BEST WAYS TO REJECT A RELATIONSHIP PROPOSAL
WITHOUT CONTROVERSY.
By Emmy Chi Bandoh
Some days ago beside a filling station were i came to get
fuel, i saw a young lady, she was tall and beautiful, she
walked stylishly, while holding her Bible in her hand. With all
good intentions i ran towards her shouting "Hello! Hello!!"
But she ignored me, determined to get to her I walked faster
and finally tapped her on the shoulder mildly, to my greatest
surprise, she went ballistic on me screaming, " leave me
alone, i don't need you, i don't need a boyfriend, Jesus is my
boyfriend," she said at the top of her voice. Almost everyone
at the filling station starred at me and it was like the ground
should open so I can just bury myself inside. It was so
embarrassing because i had no intention of asking her out,
especially since i came to get the fuel with my girlfriend
who was waiting for me.
Anyways, I summoned the courage to tell her what made me
come running after her, "I am not here to ask you to be my
girlfriend, I only came to tell you about the cobweb attached
to your hair," I said sharply and turned to leave. She
checked it with her hands, feeling embarrassed about what
she had done, she apologised to me, telling me about how
two guys had already made advances at her that evening
and how fed up she was with trying to get rid of them. I
walked away thinking she could have treated me better.
Some days later I saw her again, she recognized me and
apologized again, told me her name was Loveth and she
asked for my hands of friendship but I generously turned it
down because I still could not shake off the previous
embarrassment.
Personally i feel there are better ways to turn down
relationship proposals without hurting the feeling of the
person be it a lady or a guy. I have heard of some scenarios
where the situations escalate because of a lack of proper
management of the situation. I remember telling a friend of
mine who is more of a rascal about my experience and he
asked me why i did not slap the girl. Imagine in a situation
where it was him and not me, we would probably still be
trying to separate the fight.
So here are a few tips on how best to reject a proposal
without creating much of a distaste. Note that you cannot
totally avoid hurting people by turning them down, but you
can avoid creating a scene if you do it right.
Step 1: Honesty remains the best route to follow. Letting an
admirer live in some fantasy that there may be a happy
ending with you (when they clearly do not have a chance)
will hurt tremendously. Be plain and simple, and avoid
ambiguity. If you are sure it is what you want say it and be
firm.
Being honest doesn't necessarily mean that you should say,
"I don't like you," or, "I can't imagine being with you," sort of
thing. Simply state that you value his or her friendship and
acknowledge their feelings for you, but you want to keep the
things between you neutral. Be direct and honest without
being cruel. ... continued at ... https://www.nairaland.com/2854732/how-reject-relationships-proposal-without

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