Not in support of her rudeness. Oga nah you cause the whole thing, because you is her boss, you don't chik you'r female employees to avoid running down your business next time. there are other girls outside there that you can chik

Bros, the matter should never be allowed to pass. You have committed the blunder already by asking your own employee out, what were you thinking? You want to bring disgrace to yourself and destroy your business? Anyway, the deed is done already. This is my advice:

1. Issue her a query signed by her immediately superior on your directives but not signed by you. This will help destroy her pride and ego. The response time for the query should be within 6hrs during the day.

2. Once you receive the answer to the query direct that she should immediately embark on 4-weeks suspension without pay. Attach someone to escort her out of the office as she picks her things.This will definitely be humiliating to her. Pls ensure you pay her up to date along with whatever Christmas bonus every staff is entitled to.


The above actions will go a long way in restoring your honour while serving as deterrent to others.

mudility:
Hey pals, if you have read my previous post https://www.nairaland.com/2738913/love-employee you will remember i was crushing on one of my female worker.

After i hastily made my intentions known to her, I was given those kind of funny attitude ladies display when not interested.

On a one on one discussion, she said she will not date me for two reasons. 1. because i am her boss and 2. because she has a boyfriend.

Okay, i totally respect her decision but i realized her attitude changed. She sometimes arrives late to work, flirt with my costumers to make me jealous. The final straw that broke the camel back is when i was scolding my other worker for her mistakes and complains am getting from my customers about her.

What i heard was this my employee i had crush on saying to me with boldness that i dont have to talk to her that way. I was shocked to my bone marrow that i ordered her to keep quit and leave my presence.

After i got home, i could not stop thinking about her rude bahaviour. I almost payed her off today but the sympathetic me decide to keep her till month end.

Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

You created the scene for such arrogance, deal with it.
Sacking her should be the last thing you should resort to. It was your fault in the first place. So why not try and talk it over with her first. She may have her reasons. Most girls in this situation especially when they also have a crush on you and know that they can't resist you for long, in an effort to avoid been tempted, they start doing things that will make you hate them.

So why not try the following steps.

1. Invite her to your office and query her for disrespecting you in the presence of other employees

2. Observe her response, if she is remorseful, there is hope, if she isn't then..

3. But before you sack her, admit your fault of allowing yourself attach personal concerns to business. Tell her that you have accepted her refusal of you, and that you are looking forward not to repeat such mistake again. But if she wants to take advantage or use that as an opportunity to disrespect you, you'll have her fired.

What I mean is that, you try and win back her confidence in you, and you'll win your reputation as well.

Fire her carelessly, you risk been discredited by one of your female employee. You may not know how far that might go affecting you in the future.

Wisdom is profitable unto all things.

mudility:


Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

sacking her is not the solution, you caused it by asking her out, ask yourself this question: is she valuable to my business? if the answer is yes then talk to her about it and warn herto stop disrespecting you.

what happens if you employ another lady and you still can't resist asking her out?

As an HR person and also an advocate, you can't just wake-up one day and sack your employee; if she takes you to court, she might have an edge over you.

Before issuing her the sack letter, make sure you give her free hearing i.e several written queries and accompany each queries with warning (oral or written).

There after, if she refuse to change, you can show her the way out.

Lesson: if you want your business to grow, never mix business with pleasure.

This is serious.... do the needful before ur business crumbles 'cos of lust. If you studied her before making move, u wud have probably predicted her response.

dazzlingd:
immaturity..
u need to play a mind game here....
if u sack her, she will make a cheap blackmail out of it...
guy, u sud be a big boy nah, go get a girl hotter than her, flaunt wat u've got and deal with her on a very formal note.

If she does not quit in regret, come back here and quote me.

@mudility this is the best advice so far.

mudility:
Hey pals, if you have read my previous post https://www.nairaland.com/2738913/love-employee you will remember i was crushing on one of my female worker.

After i hastily made my intentions known to her, I was given those kind of funny attitude ladies display when not interested.

On a one on one discussion, she said she will not date me for two reasons. 1. because i am her boss and 2. because she has a boyfriend.

Okay, i totally respect her decision but i realized her attitude changed. She sometimes arrives late to work, flirt with my costumers to make me jealous. The final straw that broke the camel back is when i was scolding my other worker for her mistakes and complains am getting from my customers about her.

