em3r4ld:



9c responce. Seems am seeing tinz abi na d booze dey totoori my eyes ni? Nice pix on ua Profile tho...

MrLP:
Hello Nairalanders,

Pardon me, i had to create another moniker just to post this.
I am in love this babe i met in my estate, but i got frustrated and let out a piercing outburst which has made her delete me on BBM, blocked me on Whatsapp and have made her refuse to pick my calls for 2 weeks now. I will attach the screen shot of my outburst below.
In other not to bore u with some long stories, wi just state what actually led to this.
I have been asking her out for a while, i met her in my estate some months back. i left her when she told me she was seeing someone. I later saw her again walking home in my estate while i was driving by. I knew i still liked her, decided to try again as i was not in any relationship too.

We got talking again, but she is always not there. claimed her job and all that. sometimes takes up.to 24 hours to revert my messages even sometimes ti pick up my calls. There are sometimes i see her online on whatsapp, while my message remains pending on BBM. Its always excuse of work,being tired and all that. I had to take it like that afterall am still just an "admirer".

But i noticed one thing, its when i want to get something from a store...she remembers she needs something too. There was a day i was getting a bottle of beer in a shop in my estate, that was when she knee she didn't have milk and sugar at home. She told me to get her milk and sugar. i saw that as odd. " milk and sugar" well i got it. The other day i wanted to recharge my phone, she suddenly remembered her unit was low too. I got for her, she never even called me with it. I dont need to say much, you guys already have an idea. I kept on asking her out and telling her I loved her and all of that. But it was frustrating because we mostly see Sundays, and my Sundays too not always free, as i may be on duty. Her sub finished, my messages weren't delivering, i was able to get her on phone and she told me her sub expired. When she hung up, I immediately recharged her line with quick Teller. it took me about another 48 hrs to even let her know i have recharged her line. She wouldn't pick her calls she wouldn't call back.

This time she acts like she is tuning in with me, next time she acts strangely. To cut it all short, she is been telling me she wished to go clubing. 24th was a public hol though i went to work, but she didnt. Called her and told her, ok today we are both free....what about clubbing? she said fine. Called me like 3 times before i got home. Its only when something is at stake she calls. Told her will come pick her by 9pm then we chill somewhere till late, when club will be opened. At past 9, called her i was enroute, she started complaining it was already late, i was like late at past 9? which club opens by 9. she said she is not going again, she is even hungry, just come pick me to eat and drop me back home. I was like WTF in my mind how can a lady be home since morning and tell a guy to come pick her and buy her food at past 9. Those are things we do on campus. I told her no...we are going clubbing, she will eat along the road. Hung up and met her outside her gate. she was dressed casually with simple slips. I was surprised. so she actually meant it. She entered the car and i drove off...told her she will enter the club like that, i will try not get her bounced. lol. She was boning and angry...i gnored her, picked my friends and drove straight to an hotel that hat a restaurant and lounge. Got her her meal, then we went to the lounge later. Told me she was traveling next day, and i have to drop her at the park or something since i will make her wake late. I agreed, she insisted i dropped her home, as a gentle man i did just that around 3am. Waited till she was safely in, before driving back home.

she called at 8am, and i was still sleeping, i picked and she started saying, you are still sleeping when you know you to drop me off. please come and pick me, i am late. and hung up. I was upset but went to pick her, it was then she remembered she needed to use ATM. I became a driver looking for ATM. we didnt get to use, its either crowdy or no money. That was when she said she can manage with what she had. Dropped her and went back home. Didnt hear from her, no thank you, she didnt even tell me she had gotten to her destination. When i asked and told her how was missing her...took another 9 hours to reply. and it was just a line. i got pissed and exploded.

meanwhile night out , someone was calling and calling she refused to pick. eventually turned off her phone. i later collected it and tuned it on...she had about 76 unread messages on Whatsapp. Phone was locked. I just gave her back...because she was getting angry i was holding her phone.

This made me wondering if that was how she turned off her phone when i keep calling. No calls returned but phone eventually says switched off. Excuse is always work and being tired.

Below was what i told her....becaue i couldn't take her games any longer...But i cant stop thinking of her still. I really like her....and i am almost regret blasting her. But i can't let feelings manipulate my normal sense of reasoning. she is a working class and should stop behaving like an hungry campus girl.

I mean while gather all the admirers and respond to whichever u please to at that time.... I find it strange, whats the gain?

But should i have been more patient?

Walesadeyemi:
First question: when did you start having gfs Coz most of us experienced this when we were 18/19

Secondly: don't you have male friends that would have advised you against all this silly stuffs that you did or maybe you hid it from them. I probably wouldn't have someone like you as a friend though Coz you would dull me.


