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You Are Unique: 5 Ways To Build 'what' Will Differentiate You. by smartsammie(m): 3:28pm On Jan 05, 2016 |
1. Confidence is the ability to act from your
inner authority
Most of us get easily swayed by others’
opinions, expectations and what we are
“supposed to” do, say and feel. Confident
people don’t.
Confident people make decisions from their
inner authority, regardless of the outcome or
consequences. This doesn’t mean they are
immoral or unethical — it’s actually far from it.
Confident people have a respect for others,
including themselves. They show it by taking
action from their true instincts, not from
expectations. If they do go with the grain, they
check in with their inner authority first.
Lesson: Check in with yourself before making
decisions. Avoid getting caught up in trying to
please others by saying the “right” thing or
being the “right” kind of person.
Speak what you know to be true under all
circumstances. You have the strength to
manage any opposition.
2. Confidence is the ability to feel safe being
vulnerable
Acting tough actually connotes weakness of
character. Confident people are not afraid to
express their fears, tell others when they are
hurt and let people know about their deeper
ambitions, dreams and hopes.
Confident people can show their soft
underbellies without fear. Those who lack
confidence do all they can to deny their
“weakness” and hide it in dark corners of their
hearts and minds.
But, someone who is truly self-assured knows
the judgment of others or the disappointments
of life will never define them. They would never
give up their power to outside forces.
Lesson: Allow yourself to be exposed. Cry if
you’re in pain, express your authentic
disappointments and let others in on the real
you. Avoid locking up your heart; it isn’t
necessary. Your underbelly is an asset.
3. Confidence is dressing to impress yourself
Confident people tend to look confident. They
accept that we live in a visual world and use
this to their advantage. They appreciate the
reality of their physical body types and dress it
accordingly.
Not trying to hide features, they wear clothes
that fit, highlight assets and make statements.
Not trying to overcompensate, they avoid baring
a distracting amount of skin. Confident people
dress to express their real selves.
Lesson: Dress yourself as if you’re the lead
character in your own smash hit movie. Be real
about your body; accept its unique beauty and
human flaws. Honor your physical self by
adorning it joyfully. Allow others to see you.
Stand tall.
4. Confidence is having the strength to remain
enthusiastic
Hate, criticism, negativity and disapproval of
others are cheap expressions from a person
who needs to bolster his or her own weak sense
of self.
It is easy to turn “cool” and pessimistic in order
to protect against disappointment. Confident
people don’t need these strategies; they are
able to maintain a youthful sense of joy about
life.
If disappointments come their way, they know
they can handle them. There’s no need to
preempt tragedy. Confident people keep their
excitement about life intact, regardless of
circumstances or events.
Lesson: Show confidence by being bravely
enthusiastic. Let others witness your joy,
excitement and delight. Avoid protecting
yourself with cynicism. Love fully.
5. Confidence is being on your own path
Confident people know and feel that their lives
have purpose. They use their talents, explore
their interests and are engaged with the world
in a way that reflects their authentic values.
Because they genuinely love the lives they’ve
built for themselves, they don’t need others to
provide them with a feeling of value and
meaning.
This keeps them centered and self-reliant. They
will connect with people who enhance their
experiences and remove those who block them
from walking their paths.
Lesson: Build confidence by living your values.
If you hate your job, take action toward finding
work you believe in. Consciously make friends
who inspire you. Engage in life-enhancing
hobbies.
Take pride in the specific way you walk your
path. When your life has worth, you feel self-
worth. Self-worth equals self-confidence. Mods, kindly move it to the right section. |
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