I need you guys to help me make a decision about my marriage.

This is my story…

I am married to a woman I had known for about 20 years. A year after we met (almost 20 years ago) she got admission in a Southern State Polytechnic in Nigeria and I later found out that she is seeing another guy, I cried because I was crazily in love with her. A lot had happened in the relationship both ups and downs and I still love her but I let her know that her affair with that guy had caused some damages in the love I have for her and that I am not comfortable of her still talking to that guy.
They have lost contact, we are now in the US and the guy in UK, but I found out very recently that my wife had found a way to locate this guy and they have now re-established contact.
The irony thing there is that this was revealed to me 3 days into a 7 Days Deliverance Prayer and Fasting session I had put together for myself, so I am confused.
I need help, please advise me of what to do (I am thinking of a divorce).

Thanks
Bebenlo007

i kant believe dis
im i really d 1st guy 2 comment on dis,

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Okay and so what if they have re-established contact ? Does it mean that they are doing something, !

Trust is critical here mister,

Her body is with you but her mind is not. its crystal clear you are now an expired partner. theres no point keeping someone who needs someone else. I think you should put asunder.

Well! considering the fact that they had something together prior to this time, I guess you both need to do some talking.

20 years is a looong time,

think you should sit down and talk with her, be upfront and real, ask her direct. Ask her what she wants, if shes happy? etc

Basically to be frank, you got alot of talking to do, you been with her for soo long, you should pretty much know her better than most, so your instincts shall respond to her own answers and responses and take it from there. Also continue to fast and pray!

~ Seek advice from the prayer warriors that made the revelation ~

@ Poster

I feel your pain, i have been there before though not in marriage level but in rela/ship just recently. I think u have given her the impression that u can't do without her, u are ready to do nothing thing to please her, u stomach all sorts just to make things work, she is taking advange of this, if children are involved in this marriage then u need to consider that first befor taking any decision.

Have a serious chat with her, probably with your family as well if nothing changes, let her go and move on with your life, let her go and meet the UK guy, i bet u, it will end in tears.
Its not going to be an easy decision for u but living with a woman like that is a nightmare.

No marriage without trust

@Secretz 20 years is a looong time,

think you should sit down and talk with her, be upfront and real, ask her direct. Ask her what she wants, if shes happy? etc

Basically to be frank, you got alot of talking to do, you been with her for soo long, you should pretty much know her better than most, so your instincts shall respond to her own answers and responses and take it from there. Also continue to fast and pray!
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@poster women wont tell you anything than you should sit her down and talk with her , and you can imagine what Secretz wrote that you should continue to fast and pray , Over who a woman you approached and asked to be your g/f and later your Wife BullShit , She is not worth it man there is no need talking when you found out she had an Affair in School you should have let her go on with her Life , you are too soft and she is taking advantage of you and she obviously does not love you .

I'm sorry but i advice a Divorce leave her and let her go and meet the guy in Uk , she does not deserve a guy like you , i know it wount be easy but bro there are more hotter and beautiful girls in America so what are you waiting for , best of Luck bro

Thanks guys, I really appreciate all your contributions.

em you got the info at a deliverance prayer meeting?

Well finding out this "fact" out in a prayer meeting does not hold enough water to do away with her. Yes she broke the between the two of you, yes. But now its time to talk and reconcile. Ask her whats really good between you (20 years is no joke.) all, ask her straight out if she wants out, and what two need to do in this that marriage. But keeping things like this bottled up inside of you will explode in the ugliest way. So please talk to her, find out what she wants, find out what you want, then make a decision based on that.

@honeyboy09

YOU! Are not serious! Firstly if you want to use my quote, abeg, use the 'insert quote' option,

And, 20 years is a bloody long time my dear brother, hence the suggestion for him to sit down an talk to his wife! You think if they had been together for a short while I would suggest he make an effort?? abeg! commot! 20 years is a long investment and I would not be walking out that easily,

Forget about how he found out! The fact that he's suspicious is enough,

@ poster, just talk to her, or if you like, say nothing and torment your mental and emotional state. As my grandpa always says, IT'S YOUR LIFE!

I wonder why any man will be attracted to a 20 years long married woman.When young fishes exists in abundance.
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well this is kinda a diff call for u,
if u ask her to stop talking to her friend it wud seem as if u are asking her to stop having friends.

handle this with care, although i dont like the way it was revealed to you.

hollandis:

I wonder why any man will be attracted to a 20 years long married woman.When young fishes exists in abundance.
ewwwww

yh. but wen, in this life, did men start knowing wat dey want.

lady bam:

yh. but wen, in this life, did men start knowing wat dey want.

lol, you deserve handshake my sister! (although there are some that do).

i know the older a woman gets the more appreciative she becomes,even 4 a quikie [color=#000099][/color]

wen a woman is fed up, there is nothing u can do about it- R. kelly.

@tpa

Lol!

After the revelation,how did you confirm that to be correct? I just don't understand some men.

Do u have any kids?