euromilion:


Am sorry but,I had no pity on you,at 25 you allowed yrself in such a mess.

MissAssy:

My dear, she was made ezinne in church and one of her daughters is a rvd sister

inze:


. . . word



. . . everyone screaming see a counselor, the above poster went further to complicate issues by adding 'professional' to counselor (A counselor is a professional that gives counsel) and for the record, this is Nigeria and the eastern part of the country at that. 'for where you wan see counselor'

babestell:
Today I went to church and prayed that I would not turn out to be someone who maltreated other people children. This thread really moved me,

I know the common denominator here is the wife but the truth is that a lot of men know what is going on in the house and they just choose to keep quiet. Sometimes keeping quiet is easier than standing up for what is right. Most of those posting on nl are the lucky ones, a lot of destinies have been destroyed and people have turned out useless simply because of wickedness from relatives and guardians. God help us all.

babestell:
Today I went to church and prayed that I would not turn out to be someone who maltreated other people children. This thread really moved me,

I know the common denominator here is the wife but the truth is that a lot of men know what is going on in the house and they just choose to keep quiet. Sometimes keeping quiet is easier than standing up for what is right. Most of those posting on nl are the lucky ones, a lot of destinies have been destroyed and people have turned out useless simply because of wickedness from relatives and guardians. God help us all.

isacolukay:
Forgive wetin! God will not forgive you for forgiving them. By the way, MissAssy, u b fine gal!

bummyla:



Pray You Don't Find Yourself In A Situation Where It Seems All Hopes Are Lost! Where It Seems Heaven Is Shut Against You! But Thank GOD Something Beautiful Came Out Of It! I Became BORN AGAIN! http://www.bummyla.com

bummyla:



I Am Not Soliciting For Anyone's sympathy; Just Pray You Don't Get Yourself Into Some Hopeless Situations In Life! It Is Either You Wait Out The Storm Or You Do Something Crazy And Jeopardize Your Destiny! I Chose The Former! http://www.bummyla.com

When Oceanic Bank Was Still Existing, We Were Handling Some Contracts For One Of Their Top Managers. I know A Top Officer Who Ought To Be Around 42 Years Old, Who Cries Everyday Single Day I Get There, Because Of Threats And Verbal Abuse! This Man Is A Departmental Head! So It Could Happens At Any Age And Level! Pray You Don't Find Yourself In That Mess! http://www.bummyla.com

stanvesco:

d men don talk tire,
I pray 4 a God fearing,people loving,
sensible wife,
i pray 4 u luwiluwi,
kai,
i fit kill my wife with hand if she turns out to be a bad woman

bummyla:



I Am Not Soliciting For Anyone's sympathy; Just Pray You Don't Get Yourself Into Some Hopeless Situations In Life! It Is Either You Wait Out The Storm Or You Do Something Crazy And Jeopardize Your Destiny! I Chose The Former! http://www.bummyla.com

When Oceanic Bank Was Still Existing, We Were Handling Some Contracts For One Of Their Top Managers. I know A Top Officer Who Ought To Be Around 42 Years Old, Who Cries Everyday Single Day I Get There, Because Of Threats And Verbal Abuse! This Man Is A Departmental Head! So It Could Happens At Any Age And Level! Pray You Don't Find Yourself In That Mess! http://www.bummyla.com

naijaboiy:

Meehn you fuçked up
Where is the THUMBS DOWN smiley when I need one. Seun take note.

Flye:

Honestly I'm really mad at u for allowing her to maltreat ur sister even though u know b4 hand.

bammo:

Sorry about that. But u fvck up And i'm dissapointed.. Why did you send your sister to her despite knowing her character

paranorman:
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silverr:





Nawa o! No chop me nau
Accepted, it was a wrong of me to keep mute after everything but I was quite young then. Its not like I dont regret not talking now.
She mistreated me, but I never thought she'll go that far with my sis. She always favoured my sis over me.

Finally, I shared my experienced as a lesson to anyone out there who is suffering and smiling as I want you to know its not righteousness but foolishness. I didnt go back the traumatic memory lane to be judged or to let everyone see how much of a cane I deserve.

