Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

Is he under a spell or it's normal?

And as a man can you do this?

I need answers before I download what I saw to my no nonsense mum. I dey vex

yvelchstores:
Pray for his marriage. Try not to instigate a problem. As long as there is peace in d home, trust me your brother will live a long and enjoyable life. You don't knw if she had cramps or if her health is going tru sometin, maybe a miscarriage, u don't knw cos u are an outsider. Allow them as ling as there is peace in the home.

Miami11:


What should she dig for, is she a skunk or raccoon to dig sand,

This one is a potential trouble maker that needs to find a husband immediately to get busy

Her brother is an adult and does not need a nosy watchman, who will let her come dig, she will be thrown out like a ball, then they will sit down condemn their daughter in law

Oyind17:

What can I do?

Miami11:


What should she dig for, is she a skunk or raccoon to dig sand,

This one is a potential trouble maker that needs to find a husband immediately to get busy

Her brother is an adult and does not need a nosy watchman, who will let her come dig, she will be thrown out like a ball, then they will sit down condemn their daughter in law

TheMadame:
@Oyind17,
At the point of soundind rude,I would advise you to mind your own business.
Relationships between couples are complicated enough without additional complications from intruding third parties like yourself.
You dont live with your elder brother and his wife so you can never understand what works for them. They appear to be a happy couple,so dont try to set the cat amoung the pidgeons in a peaceful and joyful home.
Go and build your own home.

fellis:
Besides the man probably committed an offence against madam and is only keeping quiet because he wants his wife to retaliate until she is happy with him again.
Many men do that.
After f@#king up or getting caught cheating they turn themselves to obedient houseboys and start taking all manner of insults from their wives just so she can forgive them.

fellis:
Besides the man probably committed an offence against madam and is only keeping quiet because he wants his wife to retaliate until she is happy with him again.
Many men do that.
After f@#king up or getting caught cheating they turn themselves to obedient houseboys and start taking all manner of insults from their wives just so she can forgive them.

Oyind17:

As in, he is an errand boy, the fact that he was very stubborn and a no nonsense kind of person is making me to think he is under a spell.

You do know that some people who are very stubborn and no-nonsense people are usually hiding some inadequacies?

boboLIL:
Mind ur business...or she will also turn you to housegal cos you reason like one

Exponental:
is she pregnant? if yes...ignore!
if no....investigate.

fellis:
Besides the man probably committed an offence against madam and is only keeping quiet because he wants his wife to retaliate until she is happy with him again.
Many men do that.
After f@#king up or getting caught cheating they turn themselves to obedient houseboys and start taking all manner of insults from their wives just so she can forgive them.

fellis:
Besides the man probably committed an offence against madam and is only keeping quiet because he wants his wife to retaliate until she is happy with him again.
Many men do that.
After f@#king up or getting caught cheating they turn themselves to obedient houseboys and start taking all manner of insults from their wives just so she can forgive them.

Oyind17:
I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there.
I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.

About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.

She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20

Is he under a spell or it's normal?

And as a man can you do this?

I need answers before I download what I saw to my no nonsense mum. I dey vex

Tundeiab:

Haba!!! "DOWNLOAD WHAT I SAW TO MY NONSENSE MUM"

Did you just call your mum nonsense?

Oyind17:

No but she is loaded

EfemenaXY:


Oh, you're female?

No wonder you sound bitter. Jealousy stuff. I doubt all you typed is true - and even if it were, it probably didn't happen the way you've painted it on here for us.

You must truly dislike your sister-in-law. What are you expecting your mum to do? Rain insults on your brother and his wife? Turn your brother against his wife?

Stay clear of that marriage. Mind your own business.

babygirlfl:
Funny thing is that the op will get married herself and wish she had a husband that is that helpful. When you get married, provided you don't have a detective in-law like you, you can decide to make sure your husband never gives a hand and nobody will ask you.

This is the reason why inlaws are sometimes not welcome. Instead of coming and helping out and make the family miss you when you go, you decided to make yourself an unpaid detective investigating a loving couple with the hope of passing unsolitated information to you mum. Please mind your business.

On a side note, a woman does not need to be sick or pregnant for her husband to help out in the home and they are many reasons a woman can ask the husband to get something even though other people are there. It could be because he is the only other person that knows where it is or the only person to be able to reach it or simply because the do things that way and don't think too much about such little things.

thelish:


Na their type dey turn marriages to Fuji house of commotion. If her own husband do all these for her, she will be d most happiest o. Women leave other privileged women alone. Jealousyyy.

lolaluv1:


This makes plenty sense.
And Oyind17, take note of the operative sentence here: "You are an outsider".
Because I'm sure you are getting set to light their peaceful home on fire.

I myself learnt the hard way years ago when I saw my uncle and his wife arguing during a visit. I felt so hurt and angry at the way she insulted him while he was majorly quiet. It was a Saturday, and I was stewing, waiting for a suitable occasion to download what I'd seen to my mum (just like you). Though my mum is a peaceful angel sha. She would never interfere.

But the next day, I heard my uncle talking of how his wife knew him better than anyone in the world and was his best friend.

That was how I learnt that when it comes to a couple, you can never tell. Just mind your own business!

ogawisdom:


If ur bros is a houseman then its OK, by d way who is d breadwinner d woman is acting the man n this comes with being d family breadwinner, pause n do a little check she pays house rent, children sch fees n feeds d family

zaza999:
If this story is true,then: It is likely the woman is the breadwinner of the family.She may be the one that sponser the marriage.Your brother contributes nothing other than di.ck.The woman has used water n washed her private part and used it to cook for him while babalawo give her and told her what to do to ensure "Do as I say".Sorry for ur bros!

Oyind17:

I only asked a question cos I felt bad. light hid marriage on fire ke! who have extra time for another man's marriage ?