Divorce in marriage is the termination of marital vows by couples,a separation that finally leads to the end of the marriage.The coming together of a man and a woman in accordance with God's ordinance as husband and wife for the purpose of companionship and ultimately procreation is marriage.While marriage is viewed as sacred in God's sight,not very many couples have come to actually realise that;for some its just about putting up with a spouse,if the spouse happens to fail in a particular aspect of the marriage then "quit" is the word.



In Genesis 3:24 "Therefore shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife:and they shall be one flesh".God instituted marriage as a way of making two people one,if you read it very well,he said one flesh.Therefore,the man and the woman though from a different background,having different likes and dislikes are actuall one.The question therefore is can a person separate from his flesh while in his body alive?We all know that the answer is capital NO.But what when he decides at all cost he must separate from his flesh,death will actually be the result.



In Malachi 2:14-16,the Lord God said he hates "put away" in marriage,that is divorce.Though God hates divorce,most couples think otherwise; for flimsy excuses,they drag their spouse ti the court of law just to secure divorce.Some couples who have been married for years including those who are newly wed always make the news in marital saga;offcourse even men of God are not left out as the high and mighty find it hard to keep their marital vows and become role models to upcoming generations.



CAUSES OF DIVORCE

There are varrying reasons today why couples chose to end their marriages,below are just a few .








1. Adultery:This is one major reason most couples seek to divorce their partners.In marriage a man is expected to be satisfied with his wife and vice versa,not seek extramarital affair;this gives couples the impression of trust,faithfulness and lack of possible rivals.However,some partners,after marriage still find time to keep other men or women for the purpose of sex,this has therefore led many a partner to seek divorce and end the marriage.

2.Lack Of Submission By The Wives:The bible clearly states in Ephesians 5:22-24 and I quote"Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ the head of the church:and he is saviour of the body.Therefore as the church is subject unto christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything".

One of the reasons for divorce in marriage is the lack of submission of the women to their husbands.Most women even want to take the place of the husbands by trying to do what the man should necessrily do,strategically pushing the man into doing what they,women are supposed to do.A visit to most homes today,reveals that it is women now functioning as heads while their husbands submit to their authourity.

3.Money:In 1Timothy 5:8,the bible declares and I quote"But if any provide not for his own,and especially for those of his own house,he hath denied the faith,and is worse than an infidel".Considering the above scriptures,money is important in running a home as it answers all things but let us not hurriedly forget that a man's ability to provide for his family would be determined by his financial powers.
Most women not satisfied with the financial provisions from their husbands,finding another man who has promised all the good things of life are usually quick to file for divorce or even elope with another man.

4.Lack Of Attention:Most women who file for divorce,complain of lack of attention from the husbands,while this does nor also exclude the men,it is common among the women folks.
Sometimes the husbands get too busy,finish the days job,enters the house late,take their bath,supper,land on the bed;the routine continues the next day.

5.Lack Of Sexual Intercourse:In my undergraduate days,a woman shared a story of how one of her friends husband has refused to sleep with the wife for three months;there have also been cases of how certain women in the name of fasting(waiting on the Lord)have denied their husbands sex for about eight months.This has led many to suspect that their partners are having extra-marital affair and therefore file for divorce.
So many other reasons abound as the list is just inexhaustible.Meanwhile,let us quickly look at how best couples can avoid divorce despite being faced with reasons to leave their partners.


How To Avoid Divorce

1.Faithfulness:Couples should be faithful to each other,do all they can to avoid sex outside their marriage.

2.Forgiveness:A friend who also happen to be a neighbour was caught one morning having extra-marital affair by his wife.The wife had given birth and was away for sometime,when suddenly one morning she returned home to meet the unusual.Rather than raise an alarm,the woman quietly absolved it inorder to keep her marriage that is already blessed with two kids,forgave her husband.

3.Complimenting One Another:Due to economic hardship,most husbands find it difficult to meet with their financial obligations,thereby challenging the women to give a helping hand.Most educated women can pickup a job,if not,there are other trade,businesses to do just to compliment the efforts of their husbands.

4.Sexual Satisfaction:On no account should partners deny each other sex in marriage,it is unbiblical.The only time set aside for this is through mutual consent to give themselves to prayers but there must be mutual consent, 1 corinthians 7:2-5.

5.Submission:Wives should realise there are no small men,if you can marry him,then you can respect,adore him.Men have their place as heads and would never give it up even if he women are far richer than them.

6.Attention:Paying attention to each other's needs would make the partner elated,feel loved,secured that there is truly a home and marriage.If a partner works in another state,it is important he or she calls regularly,visit as often as possible,play with the kids and make the partner feel loved.


Biblical Ground For Divorce

The only biblical ground for divorce is adultery.Mattew 5:31-32

http://www.frankenabulele..com.ng/2015/09/how-to-avoid-divorce-in-marriage.html

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fav444:
I love this

Welcome on board!

Mshewwwwweee

Don't give the house girl belle.
That's all.

@brimicx:

If lack of submission can cause divorce, you don't think lack of love can cause divorce as well?

My own way is “being married to the right person“

Nice write up

bukatyne:
@brimicx:

If lack of submission can cause divorce, you don't think lack of love can cause divorce as well?

I heard you ma,missed out on that;thanks.

Nice thread, expecting a counter thread soon

unfortunately that is what is trending now

cococandy:
Don't give the house girl belle.
That's all.