Am a Relationship person. Though not married, but I try to learn a lot.
Apart from choosing the wedding date, venue and caterer for your day, there are other deeper issues you both need to discuss with each other. Issues where you need to open up to your partner completely and let him/her in.

Without discussing these crucial issues before marriage might be unwise and may have repercussions later on in the marriage.
Here are the issues below:

1.Your past: Have you told him/her about any negative or positive experience from your past that has a significant effect on your life? Your history can impact your marriage’s future. Allow him/her to be part of it and move forward as a couple. Do not let your past haunt your future.

2.Family obligations: How will you celebrate the holidays? Do you plan to spend Christmas at your folks’house, and New Year’s Day with his family? Things as simple as these can spike arguments in the future. Lay all the cards down in terms of your financial obligations on each side. Are you okay with allotting a certain percentage of his salary to his parents?

3.Division of house labor: When it’s just the two of you at home, hiring a helper may mean an unnecessary expense, so it’s only practical that you two discuss the division of house chores. If you really loathe washing the dishes, compromise that you’ll be in charge of cooking and table cleanup. If your man hates doing the laundry, volunteer to wash the clothes and ask him to be in charge of the clothesline. This way, you won’t hate each other, while maintaining the upkeep of your love nest.

4.Sex: Newlywed sex is fun and exciting, but as you count the wedding anniversaries, one of you can sometimes overlook its value. Explain to him your expectations and limits, or how you two can maintain the spice in the bedroom.

5.Secrets: Whether it’s something you did that you regret, a health issue, or a family secret, he/she deserves to know it. Also, since he’s basically going to be part of the family, divulging these details matter. It’s better that he/she hears it from you than from someone else.

6.Faith: If you have different religions, say, he’s a Renewed Christian and you’re a Catholic, confer with one another which church you’ll be spending Sundays at. Also, if you do plan to have kids, finalize what religion they’ll be following.

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hmmmm,
food for thought

Health issues nko
Potential FP topic
Make I park

QueenValerie:
Wait,but you forget to add:discuss having kids

I personally agree that kids can't be planned for. Especially here in Nigeria. Anytin can happen. Even when u plan for 2 kids, u might end up with four.. #coldWeather. Lol

Good one op

Hmmm what about agreement on toilet washing turn by turn

Agubushmenyo:
I personally agree that kids can't be planned for. Especially here in Nigeria. Anytin can happen. Even when u plan for 2 kids, u might end up with four.. #coldWeather. Lol

Dang the weather can do that,I'ma have to bundle up well then No seriously I meant discuss if they both want kids.

Nice one but how about financial obligation and the kind of account the family should run

QueenValerie:
Dang the weather can do that,I'ma have to bundle up well then No seriously I meant discuss if they both want kids.

In Nigeria?? Everybody want kids joor personally, I want like 5 kids

Agubushmenyo:
In Nigeria?? Everybody want kids joor personally, I want like 5 kids

No not Nigeria,America,I'm African American.I don't want kids,blame it on babysitting if you wanna

QueenValerie:
No not Nigeria,America,I'm African American.I don't want kids,blame it on babysitting if you wanna

funny you. Hope you won't end up having like 7 . I heard 7 stands for perfection!!

Agubushmenyo:
funny you. Hope you won't end up having like 7 . I heard 7 stands for perfection!!

Buddy trust I'll end up with this many 0 That's perfection for me.

QueenValerie:
Wait,but you forgot to add:discuss having kids

Why are you so obsessed with having kids?

donTbone:

Why are you so obsessed with having kids?

. I think that's something that should be on the list,if one part of a pair wants kids while the other doesn't it could cause issues,arguments.Someone would have to give in.Best to make sure your compatible before taking a step down the asile.

QueenValerie:
. I think that's something that should be on the list,if one part of a pair wants kids while the other doesn't it could cause issues,arguments.Someone would have to give in.Best to make sure your compatible before taking a step down the asile.

Am afraid!

donTbone:

Am afraid!

why?

ok

QueenValerie:
why?

donTbone:

What dude,spit it out.

donTbone:

Nice points but Financial issues and number of kids should be discussed too.

Very vital

Michizzy:
Nice points but Financial issues and number of kids should be discussed too.

you think such an agreement can be kept to? I mean number of kids..

Agubushmenyo:
you think such an agreement can be kept to? I mean number of kids..

I know its hard to keep but you should discuss it. A friend said he would love to have 12 kids . What if fiancee wants 2 or 3 kids?

I like it

I no dey do house chores, secondly, she must like APC.

I THINK WOULD-BE COUPLES SHOULD ASK EACH OTHER: HAVE U ABORTED PREGNANCY BEFORE? WOULD U ALLOW MY SIBLING TO STAY WITH US FOR 2YEARS FOR THEM TO BE ON THEIR OWN?

Talking about the nos of kids is important, cos i have witness a soldier giving his wife an option of divorce or abortion after the 3 children deal they had #when she was pregnant for the forth time which he said she broke their agreement of strictly 3 children

Agubushmenyo:
I personally agree that kids can't be planned for. Especially here in Nigeria. Anytin can happen. Even when u plan for 2 kids, u might end up with four.. #coldWeather. Lol

Agubushmenyo:

. What is he trying to say,do you know?He won't tell me.

I once saw a beutiful lady living off campus,she is still studying Law 200L althought am graduate waiting to be mobilised A16, her charming smile made me to fall in love with her, I met her on her way from school so I drove her home by the way am able to got her contact and she showed me her place, she happy felt when ever she saw me we gist a lot, but as soon as I left when I call on phone she will not pick untill I went back to her room to remained her she will keep on saying her phone is charging. I'm the shy type I cant tell that I love her directly also time is not by my side, she is perfect curve,moderately tall,white. Please help me because I want to marry her very soon.

Lalasticlala do you think number of kids should be discussed? Let's hear people's opinions