Hello nairalanders, i'm writing this because i'm so hurt, i feel unappreciated. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and through out this period i've loved and cared for him like any loving person should maybe a little too much. And all i've asked is that he loves me just the same. I know he loves me, but i think i love him more than he loves me and he knows that. I know his job is time consuming and stressful, but i still understand and support him. Sometimes i'll practically have to beg him to call me! Thats how bad it gets. Please guys advice me because all my advice and mirror talk is doing nothing, i think i'm sick in the head because i know i deserve more than i'm getting. I keep telling myself to let go, i tried and the pain was just too much.

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gynny:
Hello nairalanders, i'm writing this because i'm so hurt, i feel unappreciated. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and through out this period i've loved and cared for him like any loving person should maybe a little too much. And all i've asked is that he loves me just the same. I know he loves me, but i think i love him more than he loves me and he knows that. I know his job is time consuming and stressful, but i still understand and support him. Sometimes i'll practically have to beg him to call me! Thats how bad it gets. Please guys advice me because all my advice and mirror talk is doing nothing, i think i'm sick in the head because i know i deserve more than i'm getting. I keep telling myself to let go, i tried and the pain was just too much.

U need Vitamin Me...

Babe just hold on, be patient, try to understand the situation, I think he may be goin tru a lot at work, jst try to be understanding.... how often does he call u?

He doesn't call you throughout the day or doesn't call you many times in a day?How often do you see each other?

If it just about him not calling I advice you should be patient with him and tried to talk to him about how you are feeling in relationship,maybe with time things will change cos you might meet some one worst than he is if you let go.

Hey babe... if u feel un-appreciated by him, why not try appreciating yourself? And continue being that understanding gal that you have always been to him?

N:B - U alone can make yourself happy beta than anyone else.

OP I think I understand where you are coming from. In most relationships, it's normally hard on one partner if he/she feels he/she isn't being shown enough love as is being rendered to the other partner.

From your post your rightly stated that you know your man loves you. This means that he actually expresses love in other areas, but he is only lacking in the area of making out time for you.

You have to first understand one thing. The fact that a guy doesn't call you all the time doesn't mean he doesn't really love you. Some guys aren't the calling type. And given the fact that your man is a very busy person, it would be difficult for him to always call or be with you all the time. You are a woman. Women generally like to be given much attention by their partners, and when they feel they aren't given as much as they think they should, it becomes a problem, as is in your case.

I believe your man still loves you and cares about you. You should stop worrying.

I'll tell you what. How about you make out time for each other. I mean set out a particular time of the week, when he isn't busy, just for the two of you. Maybe on friday nights or sunday afternoons. Just the two of you. This would help in making you feel closer to him and in keeping the connection you have with each other alive, even if you don't get to spend that much time together, and hopefully it would erase your doubts.

Pele

gynny:
Hello nairalanders, i'm writing this because i'm so hurt, i feel unappreciated. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and through out this period i've loved and cared for him like any loving person should maybe a little too much. And all i've asked is that he loves me just the same. I know he loves me, but i think i love him more than he loves me and he knows that. I know his job is time consuming and stressful, but i still understand and support him. Sometimes i'll practically have to beg him to call me! Thats how bad it gets. Please guys advice me because all my advice and mirror talk is doing nothing, i think i'm sick in the head because i know i deserve more than i'm getting. I keep telling myself to let go, i tried and the pain was just too much.

sorry dearie...bt hw do i help

thorpido:
He doesn't call you throughout the day or doesn't call you many times in a day?How often do you see each other?

sometimes he does'nt call for days. We only see on public holidays, thats the only time he has for visits.

dukeolumde:


U need Vitamin Me...

thanks, i'll pass

Cutehector:
Babe just hold on, be patient, try to understand the situation, I think he may be goin tru a lot at work, jst try to be understanding.... how often does he call u?

Hi

Thanks Decker, i get ur points and i'll try to apply them. As for the spending time on friday nights and stuffs, it's a long distance relationship, but we try to visit during public hoildays.

kaziblake:
Hi

sup hw u doin

Give him sometime,he might be going thru some tough times at wrk or you pay him a surprise visit at home.
Talk to him,tell him how you feel and see his reaction.