Anyways, women are not to be taken serious, they only like proud and mean guys. Bro next time any babe sends you on an errand, tell her to come with you or else you nothing for her except she's your wife. When she starts forming that she doesn't wanna go out when you guys have planned on going out. reply her immediately with "thank God I'm even tired sef". Call her twice, so she wouldn't feel you flashed her and so on

Don't be too clingy and stop acting like a pvssy. No girl wants to date a pvssy. How I wish I know you personally, I for yab you die.

Pls start acting like the BOSS.

MrLP:
i am a normal average Nigerian and i am far from ugly. this babe have not said yes hence anything i do or choose to do is my business....she wasnt forcing me. i have seen guy go tru much more stress and later have the babe to their full control. if we were "dating"i would have understood most of what the guys are spilling here. this is not about maga...what have i spent? It's normal for babes tk be difficult at first....
i sent that message to her when my level of patience expired. that message was too see her reactions. she is still childish with her acts...i really liked her so i have to cope to a fault with her childishness. afterall im the one after her. thanks bro

PLANETMARS:
sorry for quoting the full episode. Please sir repeat after me, AM a big olodo,am a big olodo say it 10 times and then bath naked in d market for 7 days. That's d only way to be free from the stupidity u displayed to that girl.
Next time u see her, tell her u r sorry for everytin u said and then tell her u want to say something real bothering u in ur hrt.
Tell her to come close and bring her ear then say this from the bottom of ur hrt "THUNDER FIRE YOU!!!!"

canDy4eva:
aawwww... Dat wz harsh naw!

MrLP:


i already made the decision of not calling her again...and i will simply ignore her when i come across her again. i posted this online after i made that decision. the essence of the message i sent was to see her reactions. if she was for real...she would have defended hersef instead of blocking and deleting me. at least at first... i think she knew i was tired of her acts and decided no point keeping me in abeyance. the truth is if she really gives a damn.....she will call or text sooner or later. aint making any moves again. after the screen shot below. she blocked me on whatsapp too. she swore i will never get a babe cos of the way i talk. that was y i sent the below. she said my exes came and went cos of the way i talk....that my words are too heavy. i have only had 2/serious relationships which i told her about. first left me cos i graduated and i was an hindrance to her concentrating on religious stuffs and studies. she came back a yr late...thats after she graduated but it was too late. 2nd went to serve in ABJ...that was were she got lost. i wonder what she meant by they come and go cos of my attitude.

PLANETMARS:
sorry for quoting the full episode. Please sir repeat after me, AM a big olodo,am a big olodo say it 10 times and then bath naked in d market for 7 days. That's d only way to be free from the stupidity u displayed to that girl.
Next time u see her, tell her u r sorry for everytin u said and then tell her u want to say something real bothering u in ur hrt.
Tell her to come close and bring her ear then say this from the bottom of ur hrt "THUNDER FIRE YOU!!!!"

LaurelP:
Op u goofed big time.

you can't force love on someone who doesn't like you.
you see our Nigerian ladies are a different breed all together, and so you must follow them with great wisdom otherwise you just mess yourself up.


I'm currently facing something similar to this. I have this girl. we chat and call alright but she told me she has a boyfriend which she always flaunts on her dp. it's either she posts his pic alone or where she's with him. I never complained oo.

then a day came that one of my friends was having her birthday and I used her pic as dp. from that day she stopped responding to my messages and calls.
I pretended I didn't know what was her problem.

later called her With my alternate number and she picked. she lied that she changed her sim card and doesn't have credit. that can I send her card to subscribe data, I said ok.
today passed I didn't send it. do you know that this girl called me, the person who couldn't pick my call, couldn't read my whatsapp messages, couldn't return my calls.

I just pretended I couldn't hear her very well and she dropped.

You know what?
I'm not going to call her again, nor message her, nor pick her calls until she happens to see me face to face.

that's the way to deal with Nigeria girls. you don't become emotional with them, don't start showing them you love them from the onset.

you just made that girl to become too proud and arrogant.

sonnie10:
A girl told you she was traveling and you took her to several of her ATMs without any withdrawal made. What does that tell you? She just did not have any money in her account. Her expectations were; (1) She wanted you to use your own ATM to get some money for her (2) She just wanted the money and probably was not even traveling (3) If she was actually traveling, she felt entailed to some pocket money from you. Since you could not satisfy any of those, that incident was the last straw that broke the ox's back.


But if you ask me, I will say you did not do enough. From what you have listed so far, for a guy that owns a private car to complain when you have only bought:

1) A packet of sugar
2) A tin of milk
3) Recharge card once or twice
4) A plate of rice

Why do you feel entitled to anything from these few things you mentioned? Bros, you can do better before claim ownership abeg. If she was you sister how would you feel? abi you want to reap where you did not sow? Before you saw her and liked her, someone must have been maintaining her to be that presentable.