What i heard was this my employee i had crush on saying to me with boldness that i dont have to talk to her that way. I was shocked to my bone marrow that i ordered her to keep quit and leave my presence.

After i got home, i could not stop thinking about her rude bahaviour. I almost payed her off today but the sympathetic me decide to keep her till month end.

Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

Hmm. warn her of her rudeness and if it still continues fire her pls.

this ur girl self?

mudility:
Hey pals, if you have read my previous post https://www.nairaland.com/2738913/love-employee you will remember i was crushing on one of my female worker.

After i hastily made my intentions known to her, I was given those kind of funny attitude ladies display when not interested.

On a one on one discussion, she said she will not date me for two reasons. 1. because i am her boss and 2. because she has a boyfriend.

Okay, i totally respect her decision but i realized her attitude changed. She sometimes arrives late to work, flirt with my costumers to make me jealous. The final straw that broke the camel back is when i was scolding my other worker for her mistakes and complains am getting from my customers about her.

What i heard was this my employee i had crush on saying to me with boldness that i dont have to talk to her that way. I was shocked to my bone marrow that i ordered her to keep quit and leave my presence.

After i got home, i could not stop thinking about her rude bahaviour. I almost payed her off today but the sympathetic me decide to keep her till month end.

Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

You are just being jealous. Get over yourself man!

mudility:
Hey pals, if you have read my previous post https://www.nairaland.com/2738913/love-employee you will remember i was crushing on one of my female worker.

After i hastily made my intentions known to her, I was given those kind of funny attitude ladies display when not interested.

On a one on one discussion, she said she will not date me for two reasons. 1. because i am her boss and 2. because she has a boyfriend.

Okay, i totally respect her decision but i realized her attitude changed. She sometimes arrives late to work, flirt with my costumers to make me jealous. The final straw that broke the camel back is when i was scolding my other worker for her mistakes and complains am getting from my customers about her.

What i heard was this my employee i had crush on saying to me with boldness that i dont have to talk to her that way. I was shocked to my bone marrow that i ordered her to keep quit and leave my presence.

After i got home, i could not stop thinking about her rude bahaviour. I almost payed her off today but the sympathetic me decide to keep her till month end.

Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

Sacking her is the easy way out. Why dont you try the hard way out?
Remember you where the person that brought yourself to her level. You told her you wanted her. To women you have just made yourself cheap in her eyes, many ladies will see it as a mean to gloat and trample over a guy that makes such confession.
We know after such work situation will become weird and she may or will develop an attitude in the whole work area. An attitude with the job, the boss, her other colleague and your clients. Her female brain won't compute anything else.

Now this thing am about to write has already being written above me but they didn't do justice to it.
You be in the man in the situation now have to be smart cos your self respect depends on how you act. If you sack her now she will tell anyone willing to hear that you sacked her cos she refused you. It's popularity you don't need.
I suggest you keep her on and don't sack her yet. But call her to your office sit her down and leave you office door open so that anyone passing by can see you peeps are just talking. Then you give her a lecture about attitude at work and how to handle colleagues. Don't let her interrupt while you talk. If she tries to interrupt which she will try tell her to pls keep quiet that you are still her boss. When you are done with the lecture then go on to thr more difficukt and uncomfortable part. Tell her to please forget what you mentioned to her about your wanting her that from this her nasty character, attitude and disrespect of colleagues and client it is now clear to you that you were mislead in thinking she was worth wanting. Then guy you archive her matter and close that chapter completely. You remain collegial, polite and nice to her just like your other workers. You don't do, act, look or smile at her in any different manner that will make her think she still get the power cos bros na power struggle una dey there and one person must blink first.

kai OP you self! initially i didn't know you even went as far as asking your employee out haba! if you were 100% alive your responsibilities and focused on your work, these feelings for the seeming tastefully curvaceous employee of yours and your hormones would never have come alive in the first place! Oga now that your hormones has been triggered and set on fire, how are we gonna help you . get ready to carry your cross alone.



ENDTIME EMPLOYER! chai

Kayoski:
This happens when you mix business with pleasure..



I guess ur business is still in infant stage and u r not so rich ... cos I wonder why she would refuse u in the first place...




I advice u caution her for the last time ( show her u r the boss) but if symptoms persists FIRE HER..

