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Why You Should Not Care About What People Say About You by Nobody: 4:23pm On Oct 09, 2015 |
1. It’s Not Their Life, So It’s None Of
Their Business
People are entitled to think whatever they
want, just as you are entitled to think what
you want. What people think of you cannot
change who you are or what you are worth,
unless you allow them to.
This is your life to live. At the end of the day
you are the only person who needs to approve
of your own choices.
2. They Don’t Know What’s Best For
You
Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as
you. Only you know what is best for you, and
that entails learning from your own choices.
The only way you will ever truly learn is
through making your own decisions, taking
full responsibility for them, and that way if
you do fail, at least you can learn from it
wholeheartedly, as opposed to blaming
somebody else.
3. What’s Right For Someone Else
May Be Completely Wrong For You
It’s important to recognize that someone’s
opinion is often based on what they would do.
This alone is the problem. What is best for
somebody else, can be the worst thing for you.
What one person considers garbage can be
another person’s treasure. We are all so
unique. Only you know what is right for you.
4. It Will Keep You From Your Dreams
If you are constantly worried about what
other people think, you will never get to
where you need to go in life. You are going to
have to do things that don’t always meet
people’s standards. You will come into
situations where you have to put your pride,
and your reputation on the line to get what
you want. If you are constantly worried about
what people are thinking, you will never have
the will to do what’s right.
5. You’re The One Stuck With The End
Result
In life, you are the one stuck with the
consequences of your decisions. For example,
if someone suggests you buy some stocks, but
you just don’t feel like it’s the right choice,
you are the only one who will live the
consequences. If the stock falls and you lose a
lot of money, you are the one that will have to
live with the fact that you didn’t follow your
inner call. When people give you their
suggestions or even orders, there is no risk for
them. They don’t have to live with your
choices—but you do.
6. People’s Thoughts Change On A
Regular Basis
We are constantly changing. Some
philosophers and theorists suggest that we are
in a constant state of flux, so much that we
cannot even say we have one, specific ‘self’ (or
a fixed personality). People’s thoughts, ideas
and views change on a regular basis.
That means even if somebody does think
badly of you at the moment, there is a good
chance they will think differently in the near
future. So basically, people’s thoughts don’t
really matter.
7. Life Is Simply Too Short
You only have one life to live, so why would
you spend it worrying about other people’s
opinions? Do whatever you want, be whoever
you want. You’re not going to see these people
after you’re dead. You probably won’t even
see them in a year from now. Live your life
without worrying about other people’s
thoughts and opinion, and you will live your
life to the maximum.
8. You Reap What You Sow
Worrying too much about what other people
think of you can become a self-fulfilling
prophecy. Frequently, people indulge their
need to be liked so much so that it actually
dictates to the way they behave. Some become
people-pleasers or so submissive that many
people are turned off. The behavior you use as
an attempt to ensure you are liked may
actually cause you to be disliked.
9. Others Don’t Care As Much As You
Think
People generally don’t think outside
themselves a great deal of time. It is a sad but
simple truth that the average person filters
their world through their ego, meaning that
they think about most things in terms of “me”
or “my”.
This means that, unless who you are or what
you have done directly affects another person
or their life, they are unlikely to spend much
time thinking about you at all.
10. The Hard Truth: It’s Impossible To
Please Everybody
You can’t please all of the people all of the
time. It is impossible to live up to everyone’s
expectations so there is no point in burning
yourself out trying to do so. Just make sure
that one of the people you please is yourself! 1 Like |
Re: Why You Should Not Care About What People Say About You by tenderlaw(m): 4:23pm On Oct 09, 2015 |
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Re: Why You Should Not Care About What People Say About You by Rosemary216(f): 4:32pm On Oct 09, 2015 |
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