MrBLING:


Look here Mr, I will quote you till thy kingdom come as long as you keep spilling your vile filled insensitive vomit on this thread created by such a courageous kind hearted lady.

You surely have relatives as no one fell from the sky.

For being so hateful God will make you suffer so that you will become reliant on those your perceived none existent relatives and like I said may they reign a thousand misery more than OP on you.

Say a big AMEN!!!

If I call you sewer rat, then it's an insult on sewer rats themselves

neocortex:
What a touching story.
I always wonder why people treat others children(even family) so bad.
It seems their is some sort of sadistic fulfilments they gain from it.
That is why one shouldn't trust a child to live with anybody even if they
are relatives.
All I can say is congrats on scaling through MissAssy.
And by forgiving them you become free yourself.

franklingud:
Read this post last nyt but couldn't comment, hope it's not late now.
MissAssy, well I ain't got much to say but "Forgiveness is Divine".

queenfav:
@op at least your's happened when you were 11.Mine happened from april-july 2014.I had a problem with my law school posting for court and chambers attachment.Instead of my house local govt area in ughelli south,I was posted to Effurun.My mum had to arrange for me to stay with a family friend who was living around refinery,very close to Effurun high court.Now this couple is well travelled,both are lawyers and have been friends with my family since I was a kid.They owned the duplex they lived in, with a maid and gateman.They are very well to do.The first 2 weeks were very ok.since they had a maid,I cudnt really sweep the house because she does that.So I made sure I washed dishes anytime I saw any in the sink.I normally leave the house by 8,return 4 or 5 depending on when my court closed.I wasn't even eating breakfast in the house o,just dinner.
Everything started when she started complaining that I don't work in the house."I thought to myself, like..seriously?I had bar finals I was reading for.Was she expecting me to do eye service?"I wash dishes I meet in the kitchen without being told.Even when the househelp insists I leave it ,I still do it.She even went as far as gossiping me to her friends o.On many occasions,she would wake me by 3am on sunday.She would then pile the clothes of she,her husband and her four 4 kids for me to iron.At times after ironing for like an hour she would bring another set,that she prefers that one to the ones I have ironed.
I was so depressed at a point I couldn't read.I had to caution myself to bear.The househelp at a point stopped greeting me,because she felt we were now mates.lol.Many nights in a week,the husband would buy suya or barbecue,she wouldn't even ask if I want to eat.I would come back from court and find the fridge locked.As if the drinks they noemally keep there was my problem.she would even go as far as counting the coke inside the crate kept in the kitchen store.it got to a stage she started telling the househelp to lock her store when ever I get home.All that was to safeguard her provisions.I called my mum to tell her,she cried eh!She asked me to come back home,that even though my house was like an hour plus to the court,she would ensure I leave the house on time.I packed my things then told her I was leaving.The husband was home that night,he was shocked I even considered going.The poor man no know say e wife na countess dracula.He begged me to forget about anything that happened and stay.That one even worsened things,I will greet her at times she won't answer.On saturdays,she would instruct the househelp to tell me to sweep both upstairs and downstairs of the duplex.I was always sad..The day I was leaving to go back to school for our bar finals,my friend came to pick me up with his car back to my house.Na so the lady call me o,that I should go and mop the guest room I lived in before leaving.A room I always kept clean,and moped the tiles every friday afternoon?I almost cried!I had to come down from the car,then gave the househelp 500 to do it.My friend was so pissed.He was asking how I managed to cope for 4 months.I just told him I knew it wasn't forever.Recently she called my mum saying I don't keep in touch,I just laughed!Thank God for the bad experience o,because it spurred me to read with zeal.At least I passed my exams with honours to her shame.That's why I have vowed never to squat with any friend or relative.If I even get a job in abuja where housing is expensive,I'd rather share a room with someone ,than stay rent free in a mansion and take sh.it.Many people just become demi-gods once you are eating their food an living under their roof.Forgetting that no condition is permanent!I would not advice my enemy to squat with anyone o.Because thats when you get to see the person's true nature.

aameyah:


This is just an example of how most Nigerians are inherently abusive. Especially when in 'authority' over them. What makes you think you own your wife's life that you would kill her? Why would you even think of killing someone?

aameyah:


I pray so too but my brother, all hope can never be lost!! That is the vendetta the world wants you and I to believe. But is all hope ever lost?
You were feeding and clothing before going to her, weren't you? You had your certi intact, you could have taught in a school.
Forgive me but it seems you were carried away by the lofty dreams she promised you. And like the manipulator that she was, she kept dangling it before you to keep you in line.