My mind guy. I concur 100%. Let her know that whatever transpired in the past or will transpires in the future is strictly business. She should conform or be fired. If she react negatively, bros, ask her to go immediately and pay her off. Her attitude may spread to your other workers and negatively impact your business. A stitch in time...
NB: I belong to that school of thought that believe "if it is for a serious relationship" you are not wrong in asking her out in the first place.

Op...u must go and get a life....such nonsense can only happen in Nigeria....if am that girl I will sue you for

Its pretty simple OP, she's blackmailing you emotionally.

My advice:

Call her to you office and calmly but firmly ask her to explain her recent behaviour.

When she's done, let her know that though you value her personally as well as her contribution to the business, you value your business more and that is why you employed her in the first instance. Put your business first!

Let her know you made advances towards her as a person and not as her boss. Then tell her you have since moved on and so should she.

State instances of her bad behaviour and let her know the only reason you haven't reacted yet is because you value her contribution.

Ask her if she wants to quit or not, and if not, tell her insubordination will no longer be tolerated as it is affecting the business.

Finally, issue her a query in writing and let her know she's under probation and any more nuisance will earn her a sack.

Continue to be professional in your relationship with her and keep everything strictly formal. If she steps out of line again you know what to do.


I hope this helps.

*Make sure you record your conversation without her knowing.

Sack her and she too will open her own thread and tell the world how her boss sack her for not accepting his proposal. Either way you still have to sack her.

Keneking:
Nope don't sack

1. Give a second chance
2. Next time scold your employees privately.
3. Employ someone to understudy her.
4. Treat the issues like it never occurred.

By the way, what trade are you into? What's this business about? Sounds like a Drycleaner business...please confirm quickly

Dry cleaner !! #Lmao

I no want talk abeg!

Set her up bro.... employ another male worker in her field and tell the girl to always report to him before the final work reach your table, make sure ther person is a no nonsense man, I know she will want to rude to that person and that's where you will come in by giving her warning letter, after three warning letters you FIRE her.

Don't forget to react to her simple mistakes base on work so that her warning letter go quike reach three.

Thank God say the girl no gree for you bro, the matured version go gree so that 1 naira u no go gain from that your business...this is what happen when u mix pleasure with business.

Op, it's not wrong to have a crush on your employee and telling her about bow you feel was not a mistake. Your first mistake will be sacking the lady. Don't talk to her alone, call a general end of the year meeting, appreciate all your employees for their support and state the things you can't stand. you're the boss, u call the shots. Treat this lady like any other staff. DO NOT SACK THE LADY!

with that kind of behaviour, she would run your business down... she feels you are so in "love" that you cant do anything if she misbehave... if you are 100% business minded, you would realize it is time to let her go - sack her.

mudility:
Hey pals, if you have read my previous post https://www.nairaland.com/2738913/love-employee you will remember i was crushing on one of my female worker.

After i hastily made my intentions known to her, I was given those kind of funny attitude ladies display when not interested.

On a one on one discussion, she said she will not date me for two reasons. 1. because i am her boss and 2. because she has a boyfriend.

Okay, i totally respect her decision but i realized her attitude changed. She sometimes arrives late to work, flirt with my costumers to make me jealous. The final straw that broke the camel back is when i was scolding my other worker for her mistakes and complains am getting from my customers about her.

What i heard was this my employee i had crush on saying to me with boldness that i dont have to talk to her that way. I was shocked to my bone marrow that i ordered her to keep quit and leave my presence.

After i got home, i could not stop thinking about her rude bahaviour. I almost payed her off today but the sympathetic me decide to keep her till month end.

Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

My guy, there is no sin in ur request...give her a good, unforgettable beating of her life when ever she tries that with you again...fire her thereafter

ceejayluv:

Bill Gates married his employee.. nothing wrong with the move.

he isn't bill Gates is he?

SHE WOULD'VE BEEN TERMINATED ON THE SPOT, THE VERY TIME SHE CHALLENGED YOUR AUTHORITY. IF IT WAS ME, PERIOD. SOME WOMEN CAN BE THAT STU PID. SHE CAN NEVER BE VERY PRODUCTIVE FOR YOU AGAIN. LET HER GO

kokomilala:
You almost ate dodo, so it's becoming increasingly difficult for you to sododo...lol! You need a lot of grace and tact to handle it.Now, draw a line between business and intimacy.Take the first and ditch the latter.Call her to your office and have a straight talk with with without any notion of ever dating her.Tell her to be professional or she gets the boots.Then, address the whole staff and spell out the rules of engagement to them again, if you've already done it.Sanction any who flouts the rules including her.

