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Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by TV01(m): 5:14pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
Mindfulness:You are free to take up marriage advocacy. And no, you are not an expert in marriage, just in wrecking them ![]() ![]() Mindfulness:Indeed, divorce is an option even in a Christian marriage - does that make divorce the intent, or a logical outcome? Or mean that divorce is a good or desired outcome? And exclusivity/mongamy being the Christian way does not mean it is only the Christians that practice it. Secondly as you continue to demonstrate your self-seeking and unthinking approach, monagamy exists in pretty much all cultures. Polygamy being permitted, does not mean it's mandated. And even where it is extant it is always taken up less than monogamy or no-marriage. Polygamy may appear to make sense in certain s/t situations, but I consider it an abberation, and not benefitting society as monogamy does. Anyway, you are not concerned with monogamy or polygamy, or marriage as such, just justifying exercising your willful unthinking desires. Mindfulness:Initiative can indeed change the "gender gap" - they don't change the wirting of men and women. We call that social engineering. I'm always here if you have anything to say - especially where you mirepresent na=marriage or blasphem the bible. You can't build true happiness on anothers sorrow. Learner ![]() TV |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 5:28pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
TV01: Has anyone said that divorce is the intent or logical outcome of a marriage? Did anyone say that it is a desired outcome? I have not come across such a post, yet. And exclusivity/mongamy being the Christian way does not mean it is only the Christians that practice it. Secondly as you continue to demonstrate your self-seeking and unthinking approach, monagamy exists in pretty much all cultures. Why is polygamy an aberration and not benefitting society? Initiative can indeed change the "gender gap" - they don't change the wirting of men and women. We call that social engineering. I'm always here if you have anything to say - especially where you mirepresent na=marriage or blasphem the bible. What wiring are you talking about? You can't build true happiness on anothers sorrow. The sorrows of other people are none of my business. ![]() |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 5:48pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
Kimoni: Well, the ladies have been wearing red pant and bra since 1601 BC. High time the men took over. It sure will look nice on their muscular and toned bodies. ![]() OP, I sense lack of communication in your marriage. You say you've been married for 12years but cannot tell your wife exactly how you feel about what she is doing and you are here talking to total strangers. You are beating about the bush by telling her that you are only not comfortable with the late night sms, meanwhile you are not comfortable with the friendship as a whole. Please, go and discuss with your wife and tell her exactly how you feel. Ask her why she has suddenly become friends with someone she once hated. Why she feels the need to text him often even as she claims to hate typing SMSs. Discuss. I do not believe in having close opposite sex friends as a married man/woman, especially if your spouse is not comfortable with it. |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by TV01(m): 5:59pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
Mindfulness:So what is your point prating on about it? In as much as there are narrow accomodations, they are not for frivolous or selfish reasons like "I loff and want him", even though he's been married for years and has children ![]() Mindfulness:In the Christian wolrdview it is an abberation. Who said it did not benefit society? Mindfulness:Of course, that's why you keep quoting "love does no harm" and "love does not seek it's own", or "thinks no evil" or "is kind", from the Bible. TV |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 6:06pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
TV01: Since when does a third party, a lover or a mistress, decide about divorce? In the Christian wolrdview it is an abberation. Who said it did not benefit society? In the Christian worldview but not all of us are Christians. And since not all of us are Christians, your Christianity based definition of what a marriage is or isn't is not universal and not mandatory and not necessarily better or superior or the only right one. You said polygamy didn't benefit society, didn't you? Another question TV, do you think monogamy is natural? ![]() Of course, that's why you keep quoting "love does no harm" and "love does not seek it's own", or "thinks no evil" or "is kind", from the Bible. You asked for a definition of love in our discussion and I chose this one because I knew that you are a Christian. It does not mean that I agree with the definition, even though it is a nice one, must say. Like you said TV01, I am responsible for what I write, not what you read into it. ![]() |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by bukatyne(f): 7:25pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Will do and holla you |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by dahmie2013: 8:36pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
goldfishsk:Pls can u xplain d above? So are u saying u can stop her 4rm using dem? Is it a Master-Slave relationship? As far as I know she has every right 2 use dem with or without ur permission. Also seems u're not comfortable with d guy, just come out straight 2 her, she shud understd. |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by TV01(m): 10:30pm On Nov 04, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Such a one is a co-conspirator - and should be charged as such in the event of an unjustified marital break-up. I was pleased to see in the other thread this still obtains in Nigeria ![]() Mindfulness:True, it is neither mandatory, nor universal - unfortunately for you warped outlook, it is certified the best form ![]() Mindfulness:No, I didn't Mindfulness:Don't derail - or otherwise try and justify your wicked ways - I'm finding it totally natural, optimal and rewarding. Happy to slut shame you if you like. Mindfulness:No - l requested your definition of love. Obviously, it has no basis in reason or morailty, so you disingenuously presented the biblical one as your own. Think of the error of your ways. The damage you've done and the harm you've caused. Even non-Christians are blessed with a conscience ![]() TV 3 Likes |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 2:52pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
TV01: In the name of Jesus. Amen. ![]() |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Ama80(f): 5:50pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
goldfishsk:let me tel u frm experience,it's not advisable cos not all women can withstand d pressure involved esp via d soc media.i intentionally disabled my watsapp n fb cos i have more of male friends bcs of my job's nature.there is a compelling spirit bhind watsapp in particular dat promotes intimacy n demand for nude pix even as a married woman.u can hardly hav a decent chat wt opp sex.it's a crazy world we r living in.u only c d chats she wants u to c n delete implicating ones.many married women hav their nude pixes littered all ova d internet al sent via watsapp.i still have my hubby's woman friend explicit pix wt me but d hubby wil still c her as a saint.urs may not b exceptional.i can boast of being a no nonsense woman but at a point i was almost lured by my boss.it led to my disabling my watsapp n oda forms m claimed my phone was bad.every woman has a weak spot including urs.don't cr8 d room. |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Daresh(f): 10:47pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
goldfishsk: Permission to respond to text message? Women are suffering o! |
Re: Friendship With Opposite Sex After Marriage by Nobody: 9:55am On Nov 23, 2015 |
Ama80: This is a guy masquerading as a woman. You want to ruin the OP marriage abi...Dont create room indeed. msheewwww |
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