bigiyaro:
OP, tell your brother everything, from A to Z. To make tins worst if ur brother's fiancée inherited her father's wickedness, ur brother is so-so done for.

IamLEGEND1:
Ruin their relationship.
We dey ur back.

ournaijablog:
please how's he making a terrible mistake? is the girl her father? who knows she might not have been born when the incident happened, the old testament said the sins of the father should be visited onto the children until the 4th generation, but Christ came and told us old things have passed away and all things have become new.

I have no problem with him telling the brother about what her father did to his family, what I have a problem with is the manner in which he will tell the brother cos from his write up Supra he's heart is still filled with hate and unforgiveness. What e should be telling him is to tell the brother calmly an let the brother know the family has forgiven her family and moved on and that he just wanted him to know shekinah, cos them go still jam theirselves on their wedding day, Family to Family

SSpeter:
I know this might not be totally right but at least it will make me feel great. Egbon wants to get married in march and automatically I will become the best Man. But I don't want him to get married to her. It is not because of her but the dad.

It all started back in 1998 my dad was having a court case with our supposed in-law over our house. The house was sold to my dad by the late late brother of our supposed in-law. That was even before my dad got married. We have lived in that house for more than 10yrs. My siblings and I were born there. After the death of the brother in 1998 he dragged my dad to court saying his brother was only a benefactor and does not have the legal right to sell the building and their late father made him the executor of His properties according to the late father's will. My parents were partners in business and their office was located at the ground floor of the building where we lived. Their goods were also stored there (plumbing equipment).

Prior to joining the plumbing business, my dad was into commercial inter-state transport services after suffering heavy losses he auctioned what was left and joined my mum in the plumbing business. A year later he was in court with our supposed in-law. The legal battle started in December. Egbon travelled with an aunt of mine who had won a visa lottery the previous year. My sisters were older than the guys. they were already in boarding school. I was the king of the house. My dad suffered many embarrassment at the hands of our supposed in-law. He dragged the case for some years money meant for business ended up in legal battles. My dad had to borrow to pay suppliers. He couldn't not order for new materials anymore and the business eventually collapsed. Extended families gave their support until 2003 when a lagos high court handed our supposed in-law victory

My dad wanted to appeal the judgement but his lawyer told him to get an apartment with whatever he has left. Although my parents thought they hid everything from us. Perhaps my sisters didn't notice because they were not always home but I saw my mum cry severally. I saw the fears in my dad eyes. I listened to their whispering at night I knew we were doomed. Our supposed In-law sold the house to a bank. The bank gave two weeks to evacuate. But before the notice expired they brought sledge hammer and started destroying the building with our properties in it. My dad tried to protest but he was beaten and arrested. For the first time I saw our "Supposed In-law" that day ordering the boys to destroy everything. My dad was later released days after. I went to live with my cousins. My sisters also went to live with my other cousins.

In 2006 I wrote a mail to Egbon I narrated all that happened to him and he vowed he was going to ensure that they payed for it dearly. Few years later, I got admission into the university my parents embraced christ; But I still feel bitter. How time flies, my sisters are both married and it's just me preparing for the life of a bachelor; Until recently my brother told me his plans of getting married, I noticed it because he has visited us more than usual last year and had extensive discussions with my parents. But whenever He came back He still promised my dad that he will never forget all that happened. My dad told him that was in the past but I know what my brother was capable of doing as regards family.

He brought his supposed girl friend (I believe that is all she will ever be) to the house last christmas everyone welcomed her but immediately I set my eyes on her, she looked like the man that was giving orders to tear down our house. I asked her for her surname, when she said ****US, I knew she was the daughter of our long time enemy. When they left, my mum and dad begged me that I shouldn't say anything. That they have forgiven him. She invited my parents and I during the new year but I declined. I have also told my brother I can't be his best man. He thought am joking cos it was via mail. My brother had assured me severally whenever I told him what became of us after then that incident and he told me "I will give up anything to deal with the Man that messed with my family". I guess I will have to tell him the whole truth. But my parents keep calling me every single day to beg. "Saying I should not bring him misery. That they were happy he decided to bring home a cool headed lady".....But I just can't let it go. Unless my brother and I will decide not to be brothers anymore because I will never go to his house if he marries her. I will never associate myself with him or anything that has to do with him.

I have finished typing the truth I want to send the mail to him...I don't know why I am hesitating (I guess my parents will forgive me sooner or later) but he has to know the truth!!!!....i can't dine with my enemy!.....I don't want to see her dad face again....never...I hope am doing the right thing....i think I am.....perhaps I am...

SSpeter:
I know this might not be totally right but at least it will make me feel great. Egbon wants to get married in march and automatically I will become the best Man. But I don't want him to get married to her. It is not because of her but the dad.

It all started back in 1998 my dad was having a court case with our supposed in-law over our house. The house was sold to my dad by the late late brother of our supposed in-law. That was even before my dad got married. We have lived in that house for more than 10yrs. My siblings and I were born there. After the death of the brother in 1998 he dragged my dad to court saying his brother was only a benefactor and does not have the legal right to sell the building and their late father made him the executor of His properties according to the late father's will. My parents were partners in business and their office was located at the ground floor of the building where we lived. Their goods were also stored there (plumbing equipment).

