I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

U need a thorough psychological review and possible treatment.

My dear, have u had an emotional trauma in the past, way before u started dating this guy? Its probably what's holding you back. Or perhaps you feel you're not good enough for anyone, especially for your current guy. You need to start falling in love with your self.

Maybe you should see a doctor? And get on anti depression meds

Your post is very depressing, its almost like you dont enjoy the simple pleasures of life

Just "woman up" and take control of your life

Don't overthink anything, have fun, let loose, get rid of all those restriction, life is short

You will die eventually, so call your boyfriend tell him you love him.

Go and meet him, fvck his brains out, you'll be alright.

crazygod:
My dear, have u had an emotional trauma in the past, way before u started dating this guy? Its probably what's holding you back. Or perhaps you feel you're not good enough for anyone, especially for your current guy. You need to start falling in love with your self.

No. This is actually my first relationship. I do love him, maybe i dnt know how to express it

rockstarB:

No. This is actually my first relationship. I do love him, maybe i dnt know how to express it

Then its obvious u're afraid of taking risk. Perhaps risk of being hurt. When u're with him, just make a concious effort to let go of your emotions

At Op, I'm afraid you are not qualified to be in a relationship ( yeah I know you are a graduate). You see, I said this based what you wrote up there.. To me you sound like a teenager, that is youare just getting to know yourself well. Go know figure who you her, learn about your temperament and how to deal with it.. After that you are free to go into relationship

Funny how people stay this long in a relationship.

crazygod:


Then its obvious u're afraid of taking risk. Perhaps risk of being hurt. When u're with him, just make a concious effort to let go of your emotions

Yes. I sometimes think he might end up not marrying me, so at that point i just loose everything

Marriage is not by force neither does it gurantee success

If no one cares bou ow u feel emotional u berra leave nd find happiness lest u die of stup*dity

Most people tink emotional problems are a joke and done on purpose just find happiness nd leave all to God

Happiness is d key to a good life not marriage

Hmmm
please read
http://seyiadesina.com/word/brothers-shine-your-eyes-it-could-be-makeup

rockstarB:

Yes. I sometimes think he might end up not marrying me, so at that point i just loose everything

Sorry to break your bubble but most 1st relationships don't always end in marriage. The only thing you can take from it is experience. Once you accept this truth, you're good to go

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

i myself am a melancholy so i understand your plight.
Have you had a relationship with yourself?
Before having a relationship with someone,have with yourself. You ought to appreciate yourself.
Take a brk frm yur relationshp to reflect on yourself. When u finally appreciate yurself with flaws, then your partner would accept you. Love yurself.

The truth is that you know and can identify your problems so just change, no amount of advice here can change you, its a decision you have to take and must make. Cheers!

if you don't change, he will. so Man up.

messed up head?...all u need is a snuff...it clears anythinq!

Does nairaland look like a spiritual forum? We solve actual emotional problem not spiritual type of sh*t.

That I how you wee do and he will leave you.

Quite sad

Just lite a blunt nd watch ur whole emotion fall in place.

No be ordinary eyes..... Ur village people no wan mak u get husband ni.... u better go baff for river to cleanse all those behaviour..... buh d guyman cool oo, if na people like us, we for don change u sinx

valdes00:
No be ordinary eyes..... Ur village people no wan mak u get husband ni.... u better go baff for river to cleanse all those behaviour..... buh d guyman cool oo, if na people like us, we for don change u sinx

Smh wen guys b tinkin dey are one minigod

I blame mysef nd oda girla like me out there makin dem feel way too important iresspective of their level of achivement girls needs to dump some certain guys before u get dumped nd get hurt most of dem gat no heart even for a sec

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

rockstarB:
I don't even know where to start. Anyway i have been dating my man for close to 4years now and we are both cool together and we planning to get married after am done with my youth service. The number one factor why i decided to have like a distance relationship with him was the fact that i didnt see myself dating a guy from my school, so i choose him, tho he lives in same town with me we do not see that often cos of school and other stuffs.
I am introvert and i deal with mood swing and emotional problem even when my guy is around i sometimes feel like not going to see him because i feel like am not in the mood to see him, i say something like "you saw me last week/2weeks ago why do u wanna see me again?" I love him so much and i dnt even have what it takes to cheat so i have not for once in our 4yr course cheated on him. My attitude almost broke us up last year cos he felt like he was not loved the way he ought to be loved.
I also have problem with sex, he is the first and only guy since we first had it together but i always feel like he is dating me for sex even tho its so glaring that he is not. We dont usually have sex cos we dont see often. Lets just say at most two times in a month which is rare or lemme say three times in two months which is also rare, but going by this i still think he loves sex so much. My emotion always come first before or during sex, little thing easily piss me off, i remember a night we were about having sex but i stopped him simply because my system spoilt a day earlier and i felt like sex is the last thing on my mind, sex is always the last thing on my mind I may even start crying after sex if my guy doesnt stay in bed to cuddle me, he is a faithful guy and i dont want to lose him to my emotions.
I dont see myself going through all these after marriage, is this how i will be depriving my husband of sex just because of some petty stuff that should not count in the first place? My baby is coming home after over two months now and i already feel like am not in the mood to have sex or anything. Is anybody going through this? Please i need help bfr its too late.

...bro..you cry after sexxx for 4 year coz your boyfriend dinn't hug you?.....boyfriend? ?....WE OUTTER THIS THREAD..LATERS!!

Your agwu is at work - Kelechi Amadi (the concubine)

Mod what is wrong, I wrote e.lechi and you change it to Kelechi

Kpele

obiorathesubtle:
eeyah.. Sorry.. I know how you feel..


Btw.. Abeg, summarise, didn't read your textbook.

Wickedness of the highest order!

Op you need to reach out to people and socialise it would help you do away with a lot being an introvert (yours is extreme) is not easy... criticise yourself less too it would do you good

sickstars:



Smh wen guys b tinkin dey are one minigod

I blame mysef nd oda girla like me out there makin dem feel way too important iresspective of their level of achivement girls needs to dump some certain guys before u get dumped nd get hurt most of dem gat no heart even for a sec

see who is talking abt guys tinking dey r minigod..... wot did d OP turn herself into, mini devil abi.... if not, y can't she change n mak dem both enjoy d relationship... or u tink all guys will b like her bf n continue wif her like dis

sickstars:



Smh wen guys b tinkin dey are one minigod

I blame mysef nd oda girla like me out there makin dem feel way too important iresspective of their level of achivement girls needs to dump some certain guys before u get dumped nd get hurt most of dem gat no heart even for a sec

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you're trying so hard to play the feminist, think again , you can't handle feminism.