Congratulations, it's obvious you found a man that's loves you more than you ...He has a large heart.I only hope you deserve him because I still ve doubts about you....Try to build a genuine love for him,the kind that can't afford to loose him or ask why did he return ....
Good luck

daretodiffer:


Good for you:DD


I hope it works out

Will you look at that someone found correction in your criticisms. Without your famous 'your mama' slogan,keep it up

Hummm

I wish guys could actually learn some real things and prioritise well

I met my hubby with a car ( I wish he hadn't had it cos building his own house Should have come first)

We got married in a self contain and barely a year, the car would develop a fault or the other....his job/business was hitting the rock, ...I had no choice than to use my life saving to get us/him a new car cos of the standard he had set ( a car owner) I wouldn't want the world to describe him as " but he used to drive before, why is he trekking ?"...he tot out loud one day and told me he wish he had met me Early.... Thank God things are better and we are wiser.

I really wish he hadn't got the car before we got married..... As a lady, my savings was initially targeted towards building before I got duped and with God's help got my money back

Moral of the story

Don't invest on frivolities, cars are noting but liabilities, invest in things that appreciates e.g land, business you sure of, then you can think of cars, wish is a necessity.

U are better regarded a house owner than a car ownrr, besides, a car set u a standard that maynt sustain u....

I hope young men out there got the gist

Piss out...

petkruz:
He has an apartment( a room and a parlour) but for someone who wants to settle down he needs a bigger apartment which we discussed. That's the reason I was angry he got a car first and probably thought he was spiting me by not heeding to our previous decision, but I was wrong.

My dear you own no one any xplanation. Them all beefing. most of them making such comments don't even know where their life is heading

vizkiz:


what is this hoe saying now
Who gives a furck if he stays in a hut?

I hate it when a guy thinks having a car is an achievement when there a loads of better things he could have done. A Car doesn't appreciate but depreciates. Well you can't know because the only thing you do is spread your legs wide for a dick to come in

God! Vizkiz I swear you bad pass me. I Salute you boss.

seaga:


Will you look at that someone found correction in your criticisms. Without your famous 'your mama' slogan,keep it up

LOLZ

Well, I thought people are suppose to learn each day but it seems the youths of this generation keeps getting dumber.

The major reason why it's gonna take a long time before average youths of this generation make it big is because we keep investing on unnecessary items.

Believe me I know that nigga is poor because he can't even afford cash to get a car and an apartment at the same time according to the OP's illustration...(chicken change for yahoo guys)

For a single guy in his category, what is the big deal if he gets an apartment (2bedroom flat) and use the other cash to furnish his apartment




That he bought a car before renting a house isn't wrong sir. You don't know if the car is the most pressing need so please respect individuality.

Went through one of OP threads and the truth is: OP is a disaster. You don't love this guy not by any stretch. You r just a materialistic possessive lady and the young man might just be out there to inflict maximum pain on you. Thread carefully.

petkruz:

Ifeanyi I know u aint on Nairaland,but these guys are my witness,i promise never to hurt you or your feelings again. I have dated the good bad and ugly but in all, you are a man with the best heart and I wouldn't trade that for all the useless fun the world has to offer,thanks for loving a drama queen like me!

Thanks everyone.

So, you have been jumping from bed to bed. Unfortunately, an unlucky guy is going to pay your bride price on day. What a civilized world! ABASHA .... IRANU

vizkiz:


what is this hoe saying now
Who gives a furck if he stays in a hut?

I hate it when a guy thinks having a car is an achievement when there a loads of better things he could have done. A Car doesn't appreciate but depreciates. Well you can't know because the only thing you do is spread your legs wide for a dick to come in

Awshhh that's too hard I felt the sting of ya words... petkruz pele

vizkiz:


do you know why it will take longer time for you guys to make it?

It is because y'all dummies keep engaging yourselves in unnecessary expenses. What do you need a car for in the first place when you can't even afford a house on your own?
I think people are suppose to get wiser but instead y'all keep getting stupi*d by the day

I just keep reading ya replies... one thing about you is that you have similar mentality with me... I battle this line of arguments with my friends they all fixed there minds on cars before anytin... smh... its nice you coaching similar people on NL.. kudos

RexKex:
Pheeeew! Congrats.




But the thing, Madame, Is that We don't wanna Know. We Don't Care!

Y U dey cruel like this?

RexKex:
Pheeeew! Congrats.




But the thing, Madame, Is that We don't wanna Know. We Don't Care!

Y U dey cruel like this?

