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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by dopeC: 5:45pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Man's want is insatiable! If your husband balances everything, you must still complain. You have a husband whom you could help, because nobody is perfect and you're hear saying he acts like an slowpoke. Lemme tell you this, Op, you know where your husband isn't doing it well; your work is to complement that. I just wish one day he learns to be hard on you , and I bet , by that time he must have become a monster cos u changed him, you will open another thread. Humans are just insatiable! |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by cococandy(f): 5:46pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
byvan03:i don't believe this story sha. Ihe ibe ya Na-acho since. How are you dear? |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by cococandy(f): 5:48pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
byvan03:Tell me o. She that was using the ATM didn't have enough sense to check the balance and see how far? She deserves the bashing. Na these kind ladies dey turn good men into something else 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by dj4real(m): 5:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
optimusprime2:you just spoke my mind!!I kind of understand the op though, because I think she's being this way because the husband is not her first or 50the choice and she's just realizing it now.I think she should just divorce him (though I know that will never happen,cos she probably married him after being used up)and let him go to somebody that deserves him more.. I'm sorry if anyone feels offended ,but this is what happens when a pro(someone who's had multiple sexual partners )marries a novice(virgin)... 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by byvan03: 6:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
cococandy: Am good dear, I will choose not to believe this gist because it makes no sense. Nwunyem ana agbakwa gi karate ofuma?Kedu Ka aru do gi? Jisike nne.. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by musicwriter(m): 6:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
cococandy: You wouldn't understand my sister. I don't have the energy. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by kandiikane(m): 6:26pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Divorce am na. He's too good for you. I mean, if he wants to take me to the hair salon and wait for me, let the people gossip who cares. Atleast, you have someone who will go with you to pick out your makeup or underwear at the store willingly without you having to drag them to come back inside. On a serious note, it can be quite difficult for some people when they have friends or partners who are like the op's husband. We have a saying, "Korno man good don do". Too much good can become overwhelming and uncomfortable and not even relationships, in everyday life. There is nothing wrong with being nice but people like this do things on the spur of the moment without thinking about the consequences(e.g, you buy a dress that you think will make her happy but there are bills to pay at home). For people with independent personalities, people with such personalities can be very suffocating. Op, I understand where you are coming from but mate, you need to relax and understand that is how he is. Just explain to him that when you have important things to like studies, training or when he is at work, he needs to chill abit. If still you cannot handle it, I am sure there are women how there who can handle his love and affection. It has just been one year, you can still leave, don't be the woman to make him turn cold hearted and then he will be running around saying, women, aren't sh!t and treating women who would have appreciated the way he was like shyt. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by byvan03: 6:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
cococandy: That shows her selfishness, who uses another's ATM card like that. They will be the first to open threads on how "he changed". Ife ana acho acho, some just don't how to enjoy being loved. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by awesome11(m): 6:37pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
halfrica:LOL.......halfrica... |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by kandiikane(m): 6:39pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: With many of the things you wrote, I did not see anything wrong with it but if from his behaviour you actually think like he would kill himself. This has turn to an obsession and it is not healthy. He will probably kill you and kill himself if you leave. Lol, you better change your mindset. Why don't you do exactly the same thing he does, reverse psychology and see whether it will help? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by cococandy(f): 6:46pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
byvan03:Ona agba m well well. Chei. But it's all good. I feel awesome 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by afroxyz: 6:48pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
commitcrime: Obviously you are very immature. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by afroxyz: 6:56pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Op your husband obviously missed his childhood/adolesence. He is trying to make up for lost time. However, didn't you notice these traits when you guys were dating? If he was still single I would have advised that he tries dating other women. When his heart gets broken and girls don show am pepper, he would man up. But your case is complex because you are married. I don't think talking to him would work because he does not see anything wrong with his action. His friends would complicate things because he would feel that they do not know what love means. If his parents are still alive, talk to them about it, especially the father. PS: nairaland is not the type of place to seek advise. The forum is filled with teenagers and emotionally fixated adults that cant transcend beyond their teenage psychological state. Those if you abusing the poster obviously don't get her drift. She needs a MAN not a puppet. What the hell would a man be doing with his wife in the salon EVERY WEEKEND for christ sakes? |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Ayt27(m): 7:05pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Op this is what you are saying summarily. -Your husband loves you -Your husband gives you a blank check with his ATM card -Your husband wants to go the saloon with you -Your husband gives you all your heart desires -Your husband is basically every woman's dream And you want to divorce him. Please, Please get a divorce and let's see how you fare in 3 years time with other men. Seriously, get the divorce. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by hyperflex(m): 7:06pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: My sister please say no.more I fully understand you. Let me first start with your husband. I.am something close to your husband but heartbreaks av taught me a lot about women. So I am wiser now. Your husband in his mind does not want to lose u. In his head you r the best thing that has happened to him. In fact the opportunity that he found u and u wanted to be with him must av been a miracle cuz he didn't expect it. In his head he thinks he's not worthy of you. In short ur the perfect person for him. So who gets mad @ someone they wish for and didn't expect to get but got her. I mean if I married Genevieve I might do exactly the same thing. He actually needs someone to wake him up. U shld try n correct him. Hopefully he might listen. What he's doing is more of a psychological thing (not saying he is mad o) but that's how he's wired for now. and you...I think it is in the past women admired chivalry , polite men, caring men , doting men but these days those kind of men r overrated. You r one of the billions of women who think men like that r overrated. You r probably used to men who talk down on u when u mess up, maybe slap u a bit and he is not that kind of person. In fact he's boring u being so predictable. Women don't like men they can control. I feel ur pain. But don't leave that man because u may never be able to replace him again. Ask urself does he give u 80% of ur needs? If he does be understanding n talk to him.don't divorce him for some wife beater. Some guy actually cut his wife's ear off with a plier the other day. I know u don't wanna be that woman. Understand ur husband. Appreciate him before its too late. If u need more friends to alleviate ur relationship do so. If he's a freak then try threesomes or roleplay. Ur just bored so try new things. Any questions? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ajaniogun14: 7:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
When your marriage is 2yrs and Ʊ have a baby boy that looks just like him, come back and re-share your story! Ʊ better enjoy the 'idolatry' while it lasts |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by babygirlfl: 7:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
cococandy: byvan03: Exactly. I don't believe the story. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by moonnstar(f): 7:23pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Strahovski:God bless u for dis comment. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by vivianblog(f): 7:49pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Saraha1(f): 8:05pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Compli0cated |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 8:07pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:I believe there are women going tru this situation,and there are thousands praying for such attention,its strange for you cus your past relationship has never been like that,also for your husband he adores cus u are his first and he loves you and now he is obsessed with you.don't be harsh towards him cus that would come across to him like you don't care. Sit him down,cuddle him,teLl him how much you love him,tell him why things he does will seem like he is the wife,idolize him,give him books that talks about been a man,he needs you,and I can assure you,he will change but if you divorce him in this situation, you are not safe cus he is obsessed with you.in btw he must been showing all of this characteristics before marriage,you saw it as the best quality then,so now you have a lot to do, divorce is a no go area.PRAY also.Goodluck |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by bukatyne(f): 8:16pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
MaziOmenuko: I cosign 100% |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by fortch: 8:17pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
My sister I don't think you know what you are talking about God gave you a loving and peaceful husband who is not making your life a hell you are complaining, you better be grateful and don't allow God to be angry with you .But if you feel you can't cope with his nature you can leave him and marry a man that would turn you into a punching bag. My marriage is 16yrs, I think you need to thank God. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by mozele(m): 8:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
It wont be bad if you caringly teach him. However, make sure you always include him in your prayers.... |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by bukatyne(f): 8:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Eketem: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ChukkyP: 8:33pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
You married a dream and you are coming here to complain. My only advise to you is to try and adjust your settings to his, because you are vast and more experienced when it comes to relationship. Also remember that he was a virgin when you met him. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by troy20(m): 8:49pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Why you people saying he has got a perfect man.what's perfect in that man.a man with little or no self exteem...no balls can never be right for anyone.what she said up there is the bare truth of life.yes passion wanes eventually in marriage and whatever social life there is but not this.a man upon birth has great responsibilities ahead as leaders and so has to build strong identities to cope. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by bukatyne(f): 8:51pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
byvan03: This is a description of a typical 'Nigerian' wife not capable of respecting a husband who loves her. She is his first love with no previous experience of hurt So He is still pure The story began to bend when she said He welcomed her with water from traffic instead of shouting like a normal husband I don't know How she jammed this 'abnormal husband'; they are certainly not in the same class. She even denied him sex for weeks and mismanaged his money because.... She cannot respect him because she is not wired to respect gentle guys. I pray she gets What she is looking for. Cc: cococandy & babygirlfl |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 9:19pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Nothing is wrong with a loving and caring husband but this guy is needy and clingy, which is probably the result of a low self-esteem. These are very off-putting traits as they are suffocating the person who is in a relationship with such a man or woman - understandably. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Eketem: 9:27pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
bukatyne: Thank you, she wants to stay in salon with women with cheating husbands and have something to lament about. She is a total annoying silly woman. He was watching TV she said she wanted another channel he respected her wish it is now a crime he should have sent her back to the kitchen with insults. Silly woman I am so upset |
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