Some Warning Signs of Abuse

Isolation
Injuries & Excuses
Sudden change in personality or appearance
Self-blame
Extreme Jealousy on the part of the abusive partner

Helping a friend in an abusive Relationship

Listen without judging
When & If possible, remove them from immediate harm
Offer information, not advice
Keep it confidential
Let your friend know that you are there, no matter what
Be patient

There are different forms of abuse. Such as: physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse and psychological abuse.

Which of these forms of abuse are you actually referring to?

Decker:
There are different forms of abuse. Such as: physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse and psychological abuse.

Which of these forms of abuse are you actually referring to?

Great observation, Decker! The post has been modified to indicate Domestic Violence, though some of the types of abuse you mentioned also fall under "Abuse" in general.

Yes

kossyablaze:
Yes

Would you care to share? With the understanding that they would remain anonymous? Or a private message, whatever is more comfortable for you.

Totalgist:

Would you care to share? With the understanding that they would remain anonymous? Or a private message, whatever is more comfortable for you.

Itz a painful experience growing up recalling how my neighbours daughter dah was way more older than I am molests me.She explored and took advantage of my innocence.Doing some nasty things to me....it hurts...can't continue anymore,my eyes are already heavy.

kossyablaze:
Itz a painful experience growing up recalling how my neighbours daughter dah was way more older than I am molests me.She explored and took advantage of my innocence.Doing some nasty things to me....it hurts...can't continue anymore,my eyes are already heavy.

Very sorry to hear about this painful memory you suffered. May I ask, if you're male or female? Do you still live in that same environment? Please remember to respond to what you feel comfortable to do.

Totalgist:


Very sorry to hear about this painful memory you suffered. May I ask, if you're male or female? Do you still live in that same environment? Please remember to respond to what you feel comfortable to do.

I'm male...Nah not living in the same environment.Haven't seen her for a decade now.

kossyablaze:
I'm male...Nah not living in the same environment.Haven't seen her for a decade now.

Great to hear that! The first thing to always do, when able, is to remove oneself from immediate harm.

You've held this memory for ten years now, so I will take it that you were at an age where you could tell something was wrong. Have you ever shared this memory with anyone else? Sometimes talking through the abuse,helps you understand that you did nothing wrong. It was NOT your fault, you did not ask for it nor invite it- you were abused.

@Kossyablaze and anyone dealing with a past childhood trauma, know that, "confronting the totality of our painful experiences is the only way to gain mastery over the past". As this is an open forum, I'll share a helpful link to get you started.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/culturally-speaking/201303/overcoming-the-pain-childhood-abuse-and-neglect

Totalgist:


Great to hear that! The first thing to always do, when able, is to remove oneself from immediate harm.

You've held this memory for ten years now, so I will take it that you were at an age where you could tell something was wrong. Have you ever shared this memory with anyone else? Sometimes talking through the abuse,helps you understand that you did nothing wrong. It was NOT your fault, you did not ask for it nor invite it- you were abused.

Yeah shared it with 3 of my friends(girls).My mum and sisters dunno a thing bout it.Thanks for the link

domestic violence but i flee when he least expected and gave him the greatest heartbreak /shock of his life because he thought I was still going to walk down the altar with him........ Nonsense






In short i ran to another town because for the past 2yrs, hes still telling people he doesn't know i can do such a thing to him, but who care Mtcheeew

kossyablaze:
Yeah shared it with 3 of my friends(girls).My mum and sisters dunno a thing bout it.Thanks for the link

You are welcome. Keep in touch.

pet4ril:
domestic violence but i flee when he least expected and gave him the greatest heartbreak /shock of his life because he thought I was still going to walk down the altar with him........ Nonsense






In short i ran to another town because for the past 2yrs, hes still telling people he doesn't know i can do such a thing to him, but who care Mtcheeew

Bravo! I am sorry to hear about the domestic violence you suffered but very happy that you got away from it all. Abusers (especially in DV) always put on a persona of being charming outwardly to the public. You went through the experience and so know the true reality of it all.

Continue being a survivor!

I've been the abuser and the abused. Life goes on, there's no big deal about it

Totalgist:

Bravo! I am sorry to hear about the domestic violence you suffered but very happy that you got away from it all. Abusers (especially in DV) always put on a persona of being charming outwardly to the public. You went through the experience and so know the true reality of it all.

Continue being a survivor!

thanks

kossyablaze:
Itz a painful experience growing up recalling how my neighbours daughter dah was way more older than I am molests me.She explored and took advantage of my innocence.Doing some nasty things to me....it hurts...can't continue anymore,my eyes are already heavy.

Hmmmmm.....kossy u sure so

AdaEkube:
Hmmmmm.....kossy u sure so

O my!Lilly!what a world....yeah I'm so sure

kossyablaze:
Yeah shared it with 3 of my friends(girls).My mum and sisters dunno a thing bout it.Thanks for the link

you no well

misspicy:
you no well

Hmmm