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5 Top Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship by teemystic(f): 5:56pm On Nov 17, 2015 |
Abusive relationship, also known as domestic or spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to control and dominate the other person. Domestic abuse involving physical violence is called domestic violence. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No person should live in fear of the one they love. Abusive relationships often begin as an intense and passionate love affair. Abusers can be charismatic, committed, attentive, loving etc. Abusers also use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her thumb. Abusers hold themselves back until they gain your trust and love. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of an abusive relationship, please reach out and seek for help: Extreme Fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up, chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Also, a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and when you have feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation. They are all signs of an abusive relationship. Jealousy and Hypersensitivity Abusers often have low self-esteem and take everything personally. They may be easily insulted or claim that the world is against them if they meet a slight setback. If you disagree about anything, no matter how trivial, you're insulting them to their core and calling them a terrible person who can't do anything right. Hypersensitivity refers to the jealous partner overreacting to little things: comments, jokes, or small issues. This often shows itself in a set of rules that have a clear double standard. If she glances at another man, she doesn't find her partner attractive anymore and is cheating on him. But if she comments on him blatantly staring at other women, she is calling him a pervert and accusing him of terrible things he would never do. Dominating partner Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his or her possession. Isolates you In order to increase your dependence on him or her, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world. He or she may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school. You may have to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone. Imposed isolation will begin with your partner criticizing, questioning, and making unwelcome your closest friends and social network. Abusers will also try to make you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with friends and family. Unrealistic Expectations When you notice that your partner has unrealistic expectations. They want the 'out of this world' relationship with very stereotypical gender roles. When he's expected to provide for the family, and his job isn't going well, there's a problem. She should keep the house, and if dinner isn't on the table when he gets home, there's a problem. Their happiness depends on their partner. If you're not living up to expectations, the world is ending. After all, you are their world! Remember, abusers are very good at controlling and manipulating their victims. People who have been emotionally abused or battered are depressed, drained, scared, ashamed, and confused. They need help to get out, yet they’ve often been isolated from their family and friends. By learning these warning signs you can be sure of an escape from an abusive relationship and begin the healing process. Read more on www.healthylifecoupon.com /5 Top Signs you're in an Abusive Relationship |
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