izeek:

@sistawoman,
what if he suddenly hits the low after u decided to date him?
wud u up and leave then cos u reason for dating is mo longer there?

y me:

if he his ready to stand up as a man , why not
one thing i know for sure is that
life is gonna knock you down sometimes and that is okay
but what is not okay is if you let life keep you down

My darling y me is damn thoughtful )

Sisi Jinx:

NO! NO! NO! CAPITAL NOOOOOOOOOO!!!

I don't expect a guy to buy me stuff. . . in fact I abhor it coz it gives them this idea that they've bought you along with the stuff they got for you ^{[size=5pt]useless cretins[/size]}. . .but that's another story for another day.

Anyway, as I was saying. . . don't buy me anything abeg but please please be able to hold your own.

That's all I ask and it ain't too much to ask, is it?

C2H5OH:

Dating someone that has nothing to offer. What a waste. I wouldn't date anyone that doesn't have anything to offer me.

patwhizkid:

U don spoil

My response "I don't expect him to buy me stuff" was for those who think coz a girl won't go out with a guy who has nothing to offer, she is materialistic.

Like you said, it is not about what he possesses but come on. . .he gotta have something solid to stand right on.

Back on Topic
The scenario you just described still leaves many questions on answered. For instance, what is his attitude like? Is he working hard at getting a job or is he content with the hand me downs? Is there a sense of entitlement to his receiving?

Seriously, If I were in her shoes, I wouldn't marry him. . . just yet.

PS

Doncharlie:

Rome,they say was not built in a day.
The true worth of a man is not what he is today
but what he will make himself to be in future

Sasha009:

To be honest with ya, No, I cant

I'm not materialistic or vain, but at this stage in my life. I don't need a 'Manny' that I can boss around, feed, and control. Men who are not doing well financially are either very lazy, procrastinators or not educated. I would not feel too comfortable with the relationship. I like men who re very independent, successful (equal as me or more) and very social-conscious. a man who has nothing to offer will always feel intimidated by you, sometimes jealous of you, and they will be too easy to control.
You truly cant choose whom you fall in love with, but in the first place, a guy who has nothing to offer wont be attractive to me. some men re lazy bums and they re only after women who have money or are successful. Cant be bothered!

sistawoman:

Again i state that is fine when you are young but at my age the man I would date, if i was still single, are older than me and should be established by then.

I have been there done that, stood by my first husband, brought him along, helped him build his career, helped him stand on his two feet and he was doing very very very well. We seperated and divorced, his career went to hell and he started dating a watress with no dreams or asperations now he works at home depot with no career in site.

A good woman will push her man to the moon but a lazy one will hold him back with her.

A good man will push his woman to the moon but a lazy one will her back.

If both are hard workers with dreams and motive they will both make it. But if you have a lazy partner they will just pull you down because dragging dead weight around will get to you in the end.

You are only as good as the people you surround yourself with.