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Nigerians are obsessed with se.x, we just pretend not to be.

In this article, I am going to be talking about pornography – Internet pornography to be precise (and ancillary issues). But I do so with an upfront caveat – I do not intend to moralise as it is not my place to debate the morality of what adults indulge in on their devices, in their spare time. However, as a student of culture and behavioural development, I am concerned about vulnerable groups; particularly children and young teenagers. So, my article will focus on these two groups and tangentially, on women.

In 2015, I was privileged to work on two projects. The first was Jack & Jil Therapy – a free telephone based platform for those needing help for critical sexuality & life issues. The second project was #SaveMirabel, a movement to raise urgent funds for Lagos’ only rape crisis centre – The Mirabel Centre. As a result of my involvement with these two initiatives, I was exposed to a treasure trove of information about sexuality issues in Nigeria. I will share some of them in this article.

In 2014, the popularity of Nigerian Google searches for pornography (relative to other searches) on a scale of 0 to 100 was above 80. (Google ranks as 100 any item that constitutes 10% or more of all searches in a country.) The number of average monthly searches by volume was 165,000 and the States with the greatest popularity for porn searches were: Lagos, Oyo, Delta, Rivers, Cross River and Abuja. The relative popularity of rape pornography videos was also above 80, with Lagos State leading the charge and Nigeria ranked third globally for the most Google searches for Gay pornography. (We were ranked second in 2013.)

Since 2009, pornography search popularity has always risen above 70 every December, save one. In December 2009 and 2010, Nigeria outstripped America in the popularity of searches for pornography – a nation twice our size.

A popular pornography site is among the top 50 sites visited by Nigerians according to Alexa.com. It is more popular than the leading jobs and news sites.

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From the foregoing, we can surmise that Nigerians have a robust interest in Internet pornography. This is not just a Nigerian phenomenon. According to Google Facts, pornography sites get more visitors globally each month than Netflix, Amazon and Twitter combined. According to Pornhub, the world’s leading online pornography aggregator, the largest consumed categories of pornography among millennials are cosplay (the practice of dressing up as a character from a film, book, or video game) and hentai (a subgenre of the Japanese genres of manga and anime). In other words, there’s escape from reality into the world of fantasy. Gaming and virtual reality are now influencing the type of pornography millennials are consuming. Now even though over 70% of Nigeria’s population are millennials, we have no data on the type of pornography they are consuming.

Some may argue that watching pornography is part of the normal sexual exploration and growth of a young person and should be encouraged. But let’s consider commentary from leading neurologists:

An article by Frank Powell describes the key highlights of a TED talk by Gary Wilson, a retired neurologist. The talk was titled “The Great Por.n Experiment.” In the video, Wilson details the devastating effects of long term consumption of pornography on the developing brain including, Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), social anxiety and depression. Pornography also numbs the ability to feel real life intimacy. The longer a brain is exposed to pornography, the more hyperactive it becomes at the sight of pornography. In other words, the more you view pornography, the more your brain desires it. It is a vicious cycle that ultimately erodes your willpower and self-control.

A study published in 2014 by Cambridge University tracked the behaviours of compulsive pornography users: over 50% of subjects (average age 25) had difficulty achieving erection with real partners yet could do so with pornography.

Here’s more from Gary Wilson: Pornography is particularly appealing because of the Coolidge Effect, a phenomenon seen in mammalian species where males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners. This is because of the novelty factor. With internet pornography, you can experience more variety in 10 minutes of clicking than you may experience in an entire year of real life, hence, its appeal. According to Gary Wilson, consistent consumption of pornography rewires the brain of developing teenagers, leading to desensitisation, a drop in libido & willpower and eventually erectile dysfunction in real life scenarios. Intriguingly, research shows that older men who did not grow up with high speed Internet recovered faster than younger men from pornography related erectile dysfunction because their sexual preferences were set in their brains long before they got hooked on Internet pornography.

