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Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by sexydiva21(f): 8:45am On Nov 14, 2015 |
I have been married for about 5 years now. Intercourse has really being work for me. All oga says is remind me of amount of yams and bride prize he brought whenever he wants to get down atlast we get down. He doesn't even kiss and romance anymore he just goes straight to the point. When he is eventually done he gets up and hits to the bathroom. I really don't know what is going on Please advise no curses |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by Nobody: 8:57am On Nov 14, 2015 |
u shud talk to him..don't juz be quiet..discuss with him what u really feel that u r not contented or u r not happy the way he treated u on bed...we women shud demand to our man that we want climax and not juz open our legs for them to hit up straight. We not a mannequin or a blown-up dolls for good sex sake.. |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by nnamdibig(m): 9:00am On Nov 14, 2015 |
Sorry ma
But you are just like one of his properties and you should stop acting like one 1 Like |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by bronzegoddess(f): 9:02am On Nov 14, 2015 |
Lol. Sorry |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by victor2fresh(m): 9:05am On Nov 14, 2015 |
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Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by JudgementHammer: 9:28am On Nov 14, 2015 |
Ok. It happens like that once in a while. Op answer these questions 1st -has it been a while u had it b4 he started this? -do you give an impression or facial/body language that you don't want or u're too tired for sex? -does he feel tired or occupied these days? Your answer will shed more light to the issue and yield better advice |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by ogawisdom(m): 10:45am On Nov 14, 2015 |
Lol at d bride price n yam stuff Op you shld be active in bed n nt lying down n raising/opening ur legs like roasted chicken. Do to him what u expect frm him, every sex can't b proceeded by pre-intimacy sometimes a quickie is done for a change. 2 Likes |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by Nobody: 10:50am On Nov 14, 2015 |
If you don't feel comfortable with the way he initiates s.ex, don't have s.ex with him. It is so simple. 1 Like |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by Nobody: 11:04am On Nov 14, 2015 |
Talk to him, he is ur husband, he should understand |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by amtheone(m): 1:31pm On Nov 14, 2015 |
sexydiva21: I think he is not interested in what you want or it could be that you are the cause. |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by Richy4(m): 2:45pm On Nov 14, 2015 |
Hmmm!!!! Five years is enough to build a solid communication. The key point I got from your statement was "when he is eventually done" Meaning he does all the work everything while you relax and makes him satisfy you and read your mind on how the pleasure should be. The last time I checked, There are gender equality this days even in the bedroom. initiate how you want him to do it some times or maybe you go on top and do the bouncing yourself. Do not relax now haba!!!!!! some women just relax and expect their husband to be the breadwinner at home at the same time satisfy them 100% In Bed. "Papa John will pay rent, water bill, school fees, Electricity bill and must come to bed and satisfy me while I just relax with my legs spread only....." This is 21st century Biko!!!!!!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by itstpia8: 2:55pm On Nov 14, 2015 |
sexydiva21: but you chose the moniker sexydiva. |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by Nobody: 4:55pm On Nov 14, 2015 |
OP, your marriage has been like this for 5 year? Was he like this before you married him? As your husband, he should want to please you, and take his time doing it. As his wife, you should want to please him too. Marriage is a two-way street. Him saying, "remind me of amount of yams and bride prize he brought" is quite insensitive of him, which makes me think that he knows what he is doing/his action is intentional. Do not blame yourself and ignore Amtheone's comment that "you are the cause". He is a grown-man, you're not responsible for his actions, or lack thereof. -Is he faithful? His lack of sexual desire for you might be because there's someone else/other people he's seeing. -Is he's addicted to porn and masturbation? These could be affecting him, as they're his sources of pleasure. -Does he have any medical condition? Aging men = low testosterone = low sex drive. Time for trip to the Doctor together? -Do you argue a lot in your marriage? Are you emotionally-connected to each other? (The presence of the former and lack of the latter can definitely cause a man to lose interest). -Perhaps, you just need to switch things up and find different ways to please each other. Communicate your needs. 1 Like |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by babythug(f): 9:14am On Nov 16, 2015 |
As it is now, you just have to take charge of the situation. I suspect he really doesn't know better. So we have to show him You start by being romantic. Kiss him when he least expects it, hug him spontaneously. Dress(decent nightwear, perfume etc etc) nicely in bed. When he wants to get down, don't let him penetrate. Tell him to wait, then massage him, kiss and do all the romantic things you can You can also feed him well and when he's sated, express yourself to him... You can say something like *baba bisi, i'd be able to pleasure you more if you go gently with me. Massage me a bit and suck my titties etc etc * It'll probably be awkward at first but you'll be fine don't worry What is wrong with me this moreeen |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by doctorEkene: 7:38pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
sexydiva21: Ma'am, Did your physique change recently Do you guys have a quarrel Does he have a mistress Do you try to spice up the sex What is the age gap between both of you You can PM me your answer for further counselling |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by bukatyne(f): 8:58pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
sexydiva21: Was your bride price too much? Does your family members still burden him with a lot of expectations? |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by raumdeuter: 12:09am On Nov 17, 2015 |
Did you try to ride him and see what he says? |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by armyofone(m): 3:21am On Nov 17, 2015 |
So next time Op, give him a ride to pay off those yams. Ride him, hit the top, tell him hey babes relax it's my turn. raumdeuter: |
Re: Help !!!! He Doesn't Really Have Time For Romance by Nobody: 5:46am On Nov 17, 2015 |
@OP its simple, he is not romantic, he is a learner, its as a result of a man patronizing prostitutes too much that it has affected him, he wont change again, he dnt romance, he wont romance, its left 4 u to to device other means to satisfy urself by meeting a young guy like me that is a master in pre-intimacy, i mean turning on. |
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