baby4u2:

I actually overread this story to find the problem. So what will happen if they find out Jide slept with the both of you. You better tell your husband before he is told. Also, why are you worried? or as Tunde was toasting you he didnt know that you were having something with Jide? All this hide and seek is what is trying to mess you up. Anyway still cant see the real issue here. Maybe only you understands your problem.

Rule 1: says Don't sleep with so called boyfriends - Well you did so that's already out of the window

Rule 2: says Make sure you tell your boyfriend or fiancee everything about your past and ensure that there is no secret so that you would know if he loves you for you otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life keeping secrets.


Hence just as advised by someone earlier:

1. You don't really have anything to worry about apart from Shame of a guy doing you and your friend.
2. Tell your husband to be.
3. If your husband to be is not bothered then you yourself should not be bothered.

Check out this senerio, having a small get together and someone invited the jide guy and the both ladies are there, they will never feel comfortable

u not even bothered he might have infected you both with the same disease.
well ur friend was the wicked one, not ur fault.
if u was not told then u have no reason to hide it.

but thats y we tell u young girls not to be in a hurry to sleep with just anyone.

As long as you didn't sleep with Jide while with your fiance, what is the problem?

debosky:

Are you people ok?  

Do you know how many people your exes have slept with?   Can you control what happens before you go into a relationship with a person?  

Ok let me paint you a scenario - what if Jide didn't sleep with dammy till AFTER you broke up with him? What difference will it make?  

As long as you didn't sleep with Jide while with your fiance, what is the problem?  

The same man slept with their wives, so what? People need to get their heads straight and worry about real problems. The two guys must be very stupid if they are bothered by this. Some guy shagged your wife before you married her - haven't you shagged other women that have become the wives of other men?  

As long as you and dammy didn't claim virginity before marrying them, they should live with it - whatever happened prior to your introduction/marriage should remain there - in the PAST.

Men and their insecurities, and the women who encourage such nonsense.  

peyton:

@DEBOSKY

i neva did that , i called off the relationship EVEN before i staarted a relationship with tunde, he is so caring

spikedcylinder:

Unfortunately Debo, not every man has this kind of live and let live mentality and I can understand the OP's fears. Thats why a lot of women lie about their "number" to people they think might be serious with them.

This is where honesty comes in. If/when neccessary, had the OP told her husband to be that "There's this Jide dude I used to date, nothing fancy" then he wouldn't be as shocked when he finds out that the said Jide is a known Jide. I mean, as opposed to blanking out the Jide fiasco all together.

debosky:

@ spikey

Didn't Tunde know she was going out with Jide when they met at Dammy's introduction?

spikedcylinder:

I don't know o but I got the impression Tunde didn't know. Maybe she needs to answer this by herself.

quote]Quote from: debosky on Today at 12:52:53 PM
@ spikey

Didn't Tunde know she was going out with Jide when they met at Dammy's introduction?


I don't know o but I got the impression Tunde didn't know. Maybe she needs to answer this by herself.

peyton:

Tunde deosn't, i met tunde at dammys introduction but then i was already thinking of leaving jide becos i got to know that i was not the only one he was dating, it was when i called it off  and  he learnt i was dating dammy brother in law, that was when  he decided to tell me that he has dated dammy.

peyton:

I AM JUST FEELING GUILTY FOR WHAT HAPPENED

surface:

@ original poster,is jide married now or still single becos it seems d guy is a fine boy,if not how come he digged u and ur friend,pls i have interest too.

so it was dammy dat forced ur legs opened when d guy was digging u?

DAMMY?
What did dammy do?
what are your fears really? is it that you slept with a guy who slept with a friend or that you slept with your boyfriend before you met your fiancee becaus e me i dont understand it oh!
abeg this poster just wanted to post story and there was no story so she started making a mountain out of a mole hill