does chemistry really matter in a relationship? or is it just movie and novels stuff? and what the heck is compatibility? I mean do we have to do so much analyses before starting a relationship?
no wonder many people are single

sexyLeamon:

does chemistry really matter in a relationship? or is it just movie and novels stuff? and what the heck is compatibility? I mean do we have to do so much analyses before starting a relationship?
no wonder many people are single

Compatibility in my books matters more in for LONG TERM relationships than chemistry. chemistry is good to have - but not a necessity (if you dont make it a biggy) as you can grow to love someone and accept them and even start fancying them - but in order to live with them day in - day out, you need to be COMPATIBLE with them.
you need to be each other's companion in life

chemistry is about feeling that the person in Front of you is the right one for whatever reason.
example: you might say that you need a man who is faithfull. handsome, honest, trustworthy, wealthy etc
put 3men with all these qualities in front of you and see if you get the same attraction/chemistry for all of them.

chemistry is when your brain go on overdrive in the presence of a person, releasing dopamine/norepinephrine/adrenaline making your heart beat faster, making you go gaga, feeling like in a dream when with that person.
you dont have that with just anybody.

compatibility has nothing to do with "starting" a relationship but if you want it to last then it is very important:
-if a person base their whole principles of marriage on "having your own children" and his spouse to be is infertile. maybe not.
-if a person enjoys dancing every weekend as a form of recreation while his partner has two left feet. maybe not.
- if a man is christian and expect his future wife to follow his faith while his wife is muslim expecting her future husband to follow her faith. maybe not.
- if a man is health/image conscious while his gf just dont give a damn about her appearance and just eat anything on display. maybe not.

I think chemistry is an animal attraction between two people that is purely physical. The connection appeals to the five senses: The way someone looks, smells, tastes, the feel of his or her body, the sound of that person's voice. The reaction to one's chemical match is often excused or explained as overwhelming and uncontrollable. It’s the "throw-down factor."

When it comes to compatibility in romantic relationships the issue goes much deeper than liking the same kinds of music or sharing ideas about politics and religion. The very nature of a relationship is intrinsically symbiotic. Men need to understand what women want and women need to understand what men want in order to create a happy union.

There are often times deep seeded reasons for our choice in a mate and whether it is conscious or sub-conscious, learned behavior, genetic or biological by design, men and women have consistently, fought the same battle in the war of the sexes; men seek youth and beauty and women seek security. This appears to be the best recipe for compatibility.

Women are often times looking for a man who will be a dependable partner and provider. While attraction is important, women are less likely to seek out the lusty lothario for a long term relationship. Security and reliability are the characteristics that draw women for the long haul. Men are looking for youth and beauty. Whether these characteristics give subliminal clues to her ability to bear children or if men simply desire visually stimulating mates in order to be compelled to provide and protect, we may never know.

Although the debate rages on as to whether we are biologically predisposed to this kind of behavior and, there are indeed exceptions to every generality, the majority of relationships fall into this kind of template. By fulfilling the primordial needs of your partner she can be “a little bit country” and you can be “a little bit rock-and-roll” and still have a highly compatible relationship.

MRbrownJAY:

chemistry is about feeling that the person in Front of you is the right one for whatever reason.
example: you might say that you need a man who is faithfull. handsome, honest, trustworthy, wealthy etc
put 3men with all these qualities in front of you and see if you get the same attraction/chemistry for all of them.

chemistry is when your brain go on overdrive in the presence of a person, releasing dopamine/norepinephrine/adrenaline making your heart beat faster, making you go gaga, feeling like in a dream when with that person.
you dont have that with just anybody.

compatibility has nothing to do with "starting" a relationship but if you want it to last then it is very important:
-if a person base their whole principles of marriage on "having your own children" and his spouse to be is infertile. maybe not.
-if a person enjoys dancing every weekend as a form of recreation while his partner has two left feet. maybe not.
- if a man is christian and expect his future wife to follow his faith while his wife is muslim expecting her future husband to follow her faith. maybe not.
- if a man is health/image conscious while his gf just dont give a damn about her appearance and just eat anything
on display. maybe not.

Need we say more, sistah?? WORD!!!

MRbrownJAY:

chemistry is about feeling that the person in Front of you is the right one for whatever reason.
example: you might say that you need a man who is faithfull. handsome, honest, trustworthy, wealthy etc
put 3men with all these qualities in front of you and see if you get the same attraction/chemistry for all of them.

chemistry is when your brain go on overdrive in the presence of a person, releasing dopamine/norepinephrine/adrenaline making your heart beat faster, making you go gaga, feeling like in a dream when with that person.
you dont have that with just anybody.

compatibility has nothing to do with "starting" a relationship but if you want it to [b]last then it is very important[/b]:
-if a person base their whole principles of marriage on "having your own children" and his spouse to be is infertile. maybe not.
-if a person enjoys dancing every weekend as a form of recreation while his partner has two left feet. maybe not.
- if a man is christian and expect his future wife to follow his faith while his wife is muslim expecting her future husband to follow her faith. maybe not.
- if a man is health/image conscious while his gf just dont give a damn about her appearance and just eat anything on display. maybe not.

so true

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yes it does.

@ Poster

What has chemistry/Compatibilty got to do with it?

As i always say, As long as d phuzzy is tight, who cares about anything else.

rhufffryda: @ Poster

What has chemistry/Compatibilty got to do with it?

As i always say, As long as d phuzzy is tight, who cares about anything else.

It sure matters! If not it will scatter asap again.

Chemistry Yes, Physics and Biology plus Economics
It all depends on the individuals concerned.
But i will say 'throw away the rules, love each other, enjoy love, enjoy life'

compatibility is very necessary especially if you wish to settle down with each other