Ubyj:
Personally, I feel dis cheating stuff is over-rated. And if u ain't married sha, nobody owes u an allegiance of faithfulness. So, deal with it.

Well, dat being said, I bliv sex, to men, is a need! D earlier we ladies understand dis, d berra. Don't get too carried away by other activities n fail to provide ur man's need; at least, most times. U myt not feel like it, but u knw.. . Responsible men won't go 'doing' outside if u give it to dem like it's hot. N another thing, be in good shape.

raayah:
Hi Romancelanders,

Can we talk about this cheating thing on the front-page?
Various men and women of adult age have come together to agree that Men will always cheat in a relationship. They said men cannot control their urges (wtf).
What is the benefit of marriage for the average nigerian woman, who is a stay-at-home mom, with a cheating and abusive husband?

Please someone should comment and tell me that these people were trolling.

Women of nairaland, are your partners currently cheating?
If yes, do you just accept it as normal?

Some reasons why men cheat

1.He has unreasonable expectations. He believes that his spouse should meet his every sexual and emotional need, 24/7, without fail. In his narcissistic and self-focused way, he doesn’t understand that his spouse may be juggling multiple priorities (kids, work, home, finances) in addition to him and the relationship. When this spouse inevitably fails him (in his view), he feels entitled to seek intimate attention elsewhere.

2.He’s a liar. He never intended to be monogamous, despite his commitment. He doesn’t understand that his vow of fidelity is a sacrifice made to and for his relationship and the person he professes to love. This man views monogamy as something to be worked around rather than embraced.

3.He is insecure. Deep down, he feels that he is too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too stupid, or too whatever to be desirable. He uses flirtation, porn, and extramarital sex as a way to feel better about himself, to reassure himself that he is still desirable, worthwhile, and “good enough.”

4.He wants out. He is looking to end his current relationship and is using external sexual and romantic activities to give his wife or girlfriend “the message” without having to be direct. Or, if he is a man who doesn’t like being alone, period, then finding a new and “better” person before leaving a current relationship provides a safer and softer landing.

muphasar11:



Your vast

gamaliel121:


Women cheat more....that's y I don't like them

muphasar11:


That's not fair

honeygirl17:

what is not fair?

jworos:
Ehmmmm... Everyone likes egusi soup, i mean everyone, das y if u go to most buka it's d main dish, we may eat other dish but egusi still sure die,now relate that to a relationship, if your man loves you, you're his Egusi soup,even if he takes oda kinds of soup, he's always gonna come back for more Egusi.

solomonsojay:


Lol..lies, I hate egusi soup with somewhat passion I can't stand to eat it 2days in a roll not to mention 2ice a day, my wife still feels perplexed how one could not like egusi soup or pounded yam that much...on the other hand, Efo riro (pure green leaf vegetable soup) with diced meat,kponmo n pkanla...I couldn't get my eyes away from.

though I Can't cheat on my wife ( for moral sake, integrity sake & I don't see need as am well taken care off at Home) but I still look at other chick ass n be like" eh kpekus!" but dats where it ends...I go home vies my wife n am like...this ass is better n mine...
simply put, men are attracted by what we see but we should be more matured in dealing with our fantasies! marry or date a lady DAT drive u crazy asexually n will do good toake or mind to be ruggedly committed to it spouse.

naijaboiy:
By the way can you please post a link of the thread here.

@raayah.

naijaboiy:
By the way can you please post a link of the thread here.

@raayah.

naijaboiy:
I think it's high time we guys stop deceiving ourselves.

Majority of guys cheat and i'm not even excluding myself.

Sorry for that Op but that's just the way it is.

I dont cheat. Never cheated before in my life

vizkiz:


I dont cheat. Never cheated before in my life

I believe you

raayah:
Hi Romancelanders,

Can we talk about this cheating thing on the front-page?
Various men and women of adult age have come together to agree that Men will always cheat in a relationship. They said men cannot control their urges (wtf).
What is the benefit of marriage for the average nigerian woman, who is a stay-at-home mom, with a cheating and abusive husband?

Please someone should comment and tell me that these people were trolling.

Women of nairaland, are your partners currently cheating?
If yes, do you just accept it as normal?

Some reasons why men cheat

1.He has unreasonable expectations. He believes that his spouse should meet his every sexual and emotional need, 24/7, without fail. In his narcissistic and self-focused way, he doesn’t understand that his spouse may be juggling multiple priorities (kids, work, home, finances) in addition to him and the relationship. When this spouse inevitably fails him (in his view), he feels entitled to seek intimate attention elsewhere.

2.He’s a liar. He never intended to be monogamous, despite his commitment. He doesn’t understand that his vow of fidelity is a sacrifice made to and for his relationship and the person he professes to love. This man views monogamy as something to be worked around rather than embraced.

3.He is insecure. Deep down, he feels that he is too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too stupid, or too whatever to be desirable. He uses flirtation, porn, and extramarital sex as a way to feel better about himself, to reassure himself that he is still desirable, worthwhile, and “good enough.”

4.He wants out. He is looking to end his current relationship and is using external sexual and romantic activities to give his wife or girlfriend “the message” without having to be direct. Or, if he is a man who doesn’t like being alone, period, then finding a new and “better” person before leaving a current relationship provides a safer and softer landing.