If you are engaged and thinking of getting married then it’s time to grab a seat as we put you through some of the things you need to talk about before finally settling down. Planning a wedding means you and your partner probably already have a lot of things in common: friends, similar backgrounds, hobbies, interests, experiences, or values. You need to carefully think it through and consider these important conversations to create a solid foundation with your significant other.


1. FINANCES:
This is probably one of or the most important thing to talk about before getting married. Many intending couples find it difficult to discuss finances but it is totally important because they influence marriage on a daily basis, as well as in more long-term ways.
You need to sort out who pays what bills, budget, how much should be saved, joint or divided accounts, what excessive spending means and who earns more. Many couples gloss over this important topic and then regret it later.


2. CHILDREN:
This can be exciting to talk about but at the same time it can cause a lot of issues if ignored. You need to ask if the other party wants kids at some point, baby names, what kind of lifestyle you want for the kids, how you both will maintain a connection after the kids. Kids are a big blessing but they can also cause a relationship to drift apart if not handled properly.


3. SEX:
This needs to be carefully discussed especially if you haven’t been having sex before now. For some people, it’s easier to talk about sex with friends than with their salaries partners but as weird as it may seem, you just have to talk about what your sex life
would be like eventually. You also need to ensure your sexual needs are compatible, if your partner is affectionate enough and the level of affection you both can display in public.


4. DREAM HOME:
Getting married means moving in together hence there is no better topic to adress than the home you both will be living together as a couple. You may not start up in your dream home eventually but you need to sort out where you would live, if it’s convenient for the both of you, if the environment is
conducive enough to raise kids and all.


5. HEALTH ISSUES:
This is an equally important topic to discuss. Blood group, drug/alcohol abuse, mental health issues, medical background are some questions to consider asking before getting married .

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In as much as we try to find a perfect way/formula for a working marriage, the issue of tolerance can not be divorced from the aforementioned points neither can sacrifice be over-emphasised.

Marriage is indeed dynamic & I maintain a belief that marriage is not meant for all ! Did I just type that , oh yes, I did. Marriage is a beautiful thing but it is hard work so let no one rest on the laurels of the wedding day. It is indeed work in progress & if any of the couple dare slack in their duties, it will definitely impart on the whole package.

Marriage is an institution where you get your certificate even b4 you start the study...isn't that interesting. We must learn to be tolerant, caring & take a day at a time.

What more can I say.

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True but things never work out that way ..

6.about each others past! I think this should also be a priority matter of discuss,because when they both party fails to do so and get married It can come back to hunt them and may cause a divorce if care is not taken e.g if the man has a baby outside or the lady gave birth out of wedlock instead of hidding it,it should be brought up to the other party's knowledge then if he/she still wants to continue with marriage then they are marrying because of unconditional love and knowledge about there past which can't pose a threat to there marriage....because nothing is hidden under the sun!