HARDDON:
mlkraj?

please is it advisable to ask a girl out in college? I like her. from what I have learnt,she likes me too and is feeling frustrated that I haven't aked her out yet, tho we greet. The problem is that I am not financially capable enough to try it. Since most girls are all about what they can get from you.

She had asked me for money last week, for something she needed urgently, I told her I don't have. Later that day, when she saw me in my faculty as usual,smiled and greeted me as usual. Where do I go from here? how do I clear my face now. she is 19, I am 20..

please ask me questions, if you need more details.

JESUSBOIY:
please is it advisable to ask a girl out in college? I like her. from what I have learnt,she likes me too and is feeling frustrated that I haven't aked her out yet, tho we greet. The problem is that I am not financially capable enough to try it. Since most girls are all about what they can get from you.

She had asked me for money last week, for something she needed urgently, I told her I don't have. Later that day, when she saw me in my faculty as usual,smiled and greeted me as usual. Where do I go from here? how do I clear my face now. she is 19, I am 20..

please ask me questions, if you need more details.

Leave girls alone, face ur studies...

A lot of people obsess about girls, this is why they'll continue to play with you and milk you dry while channeling their love to the men they really care about. From my experience with girls, you don't need to struggle so much to get any girl's attention if you have attended first to the basic things. As it is said, first things first. This has been my message about dating and will continue to be, because it works. I don't know why guys like to take the hard route thereby jeopardizing their emotions.
If you want a girl to be all over you in reality, these are the basic things you should pursue, anyone telling you something else is not being realistic. You may succeed in getting a girl but you may not be able to keep her attracted to you for so long. In order not to be a victim of heartbreaks, follow these rules:

. Be independent and Successful : little wonder why many girls have abandoned their college lover for other men (real men). This should not come as a surprise. Success is attractive. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful and independent man. It is for this reason that most girls fall for doctors, lawyers, business men, etc. If you're still in school, face your studies, graduate, get a job.. Then you'll really begin to stress less about getting a girl. How do I know? Speaking from experience. This is the most important aspect of getting any girl. Every other rule is secondary.

. Be cute and presentable: Do not wear oversized clothes. Be moderately fashionable. Be clean and cute, with nice haircut. Wear a good cologne and footwear. First impression matters a lot, and looking good is good business.

. Have a good command of English language. It can be a turn off when one can't speak well enough. You don't have to speak big grammar. Simple words spoken well is enough. If you weren't opportune to go to school, it shouldn't stop you from learning. Learning is a lifetime process.

. Be romantic and have a good sense of humor: A good sense of humor has a way of turning on the emotional tap of every woman. You don't have to be a clown. Just know the right things to say at any point in time without appearing too serious. Crack jokes from time to time.

. Don't appear desperate : This is where a lot of guys screw things up. By desperately pursuing a girl. It can be a total turn off. It is said that scarcity creates value. Be caring without appearing desperate and boggy. It will give her enough room to think about you and miss you.

. Do not compliment her too soon or ask her out: The idea is not trying to do the conventional things others do. This is the exact reason most girls go after guys who don't seem to be giving them any attention. This gets them confused and at the same time stupefied. They unconsciously start longing for your compliment and attention.

. Tell her about your other female friends (even if you have none). This will make her believe you have other options aside her. It will increase the value she has for you. By so doing, you're turning around the table, she'll be the one doing the chasing (unless she's so good at pretending not to care).

At this time, you must have succeeded in getting her attracted to you without appearing desperate. Asking her out would only be a formality. An opportunity she would be so happy to grab.

Don't go about pursuing girls without first finding a purpose for your life. It will give you more confidence and pave the way for you. Seek to make girls attracted to you and coming for you instead of the other way.

Mikolion87:
A lot of people obsess about girls, this is why they'll continue to play with you and milk you dry while channeling their love to the men they really care about. From my experience with girls, you don't need to struggle so much to get any girl's attention if you have attended first to the basic things. As it is said, first things first. This has been my message about dating and will continue to be, because it works. I don't know why guys like to take the hard route thereby jeopardizing their emotions.
If you want a girl to be all over you in reality, these are the basic things you should pursue, anyone telling you something else is not being realistic. You may succeed in getting a girl but you may not be able to keep her attracted to you for so long. In order not to be a victim of heartbreaks, follow these rules:

. Be independent and Successful : little wonder why many girls have abandoned their college lover for other men (real men). This should not come as a surprise. Success is attractive. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful and independent man. It is for this reason that most girls fall for doctors, lawyers, business men, etc. If you're still in school, face your studies, graduate, get a job.. Then you'll really begin to stress less about getting a girl. How do I know? Speaking from experience. This is the most important aspect of getting any girl. Every other rule is secondary.