In as much as you are entitled to your opinion, you can't tell the reasons he decided to buy a car before the apartment. He may need it for his business or stuffs like that. Never judge another by your standard.

[qquote author=vizkiz post=41647727]

[b]I thought I was the only one who noticed how dumb the nigga is. Like getting a car before an apartment? Who thinks that way

Well, I thought people are suppose to learn each day but it seems the youths of this generation keeps getting dumber.

The major reason why it's gonna take a long time before average youths of this generation make it big is because we keep investing on unnecessary items.

Believe me I know that nigga is poor because he can't even afford cash to get a car and an apartment at the same time according to the OP's illustration...(chicken change for yahoo guys)

For a single guy in his category, what is the big deal if he gets an apartment (2bedroom flat) and use the other cash to furnish his apartment. But instead he acted like a dummy he is and went along to get a car (don't tell me it is because he really needs it. It is because he wants to cruise around and form "big boy" shey?) a car that can break down tomorrow and the amount you will use in repairing it will be thousands of naira. These guys no get sense again

Smh... Well, his money, his headache... Just wish the ladies of this generation are wise enough to read out how a man's financial destiny is structured [/b]
[/quote]

[s]

petkruz:
Yea i'm so happy now. I opened a thread concerning me wanting to break up with my man concerning him buying a car and not calling. Well after reading some meaningful and not the "senseless" comments I decided to call to talk to him.

I got to find out he has forgiven me but I still need to win his trust.He explained about the car,that he felt it's step by step! The car had to come first before moving to a 3bedroom flat,afterall he's not comfortable with us jumping into buses.

I felt bad when he told me girls who weren't his girlfriends called him first and he waited for my call till morning and concluded he wasn't all that important afterall and decided not to call.

I'v made up my mind NEVER to hurt him again,he's a good man and deserves to be treated like a king.

Thanks romancelanders for really dragging my ears and telling me the truth especially daretodiffer, I cudnt read all comments but you kept sounding the truth into my ears,i'm a stubborn woman,but I got broken.

Ifeanyi I know u aint on Nairaland,but these guys are my witness,i promise never to hurt you or your feelings again.I have dated the good bad and ugly but in all, you are a man with the best heart and I wouldn't trade that for all the useless fun the world has to offer,thanks for loving a drama queen like me! [/s]

Thanks everyone.

Ishiroe niyen

adanny01:


That suits you.

There are certain businesses that you have to put an appearance to get a deal. I have been to places where driving in gives you automatic admitance but those who took taxi or walked to the gate are turned back. Your type of car even matters.

Trust me, some big clients have to see you are above certain levels, your house wont speak for you in that case.

Its not all the time that investing in landed property is the best investment. Ones personal appearance could bring good business. A good perfume can give you opportunities you wont believe. Your lack of car can make you late to an appointment that could have given you the opportunity to buy a 2 houses.

You might be right from a perspective and d same time be wrong from another....but from my own perspective i believe i made a smart move coz i know myself, my worth and my plans more than anybody

I'v made up my mind NEVER to hurt him again,he's a good man and deserves to be treated like a king.
Until he turns broke again *yinmu* I can see through ladies like you and I don't wish them on my enemies. *plays 50 cents' 50 questions knowing all the answers will be NO*

Kassidy90:

You might be right from a perspective and d same time be wrong from another....but from my own perspective i believe i made a smart move coz i know myself, my worth and my plans more than anybody

Different strokes for different folks.

I know a man who earned very little and was saving all his life building a house. Upon retirement, part of his gratuity was used to complete the house with furniture. I was shocked that he built the house.

However, the house came at a price. He never drank beer all his life nor socialised where he may need to give money to friends or family as assistance. He lived in a house with least possible rent and bills. There was access to public utility such as electricity or water but he refused to subscribe. He live in darkness in a place well electrified. He had no TV but just a small transistor radio. He ate very little and luxury such as meat or fish were only for special ocassions. Children attended public schools only.

His family grew up in such conditions that when i dated one of his daughters, she cared nothing about living a good life. She watches no movie nor tv programmes, listens to no music, read no novels, magazines or newspapers only schoolbooks and textbooks. She has no dress sense, cooks mostly local food, detest cereals and beverages. Her psyche was affected.

She was loving but boring. I quit the relationship because i saw no future in the relationship and would never want to live like her or have my children grow up same way.

At the end, he had his dream house still with no TV. He is retired, above 60 and a beautiful house. When he dies, his children would be happy to inherit their fathers house and his way of life. Life rotates another generation with no pleasures of living on earth.

