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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by SAMBARRY: 6:15am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Op without siding your sister when was the last time you checked her to know what's up with her?are you just sitting in your house miles apart and assuming every thing is alright with her.Are you sure she herself isn't facing any financial crisis or in debt.you have to go and check her before jumping into conclusions.then again Are you sure she's not battling with health crisis that's gulping her money?find out first .she may be experiencing a challenge that is taking a toll on her finances that she doesn't want you to know and you people will be assuming she's a big girl not knowing what she's going through.it's not every one living in a beautiful house, wearing nice clothes or driving a fancy car that is financially comfortable. Those are just camouflag 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by liquidmetall: 7:55am On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c: Didn't you see where he said the mum is dying |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by LordReed(m): 8:16am On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c: This is how you know the wicked. 8 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by gsalvatore: 1:00pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Some people are plain wicked and silly...Some even compare Nigerian settings to that of the west/abroad. This is being totally out of touch with reality... Do you people think the OP doesn't have problems of his own, why you are reading this is because the OP cares for their mother... Is it not the Parents that paid for her school fees and upkeep till she got to these level or una wan tell me say she be Pharmacist right from birth? The only thing the OP did wrong was Caring for the Mother. Remember If everybody decides to stay on their own and do what pleases them...we all know how it will Pan out... Your sister is a Disgrace....and i believe she will be hail as a generous person in certain angles while his mother rots.. Better talk sense into her...No need sending emissaries to do that... 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Ishilove: 7:09pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c:Her own mother?? The essence of this thread is the health of the op's mum. She is worried about her mum and the person who can help is not forthcoming. No matter what grudge the op's sister may be bearing against the mum or whatever, mother is mother. Irreplaceable. Even if the lady is going through financial challenges, MOTHER is MOTHER. I will sell the cloth off my back if that is what will ensure my mum's health is okay. The op's sister has no excuse 9 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by grandlexuz(m): 7:16pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
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Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko:Maybe your mom don offend her b4.... Make inquiries |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by raayah(f): 7:20pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko: Sad to say this but she is not obligated to take care of you guys. Maybe she was maltreated as a young woman or you people are simply not nice to her. I notice that you made mention of her marital status. You said she is saving her money for another man. I am very sure you have expressed these backwards sentiments to her that's why she is ignoring you guys. Try and live your life on your own. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Franzinni: 7:22pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Your sister is frustrated... Man problem... Or may be she drank some of the drugs she is producing.... She needs tb joshua. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by SamuelOjiulo: 7:22pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP this story never end, there's definitely a reason why she's ignoring you guys or your Mum. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by grandlexuz(m): 7:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
armyofone: I agree with you on the black people entitlement principle. However it is hypocrisy for you to tell the OP to consider helping the mum more. Like he already stated he is schooling and working. Despite his tight financial position he still reaches out to his mum. The ability to "GIVE" especially to ones family is not proportionate to a big pocket. A caring child will always make room for a 500N note for his old mum. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by IYANGBALI: 7:24pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Organise boys to deal with her |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by raayah(f): 7:24pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Franzinni: Its comments like this that will make the sister hesitant to help. Even OP said that his sister is saving money for her husband, which kain reasoning be that? |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:25pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
etankoko:maybe your sister have something against ya mother for what she has done her. but never the less, stop looking up to her and try to do the very best you can for her. I'm sure things will turn around |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by raayah(f): 7:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Richy4: No where in the post did OP say their family trained her. A lot of people in Nigeria train themselves through university. We don't even know how her family treated her when growing up. It could even be that she has been giving them money all these while , yet they keep insulting her because she's single (as you can deduce from OP original post). We need to hear both sides. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by analyticalnayos: 7:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
One church has caged her or a boyfriend conman is holding her to ransom.Finally,she is a foolish and is turning to a prodigal daughter. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Franzinni: 7:29pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah:aunty don't vex... Abi, do you have MAN problem too... In my circle it can also be called MANOPAUSE or man- o - pause 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 7:29pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Have you even confirmed that she is really a pharmacist and not a pharmacy sales girl. Some people tell their family what they are not. Also do you realize that she may not be as buoyant as you think she is and may just earn enough to survive? Maybe your mum needs to go and spend some time with her, and if your family and your mum has offended her then you people should apologize 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:29pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
