There is such a thing as classy and non classy.

The non classy ladies are what you call chicken heads.

v3nom4eva:

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I wish i'd posted on this topic earlier. . but here's my thought

There's absolutely NO such thing as "classy" when it comes to ladies/gals/women. . .as long u can bed em for a fee(take her out etc)/or free (living witness). . .

There's this one chic i'd been unto for a couple of weeks @ a bank on the island (name withheld). . friends kept tellin me she was a hard one, so i decided to weather the storm &i did regret it later cuz her womanliness had the worst smell EVER. . .maybe thats the reason why she played hard to get. . .

I'll keep saying this "The chickens who play hard to get r the easiest to bed" na juz time n ur money

So what did you do to get her to bed you?

Did you take her out?

Did you come and see her?

Did you call her?

Did you visit her?

Did you email or text her?

How long did you work at it?

MRbrownJAY:

you forgot to mention the part where that same classy lady would share the bill for any of these activities (or at least ask to share the bill). LOL!!!

Ask a Nigerian man if she can share the bill. . . . Do you want me to go around insulting Nigerian men?
If you ask me out on a date am I supposed to offer to pay half?
On what planet do they do that?

If in a r/s then that is different. . . . . I take my hubby out sometimes but I have to prepare him for it ahead of time and remind him to keep his wallet in his pants because it is my treat. He gets insulted when we are together and i reach to pay for something.

sistawoman:

Ask a Nigerian man if she can share the bill. . . . Do you want me to go around insulting Nigerian men?
If you ask me out on a date am I supposed to offer to pay half?
On what planet do they do that?

so are you saying that you only eat if the guy you dating invites you to dinner? you never feel hungry during a date and propose to get a bite to eat together and therefore, offer to go dutch when the bill arrives? dont you ever propose during the date to go to the movies, to take a trip together? is it only about doing what the date says/proposes/wants? no spontaneity.
i understand that if someone invites a person they have to be ready to foot the bill but i thought that both parties can come up with suggestions on what to do during a date. would be kinda boring if during the date the guy has to always decide where to go, where to eat, when to eat, what to watch (or if the date has to be planned in advance with specific details on who is inviting who).

MRbrownJAY:

so are you saying that you only eat if the guy you dating invites you to dinner? you never feel hungry during a date and propose to get a bite to eat together and therefore, offer to go dutch when the bill arrives? dont you ever propose during the date to go to the movies, to take a trip together? is it only about doing what the date says/proposes/wants? no spontaneity.
i understand that if someone invites a person they have to be ready to foot the bill but i thought that both parties can come up with suggestions on what to do during a date. would be kinda boring if during the date the guy has to always decide where to go, where to eat, when to eat, what to watch (or if the date has to be planned in advance with specific details on who is inviting who).

During a date you decide what to do?

I am sorry I must be confused this is how it normally happens for me:

Ring, ring

SW: Hello
Him: Hi Sistawoman how are you doing today?
SW: Oh I am well just getting off work headed home
Him: What are your plans this weekend?
SW: Nothing really what do you have in mind
Him: Well I want to get together with you so we can go out?
SW: really, what do you have in mind
Him: Well I was thinking about dinner and a movie, what is your schedule like, do you have any running around to do?


And then the conversation moves from there.

I have never ever experienced someone asking me on a date but not having any plans.

My time is valuable. It is usually a planned date with planned activites. If we are going to the movies we plan which movie at which time at a particular theater then we discuss which resturants we might want to go to with two or three picked out, usually we go to resturant in the same mall as the movies. or if we set up a morning date it is over to the breakfast spot and back home to take care of the rest of my day.

If a guy asks me out I expect that he has it planned out, surprise me let me see you are thinking. If I ask a guy out I plan it out, surprise him let him know how I think, what i like. Its dating about showing the new person your world and how you think and like things to see if you fit into thier lives.

sistawoman:

During a date you decide what to do?

I am sorry I must be confused this is how it normally happens for me:

Ring, ring

SW: Hello
Him: Hi Sistawoman how are you doing today?
SW: Oh I am well just getting off work headed home
Him: What are your plans this weekend?
SW: Nothing really what do you have in mind
Him: Well I want to get together with you so we can go out?
SW: really, what do you have in mind
Him: Well I was thinking about dinner and a movie, what is your schedule like, do you have any running around to do?


And then the conversation moves from there.

I have never ever experienced someone asking me on a date but not having any plans.

My time is valuable.  It is usually a planned date with planned activites.  If we are going to the movies we plan which movie at which time at a particular theater then we discuss which resturants we might want to go to with two or three picked out, usually we go to resturant in the same mall as the movies.  or if we set up a morning date it is over to the breakfast spot and back home to take care of the rest of my day.

