Hello NL,i hv bn noticin one particular gsm num callin my fiancee,when i ask her she told me d guy is her friend.hw can a guy b callin her like 4times a day n she is tellin me their friends?she deleted d guy num frm her fone but is saw d num called her xterday.can i call dis guy n tel him dat he is causin problem in our relatnshippls ur advice,

@kestro

1. There is obviously a trust problem in this your relationship

2. How old is ur fiancee and how long have you two being in the relationship and wen do u intend to marry.

3. Assuming you have told us the whole story and have not held anything back from us, to save your own face. Then it means you need to confront your fiance whether or not she really wants to get married.

4. A woman who sincerely wants to get married to you would not keep secrets about men that keep calling her from her fiance.

5. A matured and reasonable lady of good character would do everything in her power to make sure she cuts contact from any dude that tries to call her 4 times a day.


6. Then


- Is ur fiance working or a student or unemployed.

- Are u financially and materially comfortable as a man getting ready for marriage.

- Sit her down and ask her whether or not she really wants to get married.

- Did she coerce u into marriage plans or were u the one who brought up the marriage issue.

- Do you have a sister, If Yes, then ask your sister to please call the number try to find out the name and identity of the caller and why d caller keeps calling. If you do not have a sister, then ask a female friend or female relative to help you obtain the same information using the same questions. This is because you stand a better chance of finding out information from the caller if you let a female voice ask the questions.

- Immediately ur sister (or female friend) obtains d info about name, identity and purpose of the caller, then immediately proceed to ask your fiance for the name, identity and purpose of the caller.

- Compare and contrast the name and identity of the number given you by your fiance and that obtained by your sister.

- If there is no difference between the info obtained via your sister (or female friend) and the info obtained via your wife, then at least you have ascertained that the are not trying to hide something. Hence then proceed to sit your fiance down, talk to her and make her understand u do not approve of such unsual number of calls from a man to a woman who is engaged to marry another man. Find if she's still interested in you or not.

- Once you notice that there is a difference between the info obtained by your sister (or female friend) and that obtained from your wife, then please note that it means something does not add up. Because if there is nothing fishy going on, neither your wife nor the guy needed to life about the identity or name of the caller.

- Ask your fiance to physically identify the caller either by showing you his picture and revealing his location so that you can meet him in person.

- If your fiance decides not to reveal the physical identity about the caller, then the next step to take is to meet with any member of her family and let them know what exactly is going on with her.


7. Your next step would be based on how her family reacts.

Look at it this way, as a guy, can u count the number of girls u call up to 4 times a day but dont want anything to do with? Especially when u're not related or work together etc

Let your answer guide your actions, not the girl in question!

Lexiwhite:

Look at it this way, as a guy, can u count the number of girls u call up to 4 times a day but dont want anything to do with? Especially when u're not related or work together etc
Let your answer guide your actions, not the girl in question!

hmmm , poster no dull urself!

u got to talk to her.