I am who you can call a new bride, got married like two months ago but deep down in me presently am sad!!!!
Wat we share could be called super love tthough we were far apart while dating but we talk on fone regularly we were so close i love him dearly with the whole of my heart he is my first and only man.
Days to our wedding i was just going thru his fone and alas i saw all the romantic text he has been exchanging with a particular gurl in his office, to the point that he compared our sex lives with wat she shares with the gurl!!!
I cried myself out but still went on with the wedding doh,he treats me like a queen and takes me with him showing me to all and sundry but they still talk on fone and its getting me really mad.
Now dont start calling names or mumu,i love him so much and i think he does me too.
How do i talk about this with him that i wont be crucified for checking his fone?

he who goes looking for trouble, will find it, you should not have been checking his fone.

Now that you have, take heart , confront him and clear the air . If you truly love him you guys will work things out . After finding out the whole story , try and have a fresh start in your relationship and put all sins in the past.

on the other hand the other option is to leave him ,

what works for you?

Why would he crucify you when you have firsthand proof that he was/is cheating on you Is he a violent guy?

Is the affair still going on?

pray over it and maintain a calm heart. no relationship is perfect.

sincerely this whole thing is getting me worked,my mood changes anytime it cross my mind.
@bigbumpa
No he has neva hit me,not even raised a finger against me before.
And did i do soo bad by checking his fone?

why dont you talk to him about it calmly and see the outcome of the result

yeah dats true, u two try av a heart-heart talk it could help u know.
I feel your pain sis, pele

i didn't understand the post

Pray and talk to him about it.

Wats so difficult abt ur situation?

Just sit him down and talk 2 him about it Simple!

Communication is  very essential in any relationship.
Wats d essence of d relationship if i cannot communicate wit my patner abt issues like dis?

thanks all, but yours truly anytime i try talking about it i usually become tongue  tied!!!
But as for prayer,it has been forefront in my requests

kofosexy:

thanks all, but yours truly anytime i try talking about it i usually become tongue  tied!!!
But as for prayer,it has been forefront in my requests

Tongue-tied?? to speak to ur husband
So u'd rather continue to suffer in silence?

Where is that thread about the woman that caught AIDS from her husband. Your new husband does not respect you. Stop having sex with him and you guys should go for counseling if you plan on staying in the marriage. Who carries on an affair a few days to his wedding? He is either mad or he does not give a hoot? How do you even know that she is the only other person he is sleeping with. I cannot believe that you found out before the wedding and did not say anything to him. You went on with the the wedding and now you think he will change?? I don't understand how you got yourself in this mess.

i echo outstrip's thots

I also agree with outstrip ,

You guys need to clear the air get tested , get counselling and either continue with the relationship or part ways

it is very unhealthy mentally and physically for you to keep quiet about this

I agree with outstrip. He is your husband you shouldn't be afraid of him. Your marriage is too new to be having all these problems already. Evidently he doesn't know what marriage is or even respects the institution of marriage. Again, stop the sex, get tested and go for counseling.

@topup
Yeah i think u realy undstnd me,wat if he lied yes wat will i do?

Am just so confused, pls am i stupidly in love or wat becos i all i do worry about is wat will our relationship be like after the confrontation, i love him dearly wont i be like a wife snooping around her husband?
But against all odds i have decided to go ahead and talk with him becos like someone said communication is very important, i will just let him know my mind, abi?

and if he says its a harmless fun i will just let him know that am not happy about it and should pls stop, innit