I had a very interesting discussion with a female friend and she told me that she is in a dilemma on whether to marry a certain brother.. these are her reasons

1= He is ready to marry her although well behaved but she is not attracted to him physically and is not sure if she will ever see pass this... she said she will not be proud or comfortable showing him off as her partner

2= she only feels she likes him because he has the fear of God, has future prospects but she will rather keep him as her friend

She does not need him for any form of financial security but says she is confused and needs advise especially from married people, she does not want to go through any marital breakup

Open to all, please advise

So i made FP and had nothing to say on this thread Is it that am dumb or am trying to be dumb peeps help me am confused here


Anyway i dedicate this FTC to my homies
1) punkyveer,i know you are at work buh babe come home on time,you missed a lot of drama today

2)My real boo kossyablaze...tribalism will only carry its likes to d grave

3)halfrica,where ever you hide,i miss u on here

She is not going to marry "God fearing" she's going to marry a man, have kids with him and spend her life with him, physical attraction should be a major player in marriage.
If she's matured, she shouldn't be having problems with such issues

Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close



Y'all are allowed to read whatever meaning u want to this ^^

My sister I can confidently tell you that she is mature hence the reason for even considering him.. God fearing man no easy to come by o! if you agree with me. Thanks

faith551:
She is not going to marry "God fearing" she's going to marry a man, have kids with him and spend her life with him, physical attraction should be a major player in marriage.
If she's matured, she shouldn't be having problems with such issues

Do NOT marry someone you are not physically attracted to. How do you even contemplate marrying someone who doesn't excite you passionately?? Or do you imagine God will come down from heaven and instill the desire for hubby into you on your wedding night?

Smh...

LookmanTalk:
My sister I can confidently tell you that she is mature hence the reason for even considering him.. God fearing man no easy to come by o! if you agree with me. Thanks

Uncle I no be sister, I be brother. One thing that confines us to where we are is because we always believe that something better is not out there, looks can be deceiving, I wonder what it will look like living with a God fearing lady I dnt have any attraction whatsoever for 10years

bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but yours is just terrible. If the man is question was your brother, would you give this advice? Or better still, how about a guy keeps you close.. You know, just keep you close but not necessarily date you o, just keep you close. Yeah, very good idea, if I say so myself.

You will have just kept your comment to yourself

Demigods:
Rubbish

lol

kay9:


Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but yours is just terrible. If the man is question was your brother, would you give this advice? Or better still, how about a guy keeps you close.. You know, just keep you close but not necessarily date you o, just keep you close. Yeah, very good idea, if I say so myself.

I apologise

faith551:



Uncle I no be sister, I be brother. One thing that confines us to where we are is because we always believe that something better is not out there, looks can be deceiving, I wonder what it will look like living with a God fearing lady I dnt have any attraction whatsoever for 10years

kay9:


Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but yours is just terrible. If the man is question was your brother, would you give this advice? Or better still, how about a guy keeps you close.. You know, just keep you close but not necessarily date you o, just keep you close. Yeah, very good idea, if I say so myself.

Well....................ur business

bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close

she shd keep him close as a frnd and b wasting d man's tym abi? Rather dan waste d guy's tym, why not tell him dt u dnt fancy him romatically so dt he cud go else where. Abeg if u nor wan marry d man giv me him numba mk i connect am with some church sistas wen i knw dey look for husband.

bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close

she shd keep him close as a frnd and b wasting d man's tym abi? Rather dan waste d guy's tym, why not tell him dt u dnt fancy him romatically so dt he cud go else where. Abeg if u nor wan marry d man giv me him numba mk i connect am with some church sistas wen i knw dey look for husband.

jabojafa:
she shd keep him close as a frnd and b wasting d man's tym abi? Rather dan waste d guy's tym, why not tell him dt u dnt fancy him romatically so dt he cud go else where. Abeg if u nor wan marry d man giv me him numba mk i connect am with some church sistas wen i knw dey look for husband.

And if he doesn't wanna see the red light nko

Even if you tell him point blank that you're not feeling him

Aitee1:


And if he doesn't wanna see the red light nko

Even if you tell him point blank that you're not feeling him

dt one na low sef esteem dey worry am or mayb d witches for him villa stil dey wry am

jabojafa:
dt one na low sef esteem dey worry am or mayb d witches for him villa stil dey wry am

Na Ika him from oh

Bros. Tell her not to marry a man she wouldn't want her son to look like. Its stupid.

There are guys with all she craves for and more. She shouldn't settle for anything less out of fear of the unknown!

Aitee1:


Na Ika him from oh

na lie joor na Obot Akara. Na Vincent E. From Ika

My dear sister,by the time you are 32 and still single,then, u can come back and tell us how u feel.until then, continue in your ignorance/foolishness.

bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close

Keep him as a spare, right? Say no to Friendzone

LookmanTalk:
My sister I can confidently tell you that she is mature hence the reason for even considering him.. God fearing man no easy to come by o! if you agree with me. Thanks

why do people in this country especially on this forum through the word "mature" around loosely?

Maturity doesn't come with age. Just because shes in her late 20s/early 30s doesn't mean shes matured. She has a baby brain. SHE IS IN NO WAY MATURED BASED ON WHAT YOU'VE JUST TOLD US.

Why did she choose to marry/date him at first if she wasn't physically attracted to him? if she cant brand him off as her partner why did she choose to go into a relationship with him in the first place, eh?

Please stop calling every old person "mature". Those words are not relatable i.e Old =/= Mature.

If she's having second thoughts, my advice to her would be to just call it off. Its better to be safe than sorry so she wont live the rest of her life being miserable.

Never marry a man out of pity.
If you marry a man coz of only one likeable quality, that thing will fade off eventually.

my take.
Nairalanders, show a brother some love on his birthday by liking this post for no reason abeg.

bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close

Friend-Zoning!

dis girl think say Good husband boku OK now de find attraction attraction wen go cheat on you or attraction broke like us e be like say girls Just like to suffer

1st up y is she nt attracted to him if he has certain qualities that she likes?

Then there are bigger deals and things than attraction to hv a fullfuiled marriage. I don't Knw wot makes her nt attracted to him if it's his looks dat can be worked on just look at basket mouth, bovi and these comedians lol.

Nobody is perfect bt if he has 80% of wot u want in a hubby not bf oh then ure fine. E.g is he focused, driven, supportive, caring, enthusiastic, God fearing, faithful etc. I believe attraction can come smhow for ladies unless they r promiscuous.

bronzegoddess:
Quite a number of us ladies are in this situation. That guy comes along, is caring, God fearing, hard-working and all, but we don't get that romantic vibe with the person. I'll say keep him close, not necessarily date him, just keep him close

what a senseless comment




Keep him close and waste his time yet you ladies cry to hell when a guy 'keeps you close'



You bloody hypocrite

xtervaganza:
what a senseless comment




Keep him close and waste his time yet you ladies cry to hell when a guy 'keeps you close'



You bloody hypocrite

your bladdy business my friend

PunterTim:
Friend-Zoning!

Its called "having a good friend". We all need good friends