So much for this unwritten rule that people seem to adhere to strongly. What about the written rules?
Was going to say something like debauchery thrives because good friends keep quiet but would that make any difference?

There only one sensibl thing to do
depending on how close you guys are and how u relate.

Simply advise and cajole him off it!

Wisdom is profitable to direct. If you're close to the man in question, you can talk to him ONCE! But your husband is your head and since he has restrained you,you must obey.

For me, I would talk to the man once if i was close to him, if he doesn't listen then I leave him in the hand of God. If this friend was a woman, i would sing advice to her until she terminates our friendship (if she is hell bent on cheating). But reporting a cheating man/woman to the spouse is playing with fire.

Nope not at all! But he shouldnt be mad when he finds out im sleeping with his wife. Aint karma a Bitch?

I'll tell him to stop cheating his wife. This is not a matter of full grown adult or not. what if he's drunk and head to the middle of express road to lie down? You'll allow him abi?

obyann:

I'll tell him to stop cheating his wife. This is not a matter of full grown adult or not. what if he's drunk and head to the middle of express road to lie down? You'll allow him abi?

Well according to some here without balls they wouldn't tell him his heading to the middle of an express road to lie down because its an unwritten men boys code.

I don't have friends that go out and get drunk. so I wouldn't know!

I'll definitely talk to him and let him know that what he is about to do can ruin his marriage and life.

it really not my business cos if you involve yourself, then they will use you & settle

can remember a female friend who the boyfriend (my friend too) beats black & blue on several occassion. when she came to me for advice, i told her to end the relationship as no guy should hit a woman. well was shocked when the guy confronted me with what i told her

made up my mind since then to mind my business except if my immediate family is involved

No!

hilli666:

Nope not at all! But he shouldnt be mad when he finds out im sleeping with his wife. Aint karma a Bitch?

lol

@Poster,
You are female and bothered about your male married friend's affair?
Are you sure you don't really like him too? Maybe it is some jealousy creeping in.

No! but I will do my best keeping my children, sisters and other loved ones away from him because those guys do not have limitations when comes to areas of operation. lol.

I will always do my best to remind a friend of his conduct around me. Ultimately, the decision is his to take.

It depends. If his spouse/wife/partner is someone I respect and appreciate and feel is good for him, I will try to discourage him. Although I won't pressure him too much and make a fight out of it. I'll just try to talk some sense into him and try to help him realize what he has isn't worth losing over a cheap piece of ass.

But if his partner is just another hood-rat chopping awuuf, then its all good, the more the merrier

There are too many hypocrites on here, especially some of the guys. If some grown up feel he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and decide to have extral curricula activities, what then concern you.
Many folks here do the same thing they are condemning. Well naija people sha!

This one most definitely falls into the TOP TEN IDIOTIC STATEMENTS I HAVE EVER READ ON NAIRALAND.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Honestly, I would HATE to have someone like you as a friend. . . . .

Okija_juju:

Picture this.

Its boys night out! after a few bottles, one decides to take a strange girl to bed, what would you do??

Talk to him bout breaking his girlsfriends heart?? or bout STD's??

HELLZ NO!! You would be looked on as not being a real dude/big boy/correct man e.t.c. You women might not see that as a problem but we guys dont do that. Its so bad that if you happened to be out with your boyfriend and witness such an act, and dare speak out or to the guy bout it, you may not know it but you are making your man look bad in front of his homies.

Inasmuch as I know its wrong, its the norm. WHo are we to change it!!

to okija_juju:

okay, you wouldn't tell on your guy friend, but what if it was the woman cheating? You'd probably tell on her, yeah? Of course.

Also, if your friend was raping a woman would you turn a blind eye to that too?

wouldn't you guys be worried about the guy passing HIV to his wife Oh my gosh. I hope not all men would turn a blind eye. That would also be a betrayal to the wife the guy was cheating on.

If the guy has a steady girlfriend and still does all he is expected to do as a husband, I would probably just watch from the sidelines .

But if the reverse is the case and the guy is living recklessly, you know sleeping out, not taking care of family and even beating up the wife for querying him,I would give him a good dose of what I would like to call husband to husband pep talk .

Now if the guy continues living the reckless life then I guess I will have to draw the curtains on the relationship.

One thing is for sure though, boys will always be boys .

its no busins of mine as lng as dat friend is nt a she.

It amazes me me how some people reason! I must confess I have read some very dumb contributions on nairaland that I couldnt but wonder.How can a full grown man throw away integrity and moral values all in the name of being 'hommie'!

@okija juju,
Walahi! am very sorry for you.How old are you sef? You cannot have a good sense of judgement because you don't want 'the boys' to disapprove of you.

@poster
Adultery is wrong,no matter who the victim is, man or woman.It is your responsibility to prevent your friend from it.If you don't,your conscience will not let you rest.

And to think it is fashionable for a man to cheat! these men will not learn a lesson.Who says a woman cannot pay you back in your rotten coin? Bet if the cheat were a woman, you would all advise her to inform her husband? Bunch of sexists! Okija juju,number one

If ma friend is cheatin to hell with him i don't give a f**k. Afteral variety is the spice of life.

If ma friend is cheatin to hell with him i don't give a f**k. Afteral variety is the spice of life.

savanaha:

Well according to some here without balls they wouldn't tell him his heading to the middle of an express road to lie down because its an unwritten men boys code.

Abi?

to avoid beign in the middle of the two people the best thing is to confront the person they are abt to cheat with. for example if its a girl meet her in the batchroom and say somthing like that guy is married to my friend or somthing. at least you dont confront the guy and if they quarrel they will not settle on top your head.

i'll warn him maturely(parables), "a word is enough for the wise", the choice is his, but i dont accept cheating on your partner as a mistake/ a man should always accept his responsibilities

If you cannot correct your friend that indulges in such act, its either you also do it, you dont mind doing it or you see nothing wrong with it.

All na thesame.

Do unto others as you will have them do unto you!!!
Check your husband too, he could be a player

Africa and indeed Nigeria has a lot of moralist This is evident just by reading what people are posting on this thread
WHY are we going from bad to WORSE