New poster here. A bit disappointed that it is coming in the romance section but hey, ‘you gotta start from somewhere eh?’

Bit of background:

We’ve been together for over a year now, a long distance relationship (I really do hate those). She’s in her second year in school and I am working. We do get to meet some 3 to 4 times a year. Chat, voice calls, video calls remains the order of the day.

On one of those such long calls, I asked she tells something about herself that I don’t know (or she thinks I don’t know) to which she responded that I know everything about her and she turned the question back at me. Feeling ‘free’ and unhinged, I told her among other kinda embarrassing stuff that, and I quote, “I actually find your friend #name attractive”

Que awkward silence…

Our relationship hasn’t known peace ever since.
Her point of view: “What you said is irritating! How can you claim to love someone and yet you find some else attractive?”
My point of view: “Hey, for Christ’s sake, I am not comparing you two. It’s just like we sitting together watching a beauty pageant and judging who is good looking and who isn’t”

I initially didn’t apologize cause I had the belief that you shouldn’t apologize if you are not truly sorry, which I wasn’t, after all I was being honest. I eventually did apologize, but she still gets upset and very uncomfortable whenever she sees the friend I question which is, on the average, everyday!

Point of this thread? I would like to hear your views, comments, opinions and/or bashings as I intend to share this with her sometime later hoping it helps us move on.

PS: something tells me I ain’t gon receive much support from nl ladies but abeg, guys, no fall my hand.

No its not wrong

Ur happiness matters

Its good to b self centered the lesson i learnt from guys

Care bou u ursef nd u f*ck ur partner nd his or her feelings

Is the issue of terminology

Who is that one up there saying your happiness matters... how does what he said related to the crap you wrote



Errm, Guy Efx ,nothing is wrong #myopinion, it's better as you air it compare to nursing the opinion in you, and having thoughts of banging her

You know Chiqs na, they have issues a lot, just keep letting her know her friend is nothing compared to her, she's awesome and all..

that yarn you talk dey like threat to her..

efx91:
New poster here. A bit disappointed that it is coming in the romance section but hey, ‘you gotta start from somewhere eh?’

Bit of background:

We’ve been together for over a year now, a long distance relationship (I really do hate those). She’s in her second year in school and I am working. We do get to meet some 3 to 4 times a year. Chat, voice calls, video calls remains the order of the day.

On one of those such long calls, I asked she tells something about herself that I don’t know (or she thinks I don’t know) to which she responded that I know everything about her and she turned the question back at me. Feeling ‘free’ and unhinged, I told her among other kinda embarrassing stuff that, and I quote, “I actually find your friend #name attractive”

Que awkward silence…

Our relationship hasn’t known peace ever since.
Her point of view: “What you said is irritating! How can you claim to love someone and yet you find some else attractive?”
My point of view: “Hey, for Christ’s sake, I am not comparing you two. It’s just like we sitting together watching a beauty pageant and judging who is good looking and who isn’t”

I initially didn’t apologize cause I had the belief that you shouldn’t apologize if you are not truly sorry, which I wasn’t, after all I was being honest. I eventually did apologize, but she still gets upset and very uncomfortable whenever she sees the friend I question which is, on the average, everyday!

Point of this thread? I would like to hear your views, comments, opinions and/or bashings as I intend to share this with her sometime later hoping it helps us move on.

PS: something tells me I ain’t gon receive much support from nl ladies but abeg, guys, no fall my hand.

bro how will u feel if she told u she finds ur bestfrnd attractive?

bros that's lookery you are committing, and girls hate it you can talk the gist with your fellow guy not with her, you can put it this way baby this your friend is hot but you're hotter than her at that moment, but don't look her friend in her present any how not to talk of telling her your friend is hot she will be looking at you as cheater that you can go out with her friend. you're wrong bros

Is it wrong to Breathe while in a relationship

sickstars:
No its not wrong

Ur happiness matters

Its good to b self centered the lesson i learnt from guys

Care bou u ursef nd u f*ck ur partner nd his or her feelings

Errm, are you trying to be sarcastic? Cause what you saying don't make no sense, seriously!

Oma307:
Is the issue of terminology

My thoughts too. One physical, the other sexual

The mistake you made was spitting out that raw fire in you... Such things you only debate with ya self.. Ladies hate that even if u didn't mean it!!