I am not here on earth to build a house. So building a house cannot top my priority throughout my life. I cannot sacrifice the wellbeing of my children over a house. We will live one day at a time, making choices and balancing between luxurious and basic needs. I live to have the best of everything not a house. My kids must develop well, watch kiddies channels, sleep on good beds, wear good clothes, eat balanced diets, visit the parks, lick ice cream and go to the best schools. If at the end i cant afford a house so be it, i hope my children live a good life and own a house. My gift to them will be a good life not a house.

A Hausa saying goes, "ba rakiya na zo yi a duniya ba". Meaning, i did not come to earth as an escort. The challenge is cutting my coat to my size.

Who cares about your feelings toward you boyfriend that knows the type of person you are.

You can take someone from the bush but can't take the bush in them.

petkruz:
Yea i'm so happy now. I opened a thread concerning me wanting to break up with my man concerning him buying a car and not calling. Well after reading some meaningful and not the "senseless" comments I decided to call to talk to him.

I got to find out he has forgiven me but I still need to win his trust.He explained about the car,that he felt it's step by step! The car had to come first before moving to a 3bedroom flat,afterall he's not comfortable with us jumping into buses.

I felt bad when he told me girls who weren't his girlfriends called him first and he waited for my call till morning and concluded he wasn't all that important afterall and decided not to call.

I'v made up my mind NEVER to hurt him again,he's a good man and deserves to be treated like a king.

Thanks romancelanders for really dragging my ears and telling me the truth especially daretodiffer, I cudnt read all comments but you kept sounding the truth into my ears,i'm a stubborn woman,but I got broken.

Ifeanyi I know u aint on Nairaland,but these guys are my witness,i promise never to hurt you or your feelings again.I have dated the good bad and ugly but in all, you are a man with the best heart and I wouldn't trade that for all the useless fun the world has to offer,thanks for loving a drama queen like me!

Thanks everyone.

No you would have waited for him.There are a lot ladies out there that will do anything to get a guy who is financially stable if you think you too beautiful or special watch another lady come take him away from you.My dear you can only show those yanga tolo tolo when he has nothing.Once a guy is financially stable trust me girls is the least of his problem only if he has a higher spec.

petkruz:
Yea i'm so happy now. I opened a thread concerning me wanting to break up with my man concerning him buying a car and not calling. Well after reading some meaningful and not the "senseless" comments I decided to call to talk to him.

I got to find out he has forgiven me but I still need to win his trust.He explained about the car,that he felt it's step by step! The car had to come first before moving to a 3bedroom flat,afterall he's not comfortable with us jumping into buses.

I felt bad when he told me girls who weren't his girlfriends called him first and he waited for my call till morning and concluded he wasn't all that important afterall and decided not to call.

I'v made up my mind NEVER to hurt him again,he's a good man and deserves to be treated like a king.

Thanks romancelanders for really dragging my ears and telling me the truth especially daretodiffer, I cudnt read all comments but you kept sounding the truth into my ears,i'm a stubborn woman,but I got broken.

Ifeanyi I know u aint on Nairaland,but these guys are my witness,i promise never to hurt you or your feelings again.I have dated the good bad and ugly but in all, you are a man with the best heart and I wouldn't trade that for all the useless fun the world has to offer,thanks for loving a drama queen like me!

Thanks everyone.

It is an illusion to conclude I am not in Nairaland! I love you too sweetheart.
THAnk you too... for making that promise to always love me no matter the condition!

vizkiz:


you stopped making sense after the bolded. And to add to that point. Paying rent isn't spending unnecessarily. It's a mandate if you don't wanna be thrown out of the house

Getting a car comes along with expenses he can't afford. Think with your eyes if your head is currently scrambled dude

This guy talks as if he's an epitome of wisdom, circumference with the truth and facts needed to guide an average man, i know the fire is burning in you and you remind me of someone close to me, but bros you need to calm down and oil your clandestine ego with been less judgemental in someone else's situation which i believe you are not furnished with the whole fact, everybody has a reason for acting the way they do, and if you are patient enough you might see an atom of sense in their decisions. Well i won't be surprised if you come for me with that anger in you, because it seems evident in your ways.

Sorry to be a kill-joy but, me thinks that relationship ain't gonna work ( not like what I think is relevant anyway). A lot of factors bear my conclusion out.

So moderator, u no longer have anything to put on front page but stories of people making up. Yet important information from people will not make front page. stupidity, i know my ban has just been lifted but if u like ban me again for a month. This is high STUPIDITY[b][/b]

dominusgai:
So moderator, u no longer have anything to put on front page but stories of people making up. Yet important information from people will not make front page. stupidity, i know my ban has just been lifted but if u like ban me again for a month. This is high STUPIDITY[b][/b]

ROFL no worry bro. Dey no born am mk he ban u.

adanny01:


Different strokes for different folks.