Although there are exceptions to every rule; the exception generally proves and tests the presence of a rule. Pornography is especially devastating to a child or teenager’s brain and sexual development.

It is interesting to note that those who are in the tobacco business speak about the principle of generational addiction. Because nicotine is addictive, if you can get people smoking when they’re young, you’re guaranteed a significant population of life-long customers. The same principle applies to pornography. In "Por.n On The Brain", a UK Channel 4 documentary, a neurologist found that the brains of compulsive pornography users were altered similarly to those suffering from other addictions.

Nigeria is a highly religious society, so you have to EXPECT and CONFIRM the lowest depths of MORAL DEPRAVITY!

It is not a sexuality problem, BUT A SPIRITUAL one.

Nigeria ranked third globally for the most Google searches for Gay pornography. (We were ranked second in 2013.)

Tell me something

But we hate gayness na.
You want to tell me a high population of Nigerians watch gay porn?

Abeg bring the stats here before I believe you.

Lol.. I think even the blind can see how sexually crazy Nigerians are. You bring a thread for people to share crazy things they have done all in the name of sex, and will be shocked .
I remember when sometimes two weeks ago or so, Stelka Dimokokus invited her readers to share something bad they have done anonymously, I was expecting something like "I smoked weed and I got high and bla bla". But no, like 98% of "something bad" these people did was sex related, and very crazy and jaw dropping, even at tender ages.
Nigerians are just pretenders. See them openly condemning America for legalising gay marriages, whereas they are Ogbonge for bisexuality and homosexuality.
And the parents, I don't know if they are actually ignorant or are just faking ignorance.

I see why rape cases have been on the increase they've been feeding their minds with rape pornography at the rate they are watching gay porn even people who are not gay will begin to believe they are gay or dabble into gay sex. This is alarming.

andromida:
I see why rape cases have been on the increase they've been feeding their minds with rape pornography at the rate they are watching gay porn even people who are not gay will begin to believe they are gay or dabble into gay sex. This is alarming.

Its not just Nigeria please its everywhere
technology hasnt helped either tyere is only so much you can do

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Since 2009, pornography search popularity has always risen above 70 every December, save one. In December 2009 and 2010, Nigeria outstripped America in the popularity of searches for pornography – a nation twice our size.

Nigerians are f00lish...

America will introduce rubbish to the world and even via movies to make sells... And in real life will restrict her citizens with high laws set to guide them... But nigerians will watch this movies and without delay jump on it...

Most crazy dresses we say white girls dress with aren't snapped outdoors... But our crazy pictures u see on instagrams and other social media are snapped outdoors...

Quite stupid...

This people brought religion to us...and now they're changing the table from christianity to church of lucifer... And very soon... They'll twist our heads and you wouldn't know when many ppl will side the church the government will be forced to establish such churches here in Nigeria...

Rubbish...

Nigerians don't have any sense... The government fvcks us with condom... While America fvcks our government raw and without condom!

I'm done reading this shitz!!!

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Its not just Nigeria please its everywhere
technology hasnt helped either tyere is only so much you can do

According to the article we lead the pack.

Now, back to Nigeria.

Nigeria currently enjoys about 37% internet penetration. This means 63 million people enjoy internet access, a significant portion of them being teenagers. (For perspective, the population of connected Nigerians is about that of the entire population of the United Kingdom.)

In 2014, A.T. Kearney, the global management consulting firm revealed the countries with the most devoted Internet users. Nigeria was number 2. Nigerians do not just have access to the Internet; they love to use it.

Nigeria’s Ministry of Information & Communications projects that the country will have 76% broadband penetration by 2020. Are we ready for the increased access to Internet pornography that this will create?

