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How To Maintain Religious Commitment And Family, Friendship Relationships by Emisco3310(m): 8:23pm On Jan 02, 2016 |
Experience has shown that it is very difficult to be in good relationship with friends and relatives while having a deep religious commitment, especially, if those friends or relatives don't hold the same faith, religious belief or denomination as you. It has become a common thing that when someone becomes committed in his/her religion, he/she parts away with old friends, relatives, and even parents. Although, it is always true that bird of a feather flock together, if you chase away all your old friends and relatives, who would you call to your belief? Or, is your own religion for you alone? Won't you invite people to it? You should call and convince them to be committed too. Note: You should only call to a valid and true religion! It is unfortunate that some families have collapsed just because a member has just become religiously committed. Some have received curses from their parents. Some have even created bad images for their belief or faith unknowingly as a result of their bad character. Is it a sin to be religiously committed and serious? It is a shame if someone's friends and relatives cannot benefit from someone's faith or belief. It is not a curse or overstatement that not all of them will accept, but, do your best and leave the rest. Among those who would not accept, some would call you a bigot. They would say you no longer have their time. They would say you are cantankerous. But, don't be discouraged. If you are sincerely doing a particular religious practice, which your friends or relatives don't accept, and which causes differences among you, there is no problem. Just try and make efforts to find textual evidence and references and put it before them in the best possible manner. Not saying, "hehe, you that you said so so and so, you are in trouble now,here is my evidence against you". Rather, say, o you my friends or relatives, I love you and hate anything that can cause dispute among us. Tell them that it is not possible for friends not to have disputes and differences, but it is always possible to settle them amicably. Say, on so so issue in which you have differences of opinion or faith, here is your evidence. Say, you have not brought the evidence to defeat or ridicule them, but to strengthen your relationship and friendship with them. After showing them the evidence, ask them that do they now know that you can do it without cutting off your friendship tie with them. Tell them that you have been doing it based on this evidence, and I hope that they will accept and still love you. In addition, you need to be extra good, nice and kind towards them following every instance of differences. If you used to call or text them once a week before, increase it to like twice or three times. Take advantage of those aspects in which your faith or religion has made it permissible for you to do things in common with them and do it so good that they might be convinced that you really love them. Furthermore, you should try to eat with them and let them eat with you too. This will strengthen love among you. If they present you gifts, accept them without hesitation, and try to also present them with gifts. Always be helpful to them. Moreover, if it were your parents, for instance, if they ask you to do just a thing, try to do additional two or more things that you are very sure will please them. Be extra careful here, and don't gamble! Only do that which will please them! If they ask #100 from you and you can afford #200, please give them, or at least add any amount you can afford to it. This will send a serious message to them. It is called "aroko", meaning a "symbol" in Yoruba land. Bet it with me! Whether in your absence or presence, they (friends or relatives) will confess that you are now more nice and kind, and they will decide to let you be and to let you continue with your faith or belief or whatever you have chosen to do. Note: Be sure to always try to do good to them more than you used to do. Increase your kindness towards them. This will make them realise that you really love them, and will make them convinced that you are really acting according to a valid religious faith. They will be happy to see that your faith has improved your character. They may not know all other things about religion, but they know their right due from their children including you. That's why you would see them saying, " Is it your religion that says you should no longer show respect to us? Does your religion say parents are not important? If your religion doesn't teach good character, then it is not a good religion, so leave it now". And, as a matter of fact and evidence, there is no such religion that says one should not be dutiful and kind towards parents, friends and relatives. You may not need to verbally tell them to accept before they are convinced and decide to make you (child) their model. Character does it all! With good character, you can package "shit" and give it to people and they will accept it. Furthermore, always try to let your friends and relatives know what right your faith has given them. Tell them, oh, do you know that you can do this do that. Do you know it is upon me to do this and that for you according to my faith. Also, it is very essential to always tell them that you love them, and try to show love and kindness towards them. Always be ready to help them, at least with kind words! This is not only for a faith or belief, but also for anything you have chosen to do or follow, be it a career or otherwise, which your friends and relatives have objected to. This method also works for couples. You can convince them amicably and gently. And I promise you, with this and prayer, they will let you do what you have chosen to do. With this, I hope you will be able to marry both religious commitment and good friendships and family relationships. Thanks for reading! May God guide us! http://2gedatalk..co.ke/2016/01/how-to-maintain-religious-commitment.html?m=1 cc: Lalasticlala,Barcanista |
Re: How To Maintain Religious Commitment And Family, Friendship Relationships by tpiar: 2:57am On Jan 03, 2016 |
It is called "aroko", meaning a "symbol" in Yoruba land can you expantiate more on these. |
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