iAmCharis:
Otiemhen, onegbe?

o

obhiomen! odianose. akuemosenobula
we ki bho? bodi ayie?

iAmCharis:
Otiemhen, onegbe?

Obhiaba. Khara owaen.

demsid:
u Don fck up with this statement of urs, I've liked u since that ur ed Sheeran A Team cover, nd ve been waiting for a day I wd find u again on a thread, but today wc it is u've disappointed me, too bad. So you sef follow for this stvpid hard to get team. MissGdope hai too bad mehn

dude it was a joke. calm down

i'm not here to impress anyone anyway.

Oliviaarims:


...I've missed u..

how sweet!!

wow, she just wrote everything about me. thumbs up dear!

you're are on point man. I hate that thing she loves you but would be forming hard to get or I want to see if he truly love me or I don't want to seem cheap. that's nonsense. I don't follow girl up more than one week and if you don't accept I'll give up.

Personally, I feel the hard to get thing doesn't make sense. If you play hard to get it generally means you don't like me like that, so why should i make you like me by force? It doesn't make sense.

MissGdope:


dude it was a joke. calm down

i'm not here to impress anyone anyway.

better o. It better be, cos u don't know d height I placed u even before knowing u, I listen to that ur A Team freestyle every night. I wish we cud share voice notes. Add me up on bbm 58C5ECE8. Nairaland pm is a Lotta stress.

MissGdope:
all these yeye guys sef. A girl will be sincerely rejecting your advances but you won't hear. you will say she is playing hard-to-get. so when she decides to use you as atm and dump you after use, you will come and be ranting on NL
Continue....
make una no geh sense

if i catch you ehn, na me go use ur atm,use ur papa own join sef... shior

esosa993:
what is kinda funny is that most guys don't really know the difference between hard to get and when she doesn't like u, some will ask u out and u will say a big NO but they won't back down and continue till they loose the little respect the gal has




pls guys u need to know the difference BTW not digging u and hard to get.... not everygal is doing yanga for u

How many ladies have the guts to say NO to a guy? Just a handful.
What I have noticed is that normally she would say OK but will not commit herself to the relationship. At this point, the guy has gone home rejoicing that he's got a partner, but months down the line, the lady is still not showing any signs of being in a relationship with him.
That's playing hard to get.

Another common scenario is that she would demand to "think about it". Months upon months and she's still "thinking about it".

I would be very happy if a lady could outright tell me NO I'm not interested. But the typical Naija lady won't do it. She will keep on giving you false hope and wasting your time.
Another guy comes and woos her and she still put that one on the same queue.

Don't forget that all these while, the guy might be spending on her, treating her well with the hope that she will soon accept him.

And the stupid girl will never reject these spendings, she will accept and be playing along.

Tell me what do you call that?

Blyzz:
wow, she just wrote everything about me. thumbs up dear!

Shuo! When did I become a woman?

Op should have just summarized and said "don't play hard to get with Jeffrey Jamez"

vicraven:
if i catch you ehn, na me go use ur atm,use ur papa own join sef... shior

you can't catch me joor

vicraven:
how sweet!!

. Lol..

MissGdope:
you can't catch me joor

oya set your money

Rapmoney:
Shuo! When did I become a woman?

Not actually a typographical error, you're a girl by nature

niggi4life:
the truth is, guys aren't that complicated to understand.... You can actually know a guy fully in just one date. I usually tell girls that sleeping with a guy on d first night or later about one year doesn't change anything... If he will leave u after a one night stand, that doesn't mean he won't leave u after a year....its just all about what you want in the relationship and what he wants too, which u can easily see/notice from the first date

I very much agree with you that guys aren't difficult to understand. But I don't agree that u could get to know all about a person in just one date... Sometimes, a lil more time is needed to understand the personality too and to clear whatever doubts one may have.

It's just the simple truth.

demsid:
why would you just say no just like that, in just few days that we been relating, some girls just feel d queue is long, I'm pretty, they lose insight, and start garnering dusts. Wen the so called men of substance approach, maybe cos he's an introvert, or he gat no polished toasting skills or smtin, or he doesn't look flashy, they just form unnecessarily. So many baseless No in town. There is a way u apply wisdom in it even if u ve taken ur time to assess d guy. Hard to get is not hard to detect, u girls know it when u start it. It's better u change. Cos I know u very well, u stubborn

it won't stop me from preaching the truth when a gal says no let her go u can't force someone to like u, its not just possible....... if she tell u no then let her be for crying out loud if she becomes available to every guy that comes her way is that not being a slut


I think the stubborn one here is a guy who can't decipher things easily

LaurelP:



How many ladies have the guts to say NO to a guy? Just a handful.
What I have noticed is that normally she would say OK but will not commit herself to the relationship. At this point, the guy has gone home rejoicing that he's got a partner, but months down the line, the lady is still not showing any signs of being in a relationship with him.
That's playing hard to get.

Another common scenario is that she would demand to "think about it". Months upon months and she's still "thinking about it".