These are my main concerns: Will a nation without credible and well resourced policing structures be able to protect minors and the vulnerable from online solicitation or the expressions of sexual deviants and psychopaths? Who ensures that minors with little understanding of or a frame of reference for sexuality are protected from early access to sexual material? Who tells them that what they are seeing isn’t real? Who manages their expectations of real life intimacy? Who deals with the fall-out of a child whose first experience with sex may be cruelty and domination? Where are the professionals required to assist a growing youth population grappling with sexuality issues? Who treats the addicted?

According to the National Association of Clinical Psychologists (NACP), there are only 42 Clinical Psychologists and 180 Psychiatrists registered with the association in Nigeria. Taken together, this is a ratio of 1 mental health professional to 766,000 Nigerian citizens. Dr. David Igbokwe, a Nigerian Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist posits that if we take into consideration the broader ecosystem of mental health professionals – Occupational Therapists, Social Workers, Psychotherapists, Clinical Psychologists, Psychiatrists and Trained Counsellors – including those in private practice, Nigeria may have up to 1,200 mental health professionals. This is a paltry number if Internet pornography addiction were to take firm root in Nigeria. Already, in one month of existence of the Jack & Jil Therapy platform, addiction to pornography & masturbation has been the most recurrent issue.

In a society where the family unit is increasingly becoming fractured and where parental oversight is not what it used to be, we cannot afford to add a layer of sexuality issues to our national troubles. We simply do not have the structures in place to deal with it. Presently, Nigeria has little or no restrictions to internet access. This includes an absence of restrictions to child pornography and lack of protection for children and teenagers who may be exploited or behaviourally programmed. Teenagers already have easy access to real life sexual liaisons on the Internet. From the Lagos Sex Network to Twitter After Dark to Creamy Escorts, opportunities abound if you’re looking for a sexual partner via the Internet. Snapchat has also introduced Snapcash, making it easy to pay for shared nudes.

I have a deeper concern that there may be a link between increased access to violent sexual content (e.g. Nigeria’s growing interest in rape videos) and increased sexual violence. To be fair, there is no detailed study on the correlation between the two even in developed nations, however I came across an interesting comment in the article, A User’s Manual by The Economist. In the article, Meg Kaplan, a Psychologist at Columbia University who treats those convicted of sex offences, thinks it likely that some sexual tastes are formed around puberty. That means ill-timed exposure to unpleasant or bizarre material could cause a lifelong problem. Various researchers have found that heavy users of pornography are more likely to have become sexually active early, to regard sex as a mere physiological function, like eating or drinking, and to have tried to coerce others into sex. But no one knows which came first: the pornography or the problem.

According to UNICEF, “one out of every four girls and one out of every ten boys in Nigeria suffers sexual violence.” The Mirabel Centre reports that 592 of their 845 patients are under the age of 18. This is 70% of the total number! In a 2014 spot survey of 1,000 random Nigerians conducted by NOI Polls [on behalf of Stand to End Rape (STER)], 49% of those surveyed stated they knew a child rape victim. But how much of sexual violence in Nigeria can be attributed to our cultural views of sex and how much can we begin to attribute to early access to sexual content online and on devices? We do not have enough data to say for sure.

UNICEF_Sexual Violation

In the UK’s Channel 4 documentary referenced earlier on, some sexual therapists speculate that pornography addiction leads to false expectations in real life. They posit that the rise in popularity of requests for anal and gagging during sex may be linked to their popularity in porn. To be clear, consensual sexual preferences are not the issue and are beyond the scope of my article. However, the fact that the sexual therapist in the documentary reported that some women were coerced is within my purview.

In many countries where pornography can be readily accessed by teenagers, there are legal, social, medical and spiritual structures in place to protect them and to counterbalance the effects. Nigeria does not yet have those structures; yet, our pornography consumption rates are rising. To this end, Nigeria must consider a number of proactive actions as a matter of priority.

