Probs

Its quite a problem. But love conquers all.

Besides, you can't just decide to leave after 8 long years. Just marry her and let everyone find out later. Please don't break that girls heart.

If you truly love her then go ahead and marry her.


God will make a way.

Bro I love ur courage I must tell u and also wanna open ur eyez to this that nowadays there r ways to detect an SS genotype baby early and u can easily flush from her womb without damage and effects. Also a medical way of knowing which baby will not be SS.


Just my opinion

LOVE conquers nothing bro, ure are not meant 4 each other period, pls bros as hard it may seems, i urge u to forgo d relationship for the benfit of ur health and that of ur unborn children.

softappless:
LOVE conquers nothing bro, ure are not meant 4 each other period, pls bros as hard it may seems, i urge u to forgo d relationship for the benfit of ur health and that of ur unborn children.

Their kids would be AS and I think that's fairly okay. There are SS people who live well. I suggest you don't discriminate against them as they need love too.

sben2308:
Bro I love ur courage I must tell u and also wanna open ur eyez to this that nowadays there r ways to detect an SS genotype baby early and u can easily flush from her womb without damage and effects. Also a medical way of knowing which baby will not be SS.


Just my opinion

AA and SS can't produce an SS child. This is what happens when you refuse to pay attention in Biology class.

Than u s much for understandinng. Exactly my plan. I want them to find out later.she may be ss but am suffering from a worse condition than ss and its love

Thank u brotherly

i read a story of an 89 year old ss.
She is Nigerian too.
If you love her, then marry her. We all die some day.

I hope she manages her condition well enough because that is more important and that would be the only condition i would advice you don't go further with her.

But if she does, then by all means go ahead with you plans.

Well the decision is made already. You love her and she is someone you can marry.

If she loves you back then that is settled too. As long as she is willing to be your wife.

The next phase will be your families supporting you and standing by you.

As for her friends or others who may think you are marrying her out of pity. I do not see how this should concern you.

They are entitled to their opinions. I do not see how what people think or what you feel that people think should bother you.

You marriage is you and her and to some extent your families. Forget all this bullishit about ''dont bother about your family, she is the one you are getting married to bla bla bla''.

You will need their and the support of your family. She will also need her family's support. Try as much as possible to make sure both families are in agreement and acceptance of your decisions.

Your kids will all be AS. So, they will have to marry AAs. If they marry an AS they have one in four chances of getting an SS.

You must know that pregnancy is a challenge for SS women. The stress of pregnancy at times becomes too strong.

She will need to be properly cared for and observed. With proper care she will put to bed safely.

braine:
Their kids would be AS and I think that's fairly okay. There are SS people who live well. I suggest you don't discriminate against them as they need love too.






AA and SS can't produce an SS child. This is what happens when you refuse to pay attention in Biology class.

MR lecturer thank u but when it comes to the life and health of my kids, i dont do fairly ok, i want perfectly ok as in top notch, i know iv not given birth to kids, but trust me when i do, then they are my joy and life.

chairman, I dnt exactly see wat the problem is?
u love her too much? she is too emotional? she doesn't reciprocate ur love? she is ss? u dnt want pple to say u married her out of pity cuz of her ss condition?
wch one of these is ur problem.

u sd u love her so much, then marry am na, as the ss issue no be issue.

softappless:
MR lecturer thank u but when it comes to the life and health of my kids, i dont do fairly ok, i want perfectly ok as in top notch, i know iv not given birth to kids, but trust me when i do, then they are my joy and life.

And they're more important than their mother??

AS people are just as normal as AA and AC. The only issue is that they carry the recessive sickle cell gene. Stop discriminating.

Cpumping:
chairman, I dnt exactly see wat the problem is?

u love her too much?
she is too emotional?
she doesn't reciprocate ur love?
she is ss?
u dnt want pple to say u married her out of pity cuz of her ss condition?

wch one of these is ur problem.


u sd u love her so much, then marry am na, as the ss issue no be issue.

the problem is maybe as a result of the societal descrimination,she is predisposed by the fact that I may at some point regret the marriage so therefore she is rather scared than myself. Pls understand

braine:


And they're more important than their mother??

offcourse not, if i dont love my wife then i wud nt get married to her in d first place, "its the profound and divine LOVE that i will have 4 her that is what will make me propose to her, dats why im taking my time and life before going into any relationship becaus my next girlfriend will be my life partner, thats my goal.

braine:


And they're more important than their mother??

AS people are just as normal as AA and AC. The only issue is that they carry the recessive sickle cell gene. Stop discriminating.

i am nt discriminating

softappless:
offcourse not, if i dont love my wife then i wud nt get married to her in d first place, "its the profound and divine LOVE that i will have 4 her that is what will make me propose to her, dats why im taking my time and life before going into any relationship becaus my next girlfriend will be my life partner, thats my goal.

So?,Did op tell you he doesn't love the girl? I guess you've answered all my questions.