Cutehector:
sup hw u doin

Good,i sent you a mail

kaziblake:
Good,i sent you a mail

alryt,leme check

Cutehector:
Babe just hold on, be patient, try to understand the situation, I think he may be goin tru a lot at work, jst try to be understanding.... how often does he call u?

i understand he may be going tru a lot, but he'll not even talk to me abt them and when i asks he just snaps. Sometimes he does'nt call for days, but i still try to call every day.

When it comes to the issue of relationship,you need alot of patience and wisdom. Patience to know when there is a phase that truly test our real or imaginary love. Wisdom because you must not be desperate so you dont loose your worth,value and honor in his sight. If one calls more often,it makes the other person to relax in that part. What to do is to engage your mind into something else dont stay too far so you dont lose him and dont stay too close so you wont be lowered in his sight. See how to fit into his schdules so you wont be a barrier but solution.

pweetychyka:
Hey babe... if u feel un-appreciated by him, why not try appreciating yourself? And continue being that understanding gal that you have always been to him?

N:B - U alone can make yourself happy beta than anyone else.

thanks for the advice.

Beg him to call you !!!! What illegal substance are you on? It's not too late, you can still add him to your new year's resolutions as the bad habit to quit

"A girl should never need someone who doesn't need her"- Marilyn Monroe

kaziblake:
Give him sometime,he might be going thru some tough times at wrk or you pay him a surprise visit at home.
Talk to him,tell him how you feel and see his reaction.

i've been trying to talk but he thinks i'm over reacting. As for the surprise visit, we dnt stay in the same state and the surprise stuff might not really work.

gynny:
Thanks Decker, i get ur points and i'll try to apply them. As for the spending time on friday nights and stuffs, it's a long distance relationship, but we try to visit during public hoildays.

You are welcome. I even wanted to ask you if it was a long distance relationship, but now you have said it, I think I understand better.

Long distance relationships sure has it's disadvantages, but it can always work, especially when two partners love each other, just like you and your partner. It's also great you guys visit during public holidays. On the issue of calling, I think your partner will improve, with time. Since he knows you really enjoy him calling you, and you feel bad when he doesn't, if he really loves you, which I think he does, he'd surely adjust to his busy schedule and make out more time for that. Just stop worrying too much, okay?

I wish you all the best.

pweetychyka:
Hey babe... if u feel un-appreciated by him, why not try appreciating yourself? And continue being that understanding gal that you have always been to him?

N:B - U alone can make yourself happy beta than anyone else.

i concur!!


Your happiness lies in your hand.

thywobab:
If it just about him not calling I advice you should be patient with him and tried to talk to him about how you are feeling in relationship,maybe with time things will change cos you might meet some one worst than he is if you let go.

thanks, i get your point.

gynny:
i understand he may be going tru a lot, but he'll not even talk to me abt them and when i asks he just snaps. Sometimes he does'nt call for days, but i still try to call every day.

just calm down... stop worryn abt him and worry abt other important things ok. pls. Wen u ladies in love, u guys make d mistake of revolving ur lives around him Whch ain't cool.

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Those cheeks are so fat,cute.

JanuaryTempest:
Beg him to call you !!!! What illegal substance are you on? It's not too late, you can still add him to your new year's resolutions as the bad habit to quit

"A girl should never need someone who doesn't need her"- Marilyn Monroe

lol.. Am not high on anything illegal. But i'll get my head checked!

gynny:
Thanks Decker, i get ur points and i'll try to apply them. As for the spending time on friday nights and stuffs, it's a long distance relationship, but we try to visit during public hoildays.

@bolded, ohh no. Just try out Decker's opinion

gynny:
i've been trying to talk but he thinks i'm over reacting. As for the surprise visit, we dnt stay in the same state and the surprise stuff might not really work.

Different state?
He might be seeing another girl,just saying.

kaziblake:
Different state?
He might be seeing another girl,just saying.

nah, he's really faithful, i dnt suspect him. Thanks still