A lot of sisters wonder why they haven't gotten married and they look at husbands and wives and say "why can't I have that companionship". In any case it's Allah's will, and without doubt everyone is being tested in their different ways.

Though there are many cases where sisters are
delaying marriage for other aims whilst being extremely picky. Here's a word to the wise, most of those husbands that are good to their wives were losers in one regard or another until their wives met them. But their wives saw something good in them and invested in them, refined and advised them,
protected them, gave them confidence. They didn't marry the finished article. Hence, that husband they are searching for doesn't exist, when they are found
they are usually married.

Some sisters want the finished article, money, house, job, living far as one can be away from the parents somewhere on the moon..that sort of thing, and never marry or marry late, while others look for someone with potential and something to build on and then renovate.

Of course the same can be said the other way around for brothers, but that's not what I'm talking about. I'm just sad to see many good brothers struggling to get married, they would make great husbands and fathers to their kids, instead the sisters are trying to live three lifetimes, study, career and marriage.... Hence why the sisters average age is 35 and the brothers is 27.

I remember going to a gardening store once, they
had every type of seed, and plants upon plants. But very rarely did they sell a plant already bearing fruit.


If you bought a plant with fruit, what would be the point? A gardening enthusiast wants to grow plants and see the fruits, otherwise he could have gone to the supermarket and bought them.

But a gardner is passionate about the roots, stems, branches and leaves, even more than the fruits. Marriage is like that. But some want to find their husband in the frozen isle, stuffed in the freezer section, pre-packed, full of artificial preservatives, in a static state, they want their prize turkey. A person with 'everything' so early in life usually means they have never faced hardship, which is concerning since
marriage is full of unpredictable twists and turns that one cannot run away from like they did when they were single.

Strange example I know..but I think it works.
The arabs say:
ﺍﻣﺸﻲ ﻓﻲ ﺟﻨﺎﺯﺓ ﻭﻻ ﺗﻤﺸﻲ ﻓﻲ ﺟﻮﺍﺯﺓ .
Being involved in a funeral is better than trying to
arrange marriages.

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