Prior to joining the plumbing business, my dad was into commercial inter-state transport services after suffering heavy losses he auctioned what was left and joined my mum in the plumbing business. A year later he was in court with our supposed in-law. The legal battle started in December. Egbon travelled with an aunt of mine who had won a visa lottery the previous year. My sisters were older than the guys. they were already in boarding school. I was the king of the house. My dad suffered many embarrassment at the hands of our supposed in-law. He dragged the case for some years money meant for business ended up in legal battles. My dad had to borrow to pay suppliers. He couldn't not order for new materials anymore and the business eventually collapsed. Extended families gave their support until 2003 when a lagos high court handed our supposed in-law victory

My dad wanted to appeal the judgement but his lawyer told him to get an apartment with whatever he has left. Although my parents thought they hid everything from us. Perhaps my sisters didn't notice because they were not always home but I saw my mum cry severally. I saw the fears in my dad eyes. I listened to their whispering at night I knew we were doomed. Our supposed In-law sold the house to a bank. The bank gave two weeks to evacuate. But before the notice expired they brought sledge hammer and started destroying the building with our properties in it. My dad tried to protest but he was beaten and arrested. For the first time I saw our "Supposed In-law" that day ordering the boys to destroy everything. My dad was later released days after. I went to live with my cousins. My sisters also went to live with my other cousins.

In 2006 I wrote a mail to Egbon I narrated all that happened to him and he vowed he was going to ensure that they payed for it dearly. Few years later, I got admission into the university my parents embraced christ; But I still feel bitter. How time flies, my sisters are both married and it's just me preparing for the life of a bachelor; Until recently my brother told me his plans of getting married, I noticed it because he has visited us more than usual last year and had extensive discussions with my parents. But whenever He came back He still promised my dad that he will never forget all that happened. My dad told him that was in the past but I know what my brother was capable of doing as regards family.

He brought his supposed girl friend (I believe that is all she will ever be) to the house last christmas everyone welcomed her but immediately I set my eyes on her, she looked like the man that was giving orders to tear down our house. I asked her for her surname, when she said ****US, I knew she was the daughter of our long time enemy. When they left, my mum and dad begged me that I shouldn't say anything. That they have forgiven him. She invited my parents and I during the new year but I declined. I have also told my brother I can't be his best man. He thought am joking cos it was via mail. My brother had assured me severally whenever I told him what became of us after then that incident and he told me "I will give up anything to deal with the Man that messed with my family". I guess I will have to tell him the whole truth. But my parents keep calling me every single day to beg. "Saying I should not bring him misery. That they were happy he decided to bring home a cool headed lady".....But I just can't let it go. Unless my brother and I will decide not to be brothers anymore because I will never go to his house if he marries her. I will never associate myself with him or anything that has to do with him.

I have finished typing the truth I want to send the mail to him...I don't know why I am hesitating (I guess my parents will forgive me sooner or later) but he has to know the truth!!!!....i can't dine with my enemy!.....I don't want to see her dad face again....never...I hope am doing the right thing....i think I am.....perhaps I am...

EgunMogaji:
Send the letter yesterday.

Stop trying to meek this into a drama that it shouldn't be.

Hey big Bros sorry but I can't be your best man for this specific marriage.

Why now, little Bro?

Your Fiancee is the Daughter of the person that ruined our families life. I'm proud for you for you power of forgiveness but I was in the middle of it and I can't forgive her family. I can't choose your wife for you but I can choose the use of my time.

Done.

the brother has no idea.. that is the thingy

cytellProperty:
Which one is your own? Why are you crying more than the bereaved?

somcherry:
Okay let's assume your dad was truly scammed by the girl's uncle.

Do you expect them not to sue your dad?

I will do exactly the same if I were in their shoes.

Your parents probably knows that they were at fault,that's why they didn't want to pursue the case further.

Next time if your dad wants to buy a property,he should investigate properly(that's if he was actually duped).

Petroking:



because the brother does not know the truth, or can't you read

amunkita:
Two options avail you..

*Tell him the truth

*or allow him marry the gal so that u can deal a blow to the family by killing her...(people might spit for this) but if u intend hurting the family bring her close nd deal to final blow to ur enemies..

somcherry:
Okay let's assume your dad was truly scammed by the girl's uncle.

Do you expect them not to sue your dad?

I will do exactly the same if I were in their shoes.

Your parents probably knows that they were at fault,that's why they didn't want to pursue the case further.

Next time if your dad wants to buy a property,he should investigate properly(that's if he was actually duped).

LogoDWhiz:
Well, it seems like you're being petty and you're not a man!


I have no problem with you telling your bro, as that's actually the right thing to do. But what's your motive of doing so?

Is it to seek revenge?

The Dad offended you and not the daughter. You can't ruin your brother's relationship because of your inability to forgive even after your parents have forgiven him and forgotten.



I think a family meeting should be conducted. The Bride, his father, your bro, your parents (and if possible, you shouldn't be there except you can control your anger).

The man should be made to apologise and that's all.


The daughter is not at fault.



What of if the man is acting on a higher command?
Or he actually badly needs to sell the house to settle some stuffs.
Why don't you give him a chance to sort things and then he apologise.



You go sabi keep beef o.
It will rotten at a point tho, causing the 'keeper' bad things

Petroking:


who get money na him dey win court case for Nigeria, There was no higher command, also i believe he was aware that his brother sold the house when he was alive, why did he not go for the property that time.. F*ck that shit lol