First, I am not an advocate for banning Internet content wholesale. Knee jerk reactions do not work. In developed countries, it has been found that sexual filters still let blogs and social networks through, so platforms like Snapchat and Tumblr can still distribute pornography to teenagers. Instead, I recommend the following specific solutions:

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1. Encourage structured conversations about sex among children and teenagers online, in homes, in schools and in places of worship. If pornography is providing one perspective about sex, healthy alternative perspectives must also be provided.

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2. Provide factual and age-relevant material and information about sex. If a teenager wants to know about anal sex, there should be safe places to find the information outside of pornography. If he/she asks a parent or religious leader, the request should not elicit a blush or a blank stare. If young people don’t know what is real, how can they then tell what is fake and properly contextualise it?

Authority figures and counsellors must also be up-to-date with popular culture and lingo on sexuality. According to Kelly Wallace, CNN’s digital correspondent and editor-at-large covering family, career and life, there are many slangs and abbreviations that are used by teens while chatting about sexuality. Conversations with teenagers may require an understanding of these slangs. Here are some of the more popular ones:

IWSN – I want sex now
GNOC – Get naked on camera
NIFOC – Naked in front of computer
PIR – Parent in room
CU46 – See you for sex
53X – Sex
9 – Parent watching
99 – Parent gone
1174′ – Party meeting place
Broken – Hungover from alcohol
420 – Marijuana
POS – Parent over shoulder
SUGARPIC – Suggestive or erotic photo
KOTL – Kiss on the lips
(L)MIRL – Let’s meet in real life
PRON – pornography
TDTM – Talk dirty to me
8 – MouthAction
CD9 – Parents around/Code 9
IPN – I’m posting naked
LH6 – Let’s have se,x
WTTP – Want to trade pictures?
DOC – Drug of choice
TWD – Texting while driving
GYPO – Get your pants off
KPC- Keeping parents clueless

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3. Institute policies and enforce strict penalties for the distribution of Internet pornography featuring minors and the distribution of pornography to minors. A cyber task force should be set up to monitor same.

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4. Commission research to regularly measure consumption of Internet pornography by children and teenagers in Nigeria and their resultant attitudes towards sex and sexuality.

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5. Finally, keep conversations about sexuality in Nigeria on the front burner to help promote positive ideologies about sex.

I have chosen to begin the conversation on my platform. What will you do?

(PS: If you think you should be talking to someone about your pornography consumption, suspected addiction to pornography/masturbation or know someone who needs help, here’s a link that can help: www.jacknjillive.com/therapy.)

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In 2015, I was privileged to work on two projects. The first was Jack & Jil Therapy – a free telephone based platform for those needing help for critical sexuality & life issues.

Did you publish any articles from this?

Why isn't this on the FrontPage yet??

Lalasticlala (shebi that's who folks call when they want a thread thrown up)



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I read all that in 2mins... End time

so what if you no fit toast woman , talkless of bleeping one

Bad state

If ur fada is....I'm not.

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you all got sexuality problems..
Including you below me

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I took my time to read every word of what the OP posted ,and seriously he's very on point.As humans our brains are wired in such a way that we crave adventure ,in this case sexual adventure.We get excited and hyped ,problem is coming back to that same level of excitement isnt very exciting again and we tend to push it further.Translation,watching normal missionary porn might be exciting at first,but over time it loses the excitement so people want more in the form of hard core ,beastiality etc.Now such fantasies are good online ,the next phase is to try it in real life which explains why a pastor will rape a 13 year old and say its the devil.
This is a very important future problem the OP has pointed out.
The solution is re-orientation,if you don't teach the young ones about safe sex,right sexual orientations,etc they'll most likely get misinformed from the outside world.
Thanks OP...I suspect I have a porn problem

Thank God u said Nigeria and not Biafra.

Bossforeva:
you all got sexuality problems

lol... U na Saint Paul...

I can't imagine a guy watching Gay Porn

Ok...den tell our popular pastors to deliver us all.

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Op. U get time problem

OP i totally disagree with you.


may be you are talking about another Nigeria not my dear country