The question you should ask yourself is "Love or lust". I do not believe it is possible for a woman to be emotionally involved with two men. A woman usually will give her heart to one man and could lust after another but love 2 men, tsk, tsk, tsk. You are with the new guy because he satisfies you emotionally since the other one is not there to satisfy your needs.


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Jackal:

Babes, it has everything to do with morals.

Where is the self-control?
Are u saying there is an excuse for a woman to sleep with a man because she is at her lowest ebb?
What's that excuse?

my dear, read my post again. i neva said its an excuse and i neva said being vunerable makes it right. am only highlighting the tendency to feel that way as possible as against ur comment.

Yeah.to come to think of it,adetutu how come you got yo self innvolved in thie kind of situation.firstly you ve been with a guy for the past 4-5 years as it was stated.tell me don't you think thatz a cheat on you many years boy.for the 2nd guy i guess it lust not really love.is jst for that fact that you are seeing him and probably is always around you when you needed him doesn't mean he loves you like the other guy.i belive if you can give your self a gud thought/thinking the first don't really derserve what you are doing to him.any way i can chooose for ya that all i could say.jst keep yo head straight and wish best of luck,
But girls shaaaaaaaaaaaa,
Shhhhhhhhhh, shut up bro don't make her feel bad.

Adetutu 21,you are the cause of your problems, you are a home braker? why didn't you maintained your first boyfriend? how old are you?

@post

a confirmation that girls are as Hot and as much a cheat as guys, after 4yrs, just when the boyfriend cant give the usual attention,probably cos he is making money for both of then, they run around looking for any loose dick, just to satisfy their lust,and they think they are in love .pity! a guy will do same but wont mix his feelings,now who's better.

My advise,please leave your old boyfriend,guy's too good for ya, cos when married,while he gets busier cos the kids start arriving, you may find the attention u seek in OKON, the houseboy

Here the problem lies in between both parties. Well i think she might want to compare both

i dont think so. i think one man one woman ,

well adetutu,u case is same s mine, my girl was d one having two guys, but if i were to b a girl,i wuld always love d ist guy i have met b4 anyoda guy,he will always b d 1st and no one should b compared wit him, so my advice to u now is dat u kip ur head straight and always go 4 ur 1st guy ok? takiaaaaaa

With our Nigerian ladies.
Its very possible.
Love one 4 his wits, another for his looks, the third for his money,Another for his sexuality etc.

what ever good your hand findeth do it, i just hope you will not dig your grave yourself

Hell yeah, its possible to have deep feelings for two people, which could possibly be termed as love. But the truth is one will definitely have some qualities which outshines the other.

You are living dangerously. But the only honorable thing to do is to break it off with both of them, and then examine yourself. Why did you do this? When you figure that out you might be ready to try to find love again. But you are obviously not ready

if you think you love two guys at the same time, you should start looking for a new one. cause 4 neither one of them you have enought love to let the other one goe!!! there is more than two men in this world, so just dont satisfy yourself too quick! there is a cover for every bottle, if you know what im trying to say!

. . .and with this post, why do we still wonder why some relationships dnt last long?

There,s no way you can love the two guys equally so choose the one you love and stick your fucking ass with him

i think ur paying for ur lack of faithfullness and concentration on ur fisrt relationship, because no two persons are the same u must find something different with another person and the feeling too. u can't also love them equally. get busy so u won't be demanding all the time in the world from ur man because marriage is for serious minded ladies. also pray to God because marriage is not about chosing the one u prefer amongst ur numerous lovers but about god's choice for u. maybe none of them is ur husband from God's record.

chi21:

i don't think so. i think one man one woman ,

Well you are wrong. Its possible to be in love with two people. A lot of people refuse to accept this, but its possible.
Though everyone is unique and special in their own ways. They must be something spectacular u luv most about one of them, so, go for the one that facsinates u more than the other.

Yes, I think it's possible.

Yes it is HOWEVER one should not allow themselves to be in that position.

If you are in a relationship with one, but thinking about the other you are not honest with the current beau.

If you are in a relationship with both, you are definitely decieving them and should break it off until you are clear who is it that you desire.

i doubt it is possible. . .

i believe ur hearth can belong only to one person but u can feel sexual attracted to another one.
LOVE and S*X r to pair of shoes. . .

choose de 2 men u never can trust men dis dayz and u can still luv other men dat come 2wards u, it is ur life and u only live once so enjoy everything dat come ur way.

This is interesting, Do you sleep with both of them? if you can give a candid answer to the question then i would gladly comment.

As Humans we tend to drift towards the things that satisfy our longing. At the time you met the second guy i want to assume that you were longing for satisfaction for a particular area in your life which the first guy could not meet at the moment. Therein lies your dilemma. No man or woman can ever satisfy your longings 100%, you just have to learn to thrive in the absence of certain things or else you will find yourself drifting from men to men and wounding hearts along the way.

You cannot love two people at once. My advise is for you to focus on the first person and let go of the second. Understand your longings and discuss it with the first guy to see how he can meet those longings. Where he cannot you must learn to thrive inspite of the things absent. Besides if reverse is the case will you be estatic about the whole issue.

@Judesworld unfortunately yes. This is why you can see the endless "Who is the father of my child?" Maury show episodes.
Even in the "normal" world where ppl are secretive there are instances where a woman may have children with one man lets say 4 and 30 years later or so, it is realised that one was a love child. Without kids it is even possible. A love triangle with a girl and two boys ended in murder one year ago, where I live. She was sleeping with them both.

possible when none of them can offer you what you want and need. but cheating is very wrong, make up your mind and quite fast, treat people as you want to be treated