I have a lot of friends but not everytime i like going out. I prefer staying indoors and on my own most of the time. I could watch tv a whole day and I don't feel lonely or bored. I just prefer that. My family especially my mother always makes me uncomfortable being myself like i have 2 brothers and i am the only girl. My brothers are very outgoing in that they like spending time outside a whole lot. My mum would compare me to them and that puts me down. I am no angel, I do all hings but at the same time i still prefer being indoors even by myself, on my own.

The other time, there was an event mentioned and my elder brother was saying something about his high school friends that I don't keep in touch with mine. I do but not all of them just very few i like. It's like they don't know me well or something.

I have friends, places, events but i also like spending time with myself a lot, just my personal choice, so am i anti-social, shy or what?

you are anti-social not shy

But i socialise a lot. I just spend most of my time indoors because that is what i prefer.

so what is the ratio of time you spend socializing vs being by yourself?
ex 30/70, 70/30, 50/50 etc.

I personally can be anti-social at times and be social at other times. is that what u mean?

@Nicky, dont mind anybody, do what u like jor. Same ni.

maybe more like 40/60. yes that is what i mean but it's like my family do not see it that way like i am doing somehing wrong. It's just my own choice and i'm not bored or lonely. when i want to go out, i do but most of the time, it's indoors by myself,maybe just watching tv.

It can be a nigerian thing as well. esp if your parents are the party owambe type.

keep doing what u like doing jare sis.  no be by force to become a social nut.

Go out with our friends. If your friends were really your friends, they'd force you to go with them.

Dude, anti-social can be a symptom of depression, think on that

I'm not depressed. I get sad or so once in a while but not the reason for staying indoors, maybe i am not just that person that goes out toomuch, my friends disturb me all the time but sometimes i have to tell them i dont feel like just becasue i feel like staying indoors but sometimes, i am the one to force them out.

more people are keeping to themselves these days for various reasons, including the lack of privacy and invasion of personal space which is very common abroad where every tom, d*ck and harry is all up in your personal business.

However, it could be a phase.

Easy internet access doesnt always help matters, I'm afraid. if you're not careful you get used to being either on the computer or staring at the tv for a good part of the day- time that could better be used resting or doing some other activity.

You can also look for some kind of club that does things you're interested in or would like to take up.

No man is an island, but I think you'll probably perk up after a while.

i don't think you are anti social you are an introvert person just like your brothers are extrovert. and there is nothing wrong with being an introvert person. everyone is different, so are you.

There's nothing wrong with you girl. It's not as if you dont go out at all.

tpiah:

more people are keeping to themselves these days for various reasons, including the lack of privacy and invasion of personal space which is very common abroad where every tom, d*ck and harry is all up in your personal business.

However, it could be a phase.

Easy internet access doesnt always help matters, I'm afraid. if you're not careful you get used to being either on the computer or staring at the tv for a good part of the day- time that could better be used resting or doing some other activity.

You can also look for some kind of club that does things you're interested in or would like to take up.

No man is an island, but I think you'll probably perk up after a while.

I agree with you too but the thing is i am not lonely or bored. i have things going on this is just what i prefer

~Sissy~:

i don't think you are anti social you are an introvert person just like your brothers are extrovert. and there is nothing wrong with being an introvert person. everyone is different, so are you.

mbola:

There's nothing wrong with you girl. It's not as if you dont go out at all.

Yes i go out when i want to but much less than i'm indoors. my parents especially my mother makes it seem like something else making me uncomfortable around her.

you are just an introvert person that's all.

I understand where ur mam is comin from. It's not basically about u going out, but about u not bein socially retarded.
Don't think it's o.k bein indoors 24/7. think of places and good friends of urs dat u find fun going out wit, and Go Get It!
Gal, u need a new lesson. Don't be a jerk!

Hollysmile:

I understand where ur mam is comin from. It's not basically about u going out, but about u not bein socially retarded.
Don't think it's o.k bein indoors 24/7. think of places and good friends of urs dat u find fun going out wit, and Go Get It!
Gal, u need a new lesson. Don't be a jerk!

But what if that is what I prefer and sometimes we need time to ourselves, isn' t it? I love going out but at times or most times, i need my me time. I might be having problems that i need to get over with and be by myself, instead of showing concern, it's like even making me feel worse. I don't think i am anti-social but i like being mostly indoors by myself without getting bored or lonely.

Treetop20:

what is wrong with that?
i don't see anything wrong with that lifestyle at all

Thank you. they make it seem like i am just i dont even know what to say. when i have things to do, i do,school is not in session now, so what else? aside work, friends and all,just be indoors and watch tv,

There is nothing wrong with you, BREATHE,
However you are what they call 'A LONER'
A loner is someone who prefers their own company better than being surrounded by other people. I don't think you are antisocial, because its not like you detest being in a social circle. you embrace it by just dont feel the need to be there all the time.
There is nothing wrong with you as long as you re comfortable sitting on the couch all day watching tv (and missing the most exciting things in the outside world - life). If you dont feel any sense of shyness to mix with others or any kind of depression that you are stuck in your own world, then you should be alright.

I used to have a friend who would rather spend his time by himself all the time. he would go to the mountains alone for days, camp alone for several days and hardly ever socializes. to me this is weird, but its his life and people can make their choices as they want.

yea u real anti social

C2H5OH:

yea u real anti social

There's nothing wrong with her, people are different - some like to go out, others enjoy staying in!

Yea there's nothing wrong with her. I enjoy staying in too.

C2H5OH, r u sure u r ok, seems u r confused

there is nothing wrong with u(being anti-social), u cherish ur privacy n seem 2 be an independent person, i also love my privacy n dont go often n mix with pple easily, if u also mix with pple easily when u go out there's nothing 2 worry abt

tytylola why? hope you are not stalking

you are not anti social but social anti huh? just know it that devil tempts people naturally but an idle person tempts the devil. consider what u do most in those ur private time. u call them privacy

C2H5OH:

tytylola why? hope you are not stalking

ur last 2 post b4 my post shows u r confused

@op, there's nuffin wong wit u, fink we share d same tin, like being alone too most times

aint nuthing wrong with you having your "me" time - but it shouldn't be all the time. Like someone said, it might be a sign that something's wrong. As for me, I enjoy my own company a lot, in fact I enjoy it much more when I'm alone than when I'm surrounded by people: then I can read, write, watch TV, do chores or what ever u can't do when someone else is invading your privacy. My brother used to call me "self-absorbed" which I guess is his nice way of saying I only care about myself. Not true. I'd be happy when I'm with my husband and kids, I'll be sociable enuf to them . But please don't ask me to go visiting or surround myself with friends 'cos that aint my thing. You do what u got to do babe.