I know a man who earned very little and was saving all his life building a house. Upon retirement, part of his gratuity was used to complete the house with furniture. I was shocked that he built the house.

However, the house came at a price. He never drank beer all his life nor socialised where he may need to give money to friends or family as assistance. He lived in a house with least possible rent and bills. There was access to public utility such as electricity or water but he refused to subscribe. He live in darkness in a place well electrified. He had no TV but just a small transistor radio. He ate very little and luxury such as meat or fish were only for special ocassions. Children attended public schools only.

His family grew up in such conditions that when i dated one of his daughters, she cared nothing about living a good life. She watches no movie nor tv programmes, listens to no music, read no novels, magazines or newspapers only schoolbooks and textbooks. She has no dress sense, cooks mostly local food, detest cereals and beverages. Her psyche was affected.

She was loving but boring. I quit the relationship because i saw no future in the relationship and would never want to live like her or have my children grow up same way.

At the end, he had his dream house still with no TV. He is retired, above 60 and a beautiful house. When he dies, his children would be happy to inherit their fathers house and his way of life. Life rotates another generation with no pleasures of living on earth.

I am not here on earth to build a house. So building a house cannot top my priority throughout my life. I cannot sacrifice the wellbeing of my children over a house. We will live one day at a time, making choices and balancing between luxurious and basic needs. I live to have the best of everything not a house. My kids must develop well, watch kiddies channels, sleep on good beds, wear good clothes, eat balanced diets, visit the parks, lick ice cream and go to the best schools. If at the end i cant afford a house so be it, i hope my children live a good life and own a house. My gift to them will be a good life not a house.

A Hausa saying goes, "ba rakiya na zo yi a duniya ba". Meaning, i did not come to earth as an escort. The challenge is cutting my coat to my size.

Wow! What kind of man is that?

petkruz:
Yea i'm so happy now. I opened a thread concerning me wanting to break up with my man concerning him buying a car and not calling. Well after reading some meaningful and not the "senseless" comments I decided to call to talk to him.

I got to find out he has forgiven me but I still need to win his trust.He explained about the car,that he felt it's step by step! The car had to come first before moving to a 3bedroom flat,afterall he's not comfortable with us jumping into buses.

I felt bad when he told me girls who weren't his girlfriends called him first and he waited for my call till morning and concluded he wasn't all that important afterall and decided not to call.

I'v made up my mind NEVER to hurt him again,he's a good man and deserves to be treated like a king.

Thanks romancelanders for really dragging my ears and telling me the truth especially daretodiffer, I cudnt read all comments but you kept sounding the truth into my ears,i'm a stubborn woman,but I got broken.

Ifeanyi I know u aint on Nairaland,but these guys are my witness,i promise never to hurt you or your feeling
s again.I have dated the good bad and ugly but in all, you are a man with the best heart and I wouldn't trade that for all the useless fun the world has to offer,thanks for loving a drama queen like me!

Thanks everyone.

plus he nw drives

petkruz:
Yea i'm so happy now. I opened a thread concerning me wanting to break up with my man concerning him buying a car and not calling. Well after reading some meaningful and not the "senseless" comments I decided to call to talk to him.

I got to find out he has forgiven me but I still need to win his trust.He explained about the car,that he felt it's step by step! The car had to come first before moving to a 3bedroom flat,afterall he's not comfortable with us jumping into buses.

I felt bad when he told me girls who weren't his girlfriends called him first and he waited for my call till morning and concluded he wasn't all that important afterall and decided not to call.

I'v made up my mind NEVER to hurt him again,he's a good man and deserves to be treated like a king.

Thanks romancelanders for really dragging my ears and telling me the truth especially daretodiffer, I cudnt read all comments but you kept sounding the truth into my ears,i'm a stubborn woman,but I got broken.

Ifeanyi I know u aint on Nairaland,but these guys are my witness,i promise never to hurt you or your feelings again.I have dated the good bad and ugly but in all, you are a man with the best heart and I wouldn't trade that for all the useless fun the world has to offer,thanks for loving a drama queen like me!

Thanks everyone.

so much for a hypocritical lad who "doesnt" bring her offline relationship issues online. U bera watch ur back!

donbenedict:
so much for a hypocritical lad who "doesnt" bring her offline relationship issues online. U bera watch ur back!

Don't quote me again please! Thanks.