UR KIDS ARE SEXY
As I waited in the departure lounge of a local
airport, I noticed there were many children about
but it was understandable since it was summer
holiday. One other thing I noticed was the way
most of the children were dressed. Most of them,
especially the girls, were dressed in bum shorts,
halter necks, cut off jeans, etc. The clothes in
themselves weren't the issue per se; it was the
overall look of the children that had me bothered.
That was definitely not the first time I noticed it.
A few months before, I had taken my kids to a
birthday party and found myself in what could
easily have been a night club for kids. Scanty
clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum
shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dress
code. I noticed my daughter glancing around her,
probably wondering, "What in God's world are
these other children wearing?" Or something like
that. Not long after, the kids were called out to
dance to the hit songs of the season - these
songs in my opinion should be rated PG 13. 4-6
year olds trooped to the dance floor, miming the
sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies
in the most sensual manner. They could have
given Beyonce a run for her money. They ran their
hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard
while their parents cheered them on. The boys
had their upper shirts unbuttoned and rapped
along perfectly to gangsta raps while doing
flawless break dance. Those who danced like
actual children where shooed off the dance floor
while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I
watched, my child stared out of this circle looking
longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was
time to leave. As we left, we went to a eatery
where I bought them ice cream and gently
explained to them the concept of decency and
dancing with decorum.
Another time, at a game arcade for kids, I ran
into a lady who had made-up her kids' faces like
they were mannequins for Tara or Mac beauty
products. Their skirts were so tight, that running
up and down the slide was uncomfortable for
them.
So the question is, why are we sexualizing our
kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have
to look like a chick? Why does she have to be hot
or sexy? Should your 8 year old son go around
with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged
almost to his ankles? If your child wears bum
shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she
be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she
wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won't
she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her
bellybutton at 19? Why won't your son pierce his
own ear at 15? Are you setting your children up
to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you
starting them on? That all these are fashionable
or trendy doesn't mean it's ok. Some parents
even dress their children like this to church.
Church! What are you teaching the child? What
happened to children wearing dresses to church?
Children can look very nice and decent, they can
be well covered and still look good. In this age,
when children are being abused, is it wise to
make your child an object of anyone's sexual
attention?
When I hear some children belt out sexually
explicit lyrics, I ask myself how they became
exposed to this songs! As a parent, you can't
play the CD of such songs and not expect your
children to pick them up; the same goes for
watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your
children.
Studies have shown that children exposed to a
high level of sexually explicit information tend to
become sexually active early. Is that your goal as
a parent? Being a Parent involves sacrifice. You
will need to avoid listening to such music where
your children are. Most of those lyrics demean
women and teach your daughter that she's just a
intimacy gadget and her body is for squeezing. It teaches
the boys that money is everything and women are
things to be used to satisfy their primal urges.
These music introduces them to a degrading pop
culture.
Our children have their lives ahead of them, let's
set them on the right path by teaching them to
dress decently and sing nice or age-appropriate
songs. Let your children be children. Train up a
child in the way that s/he should go and when s/
he is old, s/he would not depart from it.
Do you agree that children are unnecessarily
exposed to sexually explicit elements? Is it
possible that some parents are victims
themselves or is it that they don't know any
better?
Written by Oluseye Igbafe

No parent should complain when these kids grow to exhibit what has been taught to him/her

Thank you so much @op.

God bless you.

God2man

Well we call it uwa nmebi.

We are imitating America. I wonder when they became standards for dressing.

Anyway, neither my wife nor my 8 year-old daughter wear trouser, short or even short skirt.

My only daughter wore trouser last when she was less than one year old.

If you like call me old school, I care less about that afterall I like the old school.

decency is the key word.
train up your child in the way he should go, so that when he is old, he will not depart from it.
prov 22:6

This is what happens when parents lack maturity and the knowledge of parenting. Why won't all this happen....when we are in the age of babies having babies,baby mamas, prostitution as a norm of being a big girl,guys seeing money as everything to get anything;even women, the age of bachelors/spinsters having as many sexual partners as possible and cheating is allowed so far you are not married and this habit follows through into marriage....now tell me how the product of this relationships (the kids) can evet get it right! Again babies having babies!!!