I would be very happy if a lady could outright tell me NO I'm not interested. But the typical Naija lady won't do it. She will keep on giving you false hope and wasting your time.
Another guy comes and woos her and she still put that one on the same queue.

Don't forget that all these while, the guy might be spending on her, treating her well with the hope that she will soon accept him.

And the stupid girl will never reject these spendings, she will accept and be playing along.

Tell me what do you call that?

probably the ones u relating to has the problem, for I have two examples but I will state one



there's this guy disturbing me a banker, he took my number on my bvn form and never stopped disturbing me, he told me his intentions I outrightly said no, I don't have time for crap if I don't like u then I'll say no because no guy can force me to date him not just possible, till date the still disturbs me even after saying no



now is that not madness

ronald4lif:


This is a better persuasive basis for procrastinating a relationship. Sure there's a need to gauge a guy's feeling to be sure it's sincere and not just a temporal feeling of lust. But I don't think that's what constitutes playing hard to get.

I think playing hard to get borders around unnecessarily leading a guy on even when the lady is certain he ticks all her desideratum and requisites. That's where the problem is.

Yea, of course. But some peeps on the thread were making it seem as though a girl shouldn't take her time at all... That as long as she's not granting them dating permission immediately, then she's playing hard to get...

esosa993:



it won't stop me from preaching the truth when a gal says no let her go u can't force someone to like u, its not just possible....... if she tell u no then let her be for crying out loud if she becomes available to every guy that comes her way is that not being a slut


I think the stubborn one here is a guy who can't decipher things easily

okay, I now get ur No, the ardent NO but try n b considerate about d other guys feelings o b4 u say No, If u fit give am chance just give am. U sef get brothers o, life no hard Abeg but as for me I can never force u or any girl to like me cos it reduces me myself.

AyamConfidence:
Caro time is going...some girls be playing hard to get and still be single till 35 while the so called "flirts" are getting married every weekend...life is too short to play hard to get...na because i like you o

hehe.was playing tho

wristbangle:


Excellent research doctor ronald4lif.

This hard to get mechanism is what some ladies actually use to beef their deflated esteem, feeling as if their market value is 2nd to none. There is no point proving this attitude when she knows the guy possess what she is looking for.

Most time ladies always say "ooo if I don't do it, he will consider me as their cheap hoe". Like I told a female friend of mine today, a guy will not respect u becos of your proving to hard attitude.

Honestly this attitude is becoming stale and blatantly silly. The sharp ladies nutmeg husband material dudes but the shakara ones end up as side chic to a player



@ oliviaarims, nice comment from you.

Thanks..

RexKex:
. Caro!

yes?

tosyne2much:
I have been searching for you everywhere but u seem not to have noticed

Lol.. And just how could I have noticed?

How do you do?

Cutehector:
women!

Lol... Ogini? Don't say "women" like that again o.. As if we're some confused creatures.. We aren't..

CaroLyner:
what are you telling me.even intelligent guys chase girls.
teamhardtoget#

Everything the op says are right .got a friend who has these xteristics. He's more focus on success than chasing women and he has really achieved a lot .but now it's funny women. Are chasing him and he doesn't even know which to choose
.my advice to guys .if you are not even ready to settle down yet I will keep saying this.you have no business or whatever going into any relationship or even chasing women.its setback.you won't believe this now.but you will remember this later. Stay focus.

esosa993:



probably the ones u relating to has the problem, for I have two examples but I will state one



there's this guy disturbing me a banker, he took my number on my bvn form and never stopped disturbing me, he told me his intentions I outrightly said no, I don't have time for crap if I don't like u then I'll say no because no guy can force me to date him not just possible, till date the still disturbs me even after saying no



now is that not madness

Well you probably are different. Like I said, a good number of ladies will just play along with you.
Probably they feel that it gives them more choices or it just makes them feel good about themselves.
The bad news though is that it backfires most times. The lady becomes confused and is distracted by these many guys

Oliviaarims:


Lol... Ogini? Don't say "women" like that again o.. As if we're some confused creatures.. We aren't..

No Offence,Women Are Confused Creatures!

this write ups describes me perfectly... I dislike ladies who for ever to say yes... c'mon u think I've time to chase all around like u where d only girl in town? abeg pack better things to come. the annoying thing is, those girls who seems to play hide n seek r d most corrupted self...d supposed cheap once tends to have a lasting n enjoying relationship.

They'll neva agree wt u...they'll tel u an outright 'NO' is different from 'hard to get'...howeva, age teaches them to be indifferent...THATS Y I ROCK THE 27+....

Tis only d 25 n below who think they are some princesses...

[quote author=Rapmoney post=42231025]

Playing hard-to-get is part of the game.
Women like the attention they are getting and they don't want to be conquered easily.

It is only the guy who understands the psychology of women that persists.
It's like women go through the process Initial indifference... Confusion...Consideration... Acceptance.
If a guy gives up too soon, he loses.