seriously? I rest my case
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by UndespicableMe(m): 11:12pm On Oct 08, 2015
henribj:


says who? they are all the same, its just language color coding things as usual
what a girl has a lady also has, right?

I don't think so. What some ladies have, some girls don't have... vice versa.
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by shikshark: 11:14pm On Oct 08, 2015
nice topic with a very good caption......if it were some dude, they will still direct us to their mumu " la click la bend" site
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by henribj(m): 11:53pm On Oct 08, 2015
LifeIsGuhd:


Seriously? I rest my case

OK.
grin
Re: How To Approach Women And Win by henribj(m): 11:54pm On Oct 08, 2015
UndespicableMe:


I don't think so. What some ladies have, some girls don't have... vice versa.

Like?
and please don't tell me education or level of exposure or any of those such things

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