Lengthy but worth reading!!!

hmmm! Most ladies are in great confusion in Chosing between a Man they love but isnt Ready for Marriage as still on d pursuit of life's comfort, & a Man who they dont love but loves & is ready to marry them if accepted..

But lets come to Reality here.. Do you know that as a Lady (Unmarried); whether u're in a Relationship, you're still Unmarried &still open to opportunities present before you as Suitors would come around?..
Yes! But There are two ways on this for a Woman (Unmarried)..

1) Either Wait for ur Man if u have One who's waiting for u as well. Who's promising; true, absolute, guaranteed, a lover, Caring, understanding, contented, Communicative, Honest! &most of all, Morally discipline& Monogamous in Nature..

2) Marry d Available Suitor, because of his Interest!, Readiness!, Comfort!, Care! &Love, .. This is d type u dont love soon, as it would take u a Whole lot to Love, Learn, Live with &Know him.. He may Love &care for u, but if ur heart isnt with him, U will suffer right under his Love &Comfort..

In d days of our Fathers &also d bible Age; where a Woman just gets Married to a Man who she becomes Submissive to, learns to Love, live with &know.. It takes such women certain Periods to love such Man.. Though he might have all d wealth to KEEP/CARE for a Wife, but are both hearts beating together?..
Thats why i consistently ask this question, with reference from both d bible &real life,;

WHICH IS ACCEPTED TO U WOMEN,,
LEARNING TO LOVE A MAN IN MARRIAGE OR LOVE HIM BEFORE MARRIAGE!??.

Biblically, Its Love In Marriage!.. Take out time &read d Women Characters in d bible &see how they were married..And also most of our Parents!, They got into marriages with Learning to love &Accept their Husbands..

But Today; inorder for a Woman's Safety, which's marrying a Man she KNOWS!, Then she must Love him before marriage..
To me, its all a Choice, U either wait for d One u love!, which's risky though!, that's if he finally marries u &changes/ disappoints later.
Or he disappoints U of not finally marrying u. As u take a while to heal up &wait to fall inlove with another..

OR

U get married to a Man who wants to marry u now &learn to love him in Marriage. Which's also risky as most Women who married Men they never knew really &only started knowing him in marriage; ends up regretting for d rest of their lives because he's either a Hitter, Unrepentable Drunk, Cheat, Egocentric, &so on..
So Its all a Risk!, but in all, Pray for God's Guidance &also Observations to be applied through wisdom, by Studying Men!.. For d bible says, "Every Man can love a Woman, but its a Woman Who Choses who she'd marry!"..
So which do u think u can go with?.. Waiting for d Man u love Or Marry d one who loves u &is ready?..

Nice one op












Even though I didn't read it

Marry the man who loves u and is ready ooo

Either

DuchessLily:
Marry the man who loves u and is ready ooo

Don't tell me you're one of those who don't marry for love?

emperorchedda:
Don't tell me you're one of those who don't marry for love?

I marry for love, but my husband must love me more .

a woman's love grows once she is married to the man, but not a man's own, If a man does not love a woman from the beginning, he will never grow to love her.

Even a man who professes d greatest love to a woman and loves the woman more, will still cheat/break her heart, not to talk of the case where the woman loves the man more.....hmmm... That one na 'suicide of the heart' oo

@dutchess did ur love grow overtime?

I will marry who loves me more
I pray i have the grace to love him more too

I look at compactibily first b4 love. (Serious) Love may come after the marriage.


The ques now is.. Who is considered compactible nd whats the criteria?