when a lady is single and searching, is just like job hunting for most of them. Cos, in order to attract suitors and eventually get married, she needs to be in her best behavior and also present and comport herself very well in public. Lacking any of these is bound to scare serious minded guys (correct suitors) away from her. Same way not having the necessary credentials or good attitude while applying for a job could prevent one from getting a job...So, ladies try to work on yourself, and I bet you, correct suitors would come after you same way bees are attracted to honey!

Work on yourself how? Like crew driver and hammer as tools? Ya I get it !

watching sha...

She should work on herself? Meaning that she wasn't originally like that? Then she eventually gets a suitor who probably fell in love with her because she was able to put up a facade, albeit a fake one?

What happens when they get married & the lady gets tired of putting up a facade because she was never her "real" self, she "worked on herself"? Isn't it reasonable enough to conclude that the "suitor" will be a little bit surprised that the lady he married was living a fake life after all & maybe opt for a divorce which is absolutely appropriate


My point is this; just be natural, don't try to shade your flaws. The right person will appreciate you for who you really are, your flaws & all. It is better to be rejected for who you are than be accepted for who you are not .

Ok, thanks for the advice