MrLP:


i already made the decision of not calling her again...and i will simply ignore her when i come across her again. i posted this online after i made that decision. the essence of the message i sent was to see her reactions. if she was for real...she would have defended hersef instead of blocking and deleting me. at least at first... i think she knew i was tired of her acts and decided no point keeping me in abeyance. the truth is if she really gives a damn.....she will call or text sooner or later. aint making any moves again. after the screen shot below. she blocked me on whatsapp too. she swore i will never get a babe cos of the way i talk. that was y i sent the below. she said my exes came and went cos of the way i talk....that my words are too heavy. i have only had 2/serious relationships which i told her about. first left me cos i graduated and i was an hindrance to her concentrating on religious stuffs and studies. she came back a yr late...thats after she graduated but it was too late. 2nd went to serve in ABJ...that was were she got lost. i wonder what she meant by they come and go cos of my attitude.

Owliver:
that one harsh? I was going to suggest he assassinate her sef

Fawklicant:


Very very faulty reasoning you've got there. So he has to maintain her? As what? ATM machine? Guys sef? He wanted her to be his gf not a liability. Nigerian girls have this entitlement mentality and it is guys with your sort of reasoning that they feed fat off. I can only spend on women who reciprocate the gesture.

canDy4eva:
chai... Simz uv bin hurt same way too! Ndo o!

sonnie10:


Please let know which one comes first; the spending or the reciprocating?

mobi18:
u said she is 24? being 24 doesnt mean she doesnt know what she is doing. at 24, she shuld have set her priorities right. one thing a lady shuldnt do is lead a guy she has nuffing to offer on. she took advantage of your caring and nice nature,some ladies dnt like security and peace of mind but prefer the guys that will maltreat them and cheat incessantly on them. My dear forget that lady,i know love sometimes makes one foolish but its your heart init? caution it and remind yourself of those nasty behaviors of hers,trust me if u force her to date you,you"ll hate yourself. And if you check wella,she probably has a guy she is dying for that is treating her anyhow. let her go,yu"ll meet someone that will accept your love witout trampling on it

Intrepid01:
Guy you have to wise up..........I met a lady around August last year in a bus, my car had an issue and had to follow bus. I was not even in the mood to chat, she started it all, admired my shirt and all that stuff. We got talking from there and she seemed nice & friendly. That was how all the rubbish started.........I asked to take her out, she agreed and said she preferred Ozone center. We went to ozone center, she insisted on eating before the movie ( note, I went to pick her from her house and she's been at home since morning). To my surprise, she did not eat the chicken on the rice and opted to take it home (mogbe!!).... She started behaving stupidly after that day...asking if I could drive her to her colleagues birthday at Oniru, I stylishly turned her down. The following week my fone's screen got damaged and I couldn't call or access my contact. This babe did not call me once for two weeks thruout the period my fone was bad.

I did not waste my time, I got the message CLEARLY and moved on. I saw her afterward and acted like have never seen her before. I could see the surprise on her face. Before you turn me to maga I will dump you bin.

It is so sad that Ladies have turned to be something else, even the working class ones.

I just dumped another one last week when I realized all she wanted was money and food whenever she comes around. This one stays with her parent but even if she's leaving my house at 10 pm she expects me to take her out and buy something for her. They are just gluttons.

My advice to you is this...never should you profess love or intention to date to any babe until you've been friends for sometime. Just stay as friends for a while, assess her and confirm if she likes you too before making your intention known

Obudupikin:



Dear OP you made two mistakes;

The first was,through your actions, you showed the girl that you love her a lot even before she got used to you. Therefore,she took advantage of that.

Secondly,that mssg you sent her was a wrong move because it only made her indignant and more defensive.
It's obvious the girl has lot of admirers and she saw you as one of them. Therefore,what your mssg implied to her was that you saw yourself as something other than that.

But the damage had been done,here is what you should do;

1) Send her an apology text without explicitly seeming sorry. E.g,"although your attitude was childish,I shldnt have sent such mssg to you. For that,I apologise"

2)Ignore her. Don't communicate with her again until you see her face to face.

These two moves have their purposes but I can't start explaining here.

If you really LOVE(emphasis on love) the girl,I'd like to help you get her.
We can do PM's.

Note; No girl is above you. You just need to know her thumbscrew.

Thank You.

Fawklicant:


You spend when you are in a relationship, when you discover she is stingy....cut her off and move on. If ahe has this entitlement mentality, you'd see it from the onset and bounce. I don't even waste my time with those types even just for fawk.

Some can even spend on you first if they really like you. Cook for you, get you a simple gift from a work colleague selling souvenirs e.t.c all in a bid to win you over. Just like guys do.