If a guy asks me out I expect that he has it planned out, surprise me let me see you are thinking.  If I ask a guy out I plan it out, surprise him let him know how I think, what i like.  Its dating about showing the new person your world and how you think and like things to see if you fit into thier lives.

its not about having no plans but about having different options and to choose accordingly during the night. you start with one thing and then both decide on what to do next depending on the vibe, mood of the evening.

ok i guess we are different, to me it sound more often like this

MRBJ: hey babe, do you do you have any plans tonight?
HER: not yet, what do you have in mind?
MRBJ: havent decided yet but we could start it off by going to see this great play and then take it from there
HER: yeah i would love to, what time?
MRBJ: the play starts at 9pm so lets hook up at 7.30/8pm to get a drink somewhere.
HER: great and what shall we do after?
MRBJ: it depends, lets see what the mood is like after the play and we can decide on what to do next together. the possibilities are endless but giving you one of my secret massage at the end of the evening is how i see the end of this date.
HER: so you are making plans for the whole night?
MRBJ: yeah, just have an open mind and lets make this night beautiful unless you have other plans later?
HER: no no, great. so 7.30pm and I shouldnt expect to be back home until the early morning
MRBJ: exactly! in fact, dont make any plans for the whole weekend, you never know how the night will turn out and how fantastic my massages can be.
HER: ok let me get ready, bye.

we feel the vibe of the evening and do stuff according to our mood and how much fun we have or not.

I see what your saying but for me dating has always been different.

I have children and therefore same night plans would never work for me and when I was actively dating I only dated during the weekends when the kids were away. Addtionally if a guy did not make plans with me by Wednesday there really would no chance for him to get to see me on that weekend.

When I actively dated, in no r/s, I was dating a few guys at the same time. So I could have a breakfast date with one guy, an afternoon strool or drive with another and a dinner and movies date with someone else. If I really like a guy then I might spend the whole day with him. But really I can tell you that any guy I have gone out with wont allow me to pay for anything on the date althou I have offered. After a while of getting shut down a woman stops asking.

Now in a r/s that is different we can do the up in the air, all weekend take up all my time type of thing.

To me, in my world there is a marked difference in dating and being in a r/s with a guy and to me when dating sex is not even part of the equation only in a r/s.

sistawoman:

I see what your saying but for me dating has always been different.

I have children and therefore same night plans would never work for me and when I was actively dating I only dated during the weekends when the kids were away. Addtionally if a guy did not make plans with me by Wednesday there really would no chance for him to get to see me on that weekend.

When I actively dated, in no r/s, I was dating a few guys at the same time. So I could have a breakfast date with one guy, an afternoon strool or drive with another and a dinner and movies date with someone else. If I really like a guy then I might spend the whole day with him. But really I can tell you that any guy I have gone out with wont allow me to pay for anything on the date althou I have offered. After a while of getting shut down a woman stops asking.

Now in a r/s that is different we can do the up in the air, all weekend take up all my time type of thing.

To me, in my world there is a marked difference in dating and being in a r/s with a guy and to me when dating sex is not even part of the equation only in a r/s.

i understand what you mean, and as a parent time is priceless.

as for the bill bit, if you know that someone will never let you pay because you asked a few times before and got rejected then thats different but if you are getting to know someone, the "lady like"way is to offer to put your share up (even if you know that the guy wont let you pay), out of courtesy. its that courtesy bit that goes a long way in my mind.

whatever, my dad told me that there's nothing like a free lunch. it is either you pay at last in kind or in cash. before ever u settle to have a free lunch be ready to either scrub the floor or pay with something else[b][/b]

Okwu a'daghalia!
Bia, gini ka unu na akpa?

U nor fit speak ingrish? Abi u nor go sikool?

Whizzy, where u at present? And where u from by birth? Serious!
Just curious to know! Honestly.

Holly

am in nigeria now.
I'm an American by birth (mixed race tho').

I'm dead serious!
But if u don't feel comfortable wit it, it's ok. Neva a string attached!

Do u think am joking? Am in abuja - nigeria, & am from california/delta state.

I see!
Actually thot u were in Port, and from Abia State.
That's cool. Thanx, anyways.

U in port?

Nope!
042 (Enugu). Dat's where ur boy's at!

Ok

emilyone: i believe the one shining her free should be the one she's in love wit otherwise

So you're this naive

Dat is to sayO fe ni congo....Congo is free....Now i got a song for u...Brother please shine ma congo,aboki shine my congo,if u nor shine ma congo,ma congo go rust,wear and it go knock so uncle shine ma congo.

Hollysmile: There's dis 1slogan i've once come across, which says,
"No matter how expensive a gal is, there must be dis 1dude shining her congo for her 'free of charge'."
Ladies, includin guys, Abeg, make una help me debate on dis,

Like one very wise man I know would say "No matter how fine or how big a woman's yansh is, she can never fvck herself" #Sefini

All girls are not thesame.

sistawoman: I see what your saying but for me dating has always been different.

I have children and therefore same night plans would never work for me and when I was actively dating I only dated during the weekends when the kids were away. Addtionally if a guy did not make plans with me by Wednesday there really would no chance for him to get to see me on that weekend.

When I actively dated, in no r/s, I was dating a few guys at the same time. So I could have a breakfast date with one guy, an afternoon strool or drive with another and a dinner and movies date with someone else. If I really like a guy then I might spend the whole day with him. But really I can tell you that any guy I have gone out with wont allow me to pay for anything on the date althou I have offered. After a while of getting shut down a woman stops asking.

Now in a r/s that is different we can do the up in the air, all weekend take up all my time type of thing.

To me, in my world there is a marked difference in dating and being in a r/s with a guy and to me when dating sex is not even part of the equation only in a r/s.

does it mean datin and relationship are two different tinz? Pls enlighten me