I had an uncle who was being treated unfairly by relatives in Lagos when he went job searching. One of the places was his own sister. She would insult him and denigrate him, though she is a nice person, maybe she had issues then.

Omo, he ran back to my mum one day when the lady went to work. She came back and didn't find him, she had to ask her neighbors for his whereabouts.

Maybe he knew he had a welcoming family to run back to. Which is why everybody might not take that type of decision if their own is otherwise...

For me it's not like I'm judging you. But please as much as possible try to stay away from those who'd rather you believe all is lost. That is how they keep you in their chains. Take care....

euromilion:


My brother,
Am sorry if I offended you,it was not my intention to hurt anyone,but just to let you know that if we all tell our stories, I bet you that what I went thru was worst than this young lady,however,I think at 25 no one should blame anyone for their calamity,I mean no one.

Life has taught me to be the master of my destiny,at age 14 I was living on my own without any help from mom or dad nor anyone.am not telling u to believe me,but I thank time,because time changes everything.

By age 18 I was a millionaire already throu hard work,I was never involved in crime in my life.hard work pays,I was shocked to see a graduate reduced to yr post.

Once again,my apologies if I was offensive to you.


just to put this across faith without work is futile.prayer is good,but hard work is better.

aameyah:


Thank God you mentioned a bank. It is a scene I am all too familiar with. Most bankers are too comfortable with the fat salary and the trips abroad. They would rather weep everyday but they are comforted when they remember their salary. It becomes a vicious cycle till they are sacked and then they have to face the reality they've been running from.

During morning meetings, the supervisors don't fail to remind you that there is no job out there. But I ask, don't people get jobs everyday?

Its well sha. May God help us all....

softandmoist:
Sometimes I don't care to share this story, but I feel doing so will lessen the pain I feel with time. When I lost my dad my mom's younger sis told my mom that she wants to help me further my education. I was just out of secondary and had my baby.

I can't put down all that she did to me and the innocent baby boy.
Tell me to go to a neighbor's kiosk and collect tgings on credit, then lie to them that I misplaced the money and I will pay back. I did this so much the woman wanted to arrest me. When I asked her she told me that until I am covered by the earth like my father I should never ask her again.
She would insult my dad who wasn't even 2 weeks in the grave, call me a witch because soldier aunys entered the house.
She said I would never prosper, that no man would marry me, that my father ruined my mom's life and that how I'll end up. I can't forget, ever, even though I've forgiven her.
She'll beat me, force me to eat rubbish, as old as I was one day she just called my name and I peed on my body. It was that bad. I was like a mumu. Her baby that is just learning to talk will say I beat her, and she would beat me in return. She will tell me to feed her baby before my 9 month old baby. She said no one would imagine my son eating noodles in his life. Only pap, no milk. A growing baby.
Ah!
One day my sis came and saw me and wrote to my mom that if she doesn't come and take me away from there that she'll run away with me and she'll never find us again. That ended the episode. I forgave her.
When I was prepping for my wedding she started acting all friendly, said she knows someone who can make exotic aso oke outfits. We sent the money in August for a wedding that was to take place in December. Do you know as at Nov 30 not a single thread had been woven. I had to rush to agege to get emergency one made. She collected 70k for our 35k traditional wedding cake, told me it was 100k and she was paying for the balance.

I didn't do anything to this woman. I didn't ask to be related to her. The worst pain in my life comes from living with her. She would tell me to wash pad and reuse for menses, make me trek from Asa dam to post office.

I thank God for Me too. I have really disappointed her.

shut:


awwww that's horrible.so stuffs likethis still happen in this modern day?
thank God you survived.
Nigeria tho,no social security,no working insurance schemes,no nothing...lemme not go further

Owliver:
most of the time the men dont know whats going on or dey wont know how serious it is trust me