TheCongo2:

So, you don't trust me?

DD, I trust you

Kids advising kids !!! You do not drain a river to catch 1 fish. It is not everything the eyes see or ears hear that the mouth must talk about, thats what distinguish a man from a boy ! If you use your hand scatter your home, walahi you will live with that regret for the rest of your life!

I pity women at times, most married men have side chicks, some go ahead to secretly marry them and have kids with them. If you tell your mom you may end up destroying their marriage. Guy, I have experienced something similar, I didn't tell my mum.

peacengine:
I pity women at times, most married men have side chicks, some go ahead to secretly marry them and have kids with them. If you tell your mom you may end up destroying their marriage. Guy, I have experienced something similar, I didn't tell my mum.

Don't you think the husband has destroyed the marriage already. Poster will just be a messanger in trying to protect his mother from the worst.

What marriage? Your father is setting your mum up for pain and heart break after how much she has suffered with him. Tell her so she can prepare herself, stop being a sacrificial lamb and start planning for herself and her kids. Because believe you me, if your father dies his family will use the outside family to cause chaos and try to reap where they did not sow. It's also good to know you have brothers and sisters somewhere to prevent incest. However tell your mum and siblings and you all should keep it quiet first.
Make sure your mother recovers all her sweat and property before leaving the play boy with empty pockets. In all she needs to know and look out for herself and kids for once in her life. He is your father, but he is not a man at all. Ungrateful and very evil. I will even be afraid to live under the same roof with someone that can do such. Speaks of mental instability.
Trust me, you and your mother and siblings do not want to be caught unawares. The woman outside is far more prepared than you are right now. So you need to give your mum the opportunity to act fast and wisely.

Awww, I really feel your pain op,please be calm and carefu at the same time,do your findings and ensure you're not chasing the wind,may not be totally true,how come your friend knows and your mum doesn't? If you eventually find out it is true,do tell your mum about it,it won't ruin the home i assure you,it will only make everyone know their place and prepare for the worst,she's a mature woman, I'm certain she will know how to deal with the news. Good luck