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10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by janetasha: 3:01pm On Jan 01, 2016
Marriage has to do with two people from different background and with probably different beliefs, religion, tribe and custom coming together to live under the same roof as man and wife. Wedding is for just one day but marriage is for a lifetime. Therefore it is absolutely imperative that more attention is given to marriage planning than wedding planning. Don’t spend months preparing for wedding and neglecting the basic factors that make up a successful marriage. Ensure that the foundations of you and your partner is firm, strong and rooted upon the word of God (Psalm 11:3), so that after the wedding when trials, challenges, oppositions and temptations come your marriage can stand the test of time and emerge victorious.
Courtship period comes before marriage. Nobody wishes to go into marriage only to jump out within a short period, but one can afford to do that when in courtship if there are compatibility problems which may claim to be irreconcilable. Let’s look at 10 major points to consider before venturing into marriage.
1. Your reason for getting married should be love-based
There are hundreds of reason why people get married, but are the reasons genuine enough? You shouldn’t get married because of family and societal pressure, you shouldn’t get married because all your friends are, you shouldn’t get married because you are faced with an unplanned pregnancy, also you shouldn’t get married because of the financial comfort you stand to derive from your partner. The most important reason why you should get married is because both of you are truly in love with each other along with your good and bad qualities. Courtship is that period when you should compile a premarital checklist. Ask yourself if you are emotionally ready for this kind of commitment. Can you see yourself with your partner 50years down the road? Marriage isn’t a bed of roses, there are bound to be challenges. So get married because of love so that when you are faced with issues, your love for each other would conquer all.
2. Your partner should be your soul-mate
If you want to enjoy a blissful marriage, you should marry your soul-mate. A soul-mate is that person who strongly resembles you in attitude and beliefs, a person with whom you have a strong affinity, shared values and bond; often a romantic bond. Soul-mates have a sense of familiarity and harmony between them that brings out the best in both. You can foster those qualities by putting in time and effort into your relationship.
3. You should trust each other
It’s one thing for you to have a soul-mate that you are emotionally attached to, but how is the issue of trust working out for you? You should have a level of trust that is beyond reproach for your partner. Trusting your partner means to have confidence in his or her character and judgment to a level where suspicious thoughts would never creep into your mind whether you are absent or present with them. Many marriages fail not because there’s no love, but because there’s a profound breach of trust.
4. You should not be overly jealous
A certain amount of jealousy may be good to keep the relationship in check and to ward off unscrupulous persons that may want to disunite couples. Jealousy can be extremely damaging to the well-being of couples. When you suspect or believe that your partner is unfaithful even when there’s no concrete evidence to support that claim, then it means you are being jealous. Unmerited suspicion can cause a great deal of distress and when not curtailed can lead to breakup. Have the confidence that your partner is trustworthy and will remain faithful to you. Trust each other unless there’s a good reason to doubt.
5. [b]Divorce-proof your marriage[/b]
Once the marriage certificate is signed, it means the covenant is sealed. You need to make commitment to love, honor and cherish each other for the rest of lives. The best way to make your marriage divorce-proof is to acknowledge your marital vows and understand that divorce isn’t an option. Postponing or even cancelling wedding has a less devastating effect than divorce. Make plans to attend marriage counseling together, seek advice and ask questions from couples that have been married for above 25years and are still happy together.

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Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by Vjcray: 3:05pm On Jan 01, 2016
[size=14pt] sorry to say but there is no atom of sense in what you just copied pasted here angry [/size]

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Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by mizquote(f): 3:08pm On Jan 01, 2016
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Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by gamaliel121(m): 3:12pm On Jan 01, 2016
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Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by drnairalov: 3:16pm On Jan 01, 2016
This time last year, I was traveling with Bae for newyear, fun times.
Today is her introduction. To another man. cry cry cry
Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by donestk(m): 3:17pm On Jan 01, 2016
How come?

drnairalov:
This time last year, I was traveling with Bae for newyear, fun times.
Today is her introduction. To another man. cry cry cry
Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by jeslom: 3:18pm On Jan 01, 2016
drnairalov:
This time last year, I was traveling with Bae for newyear, fun times.
Today is her introduction. To another man. cry cry cry

aww i wanna cry
Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by jamex93(m): 3:31pm On Jan 01, 2016
Nice work
Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by jamex93(m): 3:32pm On Jan 01, 2016
drnairalov:
This time last year, I was traveling with Bae for newyear, fun times.
Today is her introduction. To another man. cry cry cry



Hahahaha sorry
Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by Mizwisdom(f): 3:33pm On Jan 01, 2016
Okay, thanks
Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by shestrong(f): 3:34pm On Jan 01, 2016
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Re: 10 Points To Note Before Getting Married by Nobody: 5:13pm On Jan 01, 2016
drnairalov:
This time last year, I was traveling with Bae for newyear, fun times.
Today is her introduction. To another man. cry cry cry

Don't worry, it's not how far it's how well. Your wife will come

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