send her pictures and videos of your mum.... maybe she would have a change of heart. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by raayah(f): 7:30pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
baby124: Exactly my thinking. I still fail to see how her success is a curse to his family. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by vislabraye(m): 7:31pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
yinkus4u2c: Not quite. I don't know how someone could be rich and be comfortable with the plight of her family. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Ugosample(m): 7:32pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Ginaz: Exactly my thoughts too. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:32pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
use the little you have to take good care of your mother, forget your sister. She have a different orientation and mindset about family. You don't need to worry yourself about her. Wish her well and do the little you can for your mum and other members of the family. Heavenly blessings comes to any body who takes good care of his/her parents. Blessings which can never be bought with money. Responsibility is an act of conscience and not an act of richness. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:32pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Mind you that is not the reason behind th Phrase "it Is finished" watch wat u quote author=menix post=40351850]Quit expecting her to sort u guyz nd u will experience open doors but once u keep hoping she will change nd start supporting the family you will be limited by ur thought.. Ask yourself this, if ur wealthy sister is not in the picture won't the family survive. I know of a family their sister is a bank manager in USA, since the day she left nigeria till date she has not visited to say hi to the aged parents, she does not call, talkless send a torn wrapper to the mum.. This is what Jesus saw on the crox nd shouted it's is finished (Uwa Embigo)[/quote] |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by baby124: 7:33pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah:Don't mind them, it's their expectation of her that is a curse to them. You get a job and suddenly the whole family demands that you feed them. Even the senior ones that should know better, and should be out hustling. They waste their youth and start claiming right. While some people go through hell to see themselves out of poverty. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Franzinni: 7:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
raayah:in doctor Phil's voice * hmm... I sense a very strong vibe of 'personalization" * |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Hefemale: 7:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Yours is better, my elder bros will give 200k to his babes for just shopping but can never give us more than 10k. what I did is delete his number from my phone. He has so many connection in our state but can never help us rather outsiders gets his help. Some people be like why u dey cry for money your bros na big boy na, I smile and continue my hustle. 7 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by grandlexuz(m): 7:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Ishilove: Thank you for that comment. I can't find any reason big enough to abandon a sick sister talk less of my sick mum. Recently my mum threatened to curse me and my kids. Imagine my mum furiously threatening to curse me, for advising her that beating my dad was totally wrong especially for someone like her that is a "pastor". However despite the standoff I just sent her 20.000 Naira equivalent to visit a dentist as soon as I heard she was having severe dental pains. I equally have been calling my sister daily to find out how she is recovering. "The fault of a brother is never felt in the bone" .. |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Chuksteric(m): 7:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Lol meanwhile my fellow nigga is flexing her everything both the money and the ...... Hehehe... Check very well you would see |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by brane: 7:35pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Something de wrong wit u tpiadotcom: |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by bettercreature(m): 7:36pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
gsalvatore:Most of Nigerians abroad dont know much about our heritage and culture,its an obligation for her to take care of her parents,she is a curse as the OP says no doubt about it,I can feel your pain 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Making Her Success A Curse To Our Family by Nobody: 7:36pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I hope this coming generation will learn from the mistake of the past. I have traveled around (Thanks to God for His blessings) I have come to understand that in the West parents work hard to guarantee their future and that of their kids. Unlike in our country where people stop short of guaranteeing their future by starting a family hoping and believing that their kids will be under obligation to handle their (parents) financial situations in the future. Do not see your children as an investment, rather parents should treat their children as human that should leave and freely work to take care of themselves in the future without the parents placing unnecessary expectations on them. I have seen people whose career are barely off the ground, rushing into starting family, because they want to please society and at the same time they believe they will channel all their energy ( income which is barely enough) into their kids as an investment. There are a lot of issues that comes with seeing your kids as an investment- with the hope that the elder one will raise the younger ones and eventual take care of the parents. To the young generation and to -be parents please stop putting your children through such psychological torture, moreover you did not consult any of the kids before embarking on such 'ventures' neither did any of those kids signed an agreement with you. Please parents shoulder your responsibilities and stop mortgaging your children future, just because you don't want to be left out of the 'I am married' crew or the ' I got married early' crew. As a side note, I used to laugh when I see people ranting on how much they love their parents because of the sacrifice their parents made to raise them. Yes it is true that your parents could choose not to raise you but at the same time it is their responsibility- a responsibility they willing took upon, most times even when it is obvious that they are not up for it financially or emotionally, to raise you. So I see nothing special in it, just parents taking care of their 'mess'. 4 Likes |
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