My brother Ss is not a death sentence, a lot of people die everyday who are AA and are supposedly 'healthy"..besides in case u don't know,there is a cure for the disease now,its different from the previous bone marrow thing, even tho its kinda similar..as long as u guys love each other genuinely then I'll advice u to go ahead and wife her asap before someone beats u to it,this life is just crazy,u could end up with a wife who is not Ss and she will make ur life hell,happiness is all that matters in life,I'll rather be very happy with someone even if its just for a few secs than to be miserable with another for a lifetime.. choose wisely

softappless:
offcourse not, if i dont love my wife then i wud nt get married to her in d first place, "its the profound and divine LOVE that i will have 4 her that is what will make me propose to her, dats why im taking my time and life before going into any relationship becaus my next girlfriend will be my life partner, thats my goal.

this is not a prayer but have u considered the fact that even when two people are healthy before marriage things could go wrong along the way?I am not praying for any ills towards u but that's reality. If God forbids the man or the woman looses an arm or leg or even fazed with stroke. Wat will u say?

torqque7:
My brother Ss is not a death sentence, a lot of people die everyday who are AA and are supposedly 'healthy"..besides in case u don't know,there is a cure for the disease now,its different from the previous bone marrow thing, even tho its kinda similar..as long as u guys love each other genuinely then I'll advice u to go ahead and wife her asap before someone beats u to it,this life is just crazy,u could end up with a wife who is not Ss and she will make ur life hell,happiness is all that matters in life,I'll rather be very happy with someone even if its just for a few secs than to be miserable with another for a lifetime.. choose wisely

wherever u are or what u do may God visit u with blessings...u are a reasonable human beign. Thank u to a fault

dante300:
the problem is maybe as a result of the societal descrimination,she is predisposed by the fact that I may at some point regret the marriage so therefore she is rather scared than myself. Pls understand

Mr man, our life is in God's hand and I blv anybody can 'peme' at any fvcking time.

You don't need our advice before u marry that lady cos u already knew her condition from day 1 (8yrs).

It will be hard for that Lady to start all over again and I want u to understand that there is no saint out there nowadays cos all ladies gat their 'tag' which we guys must adapt to whether we like it or not.

I wish both of u success

dante300:
this is not a prayer but have u considered the fact that even when two people are healthy before marriage things could go wrong along the way?I am not praying for any ills towards u but that's reality. If God forbids the man or the woman looses an arm or leg or even fazed with stroke. Wat will u say?

GOD 4bid, but if it happens to someone else, like i said a wife loosen her hands will not affect the health of the kids, what im concern abt is the health of the kids, as for the wife take her to USA in newyork and with few surgical operations her hand will be recovered.

hmmmmm

dante300:
wherever u are or what u do may God visit u with blessings...u are a reasonable human beign. Thank u to a fault

Amen..thanks

dante300:
I am in my early 30s and consider myself ready for marriage. I have dated this lovely girl for about 8yrs and we have had ups and downs.. Truth be told she told me about her genotype condition right from the onset of the relationship. I do not have an issue with her genotype condition as I am AA myself and truely inlove with her.during this 8yrs of our relationship she has had very few amount of crises and I honestly don't care if its more coz the bible says marriage is for better for worse and I want to start right from now.I am not claiming commando or rambo its just that what I feel for her is real. Problem now am facing as any ther ss female or male patient would think is that I simply want to marry her out of pitty. I honestly do not think of anything close to that.as my love for her is real. Anybody could be ss and anybody could die at any point in life. We must not all grow old before we die. Despite the fact that she doesn't easily fall sick, No one knows of her condition in my own family (friends inclusive)as I know if they do they might descriminate us both..another problem is that she is very sensitive and emotional as I have in the past hurt her without knowing it. I am sorry for this long writeup I just need help.fact is even if I end up not marrying her,it is expected that someone should marry her and at the moment I think I understand and willing. What's opinin friends. Whoevr is mean to me on thi topic shuld remember that this life is short and we live it once.thank u

oga ss or sp or sd or s wateva no b crime.marry am joor

softappless:
GOD 4bid, but if it happens to someone else, like i said a wife loosen her hands will not affect the health of the kids, what im concern abt is the health of the kids, as for the wife take her to USA in newyork and with few surgical operations her hand will be recovered.

from ur last post sir, it is clear that your opinion on this issue is handicapped. Sorry for using that word. I am not pleading for your advice. If u had read from the begining their is a difference between advice and opinion. Yours has no objection at all. Just outright descrimination and misunderstanding f the entire topic as a whole

dante300:
from ur last post sir, it is clear that your opinion on this issue is handicapped. Sorry for using that word. I am not pleading for your advice. If u had read from the begining their is a difference between advice and opinion. Yours has no objection at all. Just outright descrimination and misunderstanding f the entire topic as a whole

yeah i totally agree with u, pardon me bcaus i did not read the story.

braine:
Their kids would be AS and I think that's fairly okay. There are SS people who live well. I suggest you don't discriminate against them as they need love too.






AA and SS can't produce an SS child. This is
what happens when you refuse to pay attention in Biology class.

*ROTFL*

dante300:
Than u s much for understandinng. Exactly my plan. I want them to find out later.she may be ss but am suffering from a worse condition than ss and its love

Love nwantintin o...

There's no problem marrying someone with SS provided you are AA. Your kids will be fine.

However, SS patients need to pay constant attention to their health. She needs to be going regularly for her sickle cell clinic.
Pregnancies should be booked as early as possible and extra care taken during pregnancies. Pregnancies must be well spaced, like 4 to 5 years in between pregnancies. This is to allow their bodies to try and recover.
They must be regular on their medications.
Any form of illness eve if its common cold shouldn't be joked with.
Goodluck sha, since you say she hardly has crises

I'm not a scientist but I know for a fact that AA marrying SS isn't in anyway harmful to the kids

eyinjuege:


Love nwantintin o...

There's no problem marrying someone with SS provided you are AA. Your kids will be fine.

However, SS patients need to pay constant attention to their health. She needs to be going regularly for her sickle cell clinic.
Pregnancies should be booked as early as possible and extra care taken during pregnancies. Pregnancies must be well spaced, like 4 to 5 years in between pregnancies. This is to allow their bodies to try and recover.
They must be regular on their medications.
Any form of illness eve if its common cold shouldn't be joked with.
Goodluck sha, since you say she hardly has crises

peopel wh reason like u are scrace....I am sure u are a very educated person. Thatnx for ur opinion