This is the best rule of engagement

Please be careful as this situation may lead to something else.

She may sue you or tarnish the image of your business for sexual assault.

mudility:

Thanks. She should have approach me privately when am calm to advise me on my anger not in front of the other worker. If i don't do anything about this,other workers may copy her rudeness.

Sir, sack her before she blackmail you. infact, sack her before 10am today

Do you think she change or You changed because of the rejection, your Ego might be hurt. Look Simple tell her that she needs to get it straight liking her or not, the next time she talks to you in that Manner she's gone.

mudility:
Hey pals, if you have read my previous post https://www.nairaland.com/2738913/love-employee you will remember i was crushing on one of my female worker.

After i hastily made my intentions known to her, I was given those kind of funny attitude ladies display when not interested.

On a one on one discussion, she said she will not date me for two reasons. 1. because i am her boss and 2. because she has a boyfriend.

Okay, i totally respect her decision but i realized her attitude changed. She sometimes arrives late to work, flirt with my costumers to make me jealous. The final straw that broke the camel back is when i was scolding my other worker for her mistakes and complains am getting from my customers about her.

What i heard was this my employee i had crush on saying to me with boldness that i dont have to talk to her that way. I was shocked to my bone marrow that i ordered her to keep quit and leave my presence.

After i got home, i could not stop thinking about her rude bahaviour. I almost payed her off today but the sympathetic me decide to keep her till month end.

Pls friends , what do u think about my intended plan?

See ya life , you don't see am now. Wetin go come happen if to say she come gree , na she go dey control you. I have always said it , do not attempt to woo a girl working for you or in your office especially when she is your subordinate. More so if you exercise a little patience you'll see most of the ladies you crush on tend have rank attitudes , now go and prepare that sack letter.

Oh boy, go and fire yourself. You opened the gates of hell, now its time to feel the heat.

mudility:

Thanks. She should have approach me privately when am calm to advise me on my anger not in front of the other worker. If i don't do anything about this,other workers may copy her rudeness.

I advise ,you give her a one week suspension without pay if her performance is well valued in the organisation but if not. Don't hesitate to fire her before other co workers disrespect you the same way she is doing now.

donTbone:
ok...
THINGS TO TAKE NOTE OF BEFORE ASKING A GIRL OUT.
1. NO matter who you are, you will be treated ike the other guys. Be it
older than her father.

2. Before approaching her, get prepared for insult. It might not be their
personality, but most of them use it as a SCARY CROW

3. Ask her out in the same organization, only if you are sure she has a crush
on you too. Else, everybody will know

4. If you ask her out and she said NO, dont be sad or look remoseful. Simple way
to get to her is to show you are always happy without her.

http://datingyouths..com

Now to the point.... As per the mis-behaviour and disrespect...
Simple: Just SACK HER! You already know she has no manners.

Her you going to get her another Job? She didn't ask to be drooled over by the able boss

sammieee:
must u comment? Definitely you will do d same for yo boss if he approach you...smh

...bro am not saying the lady did the right thing, all am saying is,that is what happen when you ask your employee out at times. Work and passion should not be together. Am not saying you can't find love in your working place but there some firm or big companies in nigeria that if you find your spouse in your working place, one of you must resign although not all companies do so but that's the rules most of them follow. My job should be different from passion

Op never let a betrayal go unpunished or else you are done as a leader. You betrayed yourself when you asked her out. While she in turn betrayed you by questioning your methods. My advice to is that pay her all the benefits accrued to her and wish her luck in her future callings.
In this game of managing people never take things too personal or that will be your downfall.

My brother i av jst one question for you?are u marroed? If yes pls ask God 4 forguvness n let go d gal.remember d wages of sin is death. Ug on d other hand u r nt married den u av to tke it easy on her n try nt to b too informal wit her. Try to b mor formal n let ur orders b strickly followed. By d end of d month u can let her go. If do not do dat she might ruin ur biz n mke ur female customers luk at u as an abuser of d female gender.