I want your thought if it is right for a guy who have been showering gifts and money to his girl when he has money , but refusing to ask his girlfriend for money when he needs and it is evident the girl has money as at the time the guy needs it.

i call it wisely stupid... if he wont ask in a dangerous situation!

donTbone:
i call it wisely stupid... if he wont ask in a dangerous situation!

I dnt knw if it is pride o, bt as for me I will over ask d gal

It depends, if the guy is financially stable and the gurl isn't, then it's understandable. If u are in a critical moment and she is ur last resort, then feel free to ask. If in ur critical moment and u refused to ask, then that's foolishness.
In a situation whereby what u want the money for isn't really necessary, then no need to ask.

He is proud,no one is an island and relationship is about having each other's back especially in times of wants....

well some people see it as a sign of weakness, they believe the guy is not man enough

I don't think it's a matter of shyness but of pride. Most men believe that they are the ones to provide for the lady all the time. That they are supposed to be the one at the given end, and the lady would be at the receiving end.

They believe asking their woman for money threatens their perceived position of being the head in the relationship. The one who calls the shots. The one in charge.

But this is a wrong way to view a man's role in a relationship. And it's normally the consensus with West Africans, Nigerians especially.

I believe every relationship is a partnership union where one partner isn't just supposed to live on the other. It should be a symbiotic relationship, one that benefits both partners.

A guy who gives his girlfriend money all the time should be okay with asking her when he doesn't have one. It doesn't make him any less of a man.

I concur wit ur elaborate explanation

Decker:
I don't think it's a matter of shyness but of pride. Most men believe that they are the ones to provide for the lady all the time. That they are supposed to be the one at the given end, and the lady would be at the receiving end.

They believe asking their woman for money threatens their perceived position of being the head in the relationship. The one who calls the shots. The one in charge.

But this is a wrong way to view a man's role in the relationship. And it's normally the consensus with West Africans, Nigerians especially.

I believe every relationship is a partnership union where one partner isn't just supposed to live on the other. It should be a symbiotic relationship, one that benefits both partners.

A guy who gives his girlfriend money all the time should be okay with asking her when he doesn't have one. It doesn't make him any less of a man.

ebrochukwu:
I concur wit ur elaborate explanation

Good to know.

there is nothing wrong in it...but I don't see ma sef doing it even with ma spiritual eyes.

ebrochukwu:
I want your thought if it is right for a guy who have been showering gifts and money to his girl when he has money , but refusing to ask his girlfriend for money when he needs and it is evident the girl has money as at the time the guy needs it.

guess it's wat ur passing through nw??

ebrochukwu:
I want your thought if it is right for a guy who have been showering gifts and money to his girl when he has money , but refusing to ask his girlfriend for money when he needs and it is evident the girl has money as at the time the guy needs it.

guess it's wat ur passing through nw?

Decker:
I don't think it's a matter of shyness but of pride. Most men believe that they are the ones to provide for the lady all the time. That they are supposed to be the one at the given end, and the lady would be at the receiving end.

They believe asking their woman for money threatens their perceived position of being the head in the relationship. The one who calls the shots. The one in charge.

But this is a wrong way to view a man's role in a relationship. And it's normally the consensus with West Africans, Nigerians especially.

I believe every relationship is a partnership union where one partner isn't just supposed to live on the other. It should be a symbiotic relationship, one that benefits both partners.

A guy who gives his girlfriend money all the time should be okay with asking her when he doesn't have one. It doesn't make him any less of a man.

Maybe lets just say men loooove our bodies and we looove their pockets. Isn't that symbiotic?

He can ask but it shouldnt exceed once.

Speechless3:
Maybe lets just say men loooove our bodies and we looove their pockets. Isn't that symbiotic?

He can ask but it shouldnt exceed once.

Don't you also love men's bodies? You are saying it as if you ladies don't also derive your own share of sexual gratification when you engage in sexual activities with your partner.

On the issue of having a symbiotic relationship, it applies in all areas.

The man derives sexual pleasure, as well as the woman.
The man can to take from the financial pockets of his lady, and the lady can do the same.

It can exceed once. If you as a lady can always take from your man as many times as you like, why are you limiting the man's own to just once? Isn't that selfishness?

I think a real Girlfriend will know when her guy is down and know when to help..feel mee

Nope but I knw somebody who is

firstking01:
guess it's wat ur passing through nw??

niggi4life:
the truth is how many of the so called girlfriends have money to give? They are always broke.
Asking from them is like complicating your problems

It wld be bad to ask and not be given, so best avoid exposing yourself.
Depends on the lady

ebrochukwu:
Nope but I knw somebody who is

owk, tell him to swallow his ego and do the needful

Don't rely on anyone for money but God.

Ok

firstking01:
owk, tell him to swallow his ego and do the needful