. Be cute and presentable: Do not wear oversized clothes. Be moderately fashionable. Be clean and cute, with nice haircut. Wear a good cologne and footwear. First impression matters a lot, and looking good is good business.

. Have a good command of English language. It can be a turn off when one can't speak well enough. You don't have to speak big grammar. Simple words spoken well is enough. If you weren't opportune to go to school, it shouldn't stop you from learning. Learning is a lifetime process.

. Be romantic and have a good sense of humor: A good sense of humor has a way of turning on the emotional tap of every woman. You don't have to be a clown. Just know the right things to say at any point in time without appearing too serious. Crack jokes from time to time.

. Don't appear desperate : This is where a lot of guys screw things up. By desperately pursuing a girl. It can be a total turn off. It is said that scarcity creates value. Be caring without appearing desperate and boggy. It will give her enough room to think about you and miss you.

. Do not compliment her too soon or ask her out: The idea is not trying to do the conventional things others do. This is the exact reason most girls go after guys who don't seem to be giving them any attention. This gets them confused and at the same time stupefied. They unconsciously start longing for your compliment and attention.

. Tell her about your other female friends (even if you have none). This will make her believe you have other options aside her. It will increase the value she has for you. By so doing, you're turning around the table, she'll be the one doing the chasing (unless she's so good at pretending not to care).

At this time, you must have succeeded in getting her attracted to you without appearing desperate. Asking her out would only be a formality. An opportunity she would be so happy to grab.

Don't go about pursuing girls without first finding a purpose for your life. It will give you more confidence and pave the way for you. Seek to make girls attracted to you and coming for you instead of the other way.

nice one. don't ever try to impress a girl she knew what she saw that made are attracted to you it might be ur looks, personality e.t.c. always remember that you are the man so don't let any girl control u around. don't be scared of letting a girl go. and always have the abundant mindset. in fact abundant mindset is what makes most girls easily dump guy's and feel nothing. because if u don't play to there rules they have many other guys that are chasing them everyday. so since u are not an alphamale they dump ur ass

I had this issue on Wednesday night, I was in a lady room I just met on that day afternoon, that night we were together and I was wearing only my boxers and she was merely wearing a mini shirt and a singlet but I was not able to touch her my mind was swinging between I touching her and not after some time in the room I just left her that night like that and I was completely angry with my self till now and I completely think something is wrong with me, by the way I need advise from everyone on deck.

What's happening here? I hope you guys are having fun! Anyway, you all should have a nice day and look for trouble, but make sure it's nonviolent. C'ya.

Victor8867:
I had this issue on Wednesday night, I was in a lady room I just met on that day afternoon, that night we were together and I was wearing only my boxers and she was merely wearing a mini shirt and a singlet but I was not able to touch her my mind was swinging between I touching her and not after some time in the room I just left her that night like that and I was completely angry with my self till now and I completely think something is wrong with me, by the way I need advise from everyone on deck.

The only advise you need is : face your books

HARDDON:



Whatever you do, never let a lady box you up again!

pls give me a call....I lost your comtact

MY babe just told me about a guy at the cybercafe that she normally goes to....d guy actually allows her to use the internet and print for free..... he took her to eat 1s or so and he call her regularly and calls her diff sweet names ... shuld i tell her to stop cing d guy? cuz i dnt want to look jealous....

sweet7oyin:
MY babe just told me about a guy at the cybercafe that she normally goes to....d guy actually allows her to use the internet and print for free..... he took her to eat 1s or so and he call her regularly and calls her diff sweet names ... shuld i tell her to stop cing d guy? cuz i dnt want to look jealous....

u need to av ur own cybercafe gf o,if she's complains den u knw what to do

So this is where the real MVPs are. I'm learning

TonieLee:
So this is where the real MVPs are. I'm learning

hope u know say I dey follow u for yansh...

MrNipplesLover:


hope u know say I dey follow u for yansh...

No oooo. U know too much jhoor

TonieLee:

No oooo. U know too much jhoor

who tell u that one? I just dey on a neutral level ni ooh...

TonieLee:
So this is where the real MVPs are. I'm learning

Learning on this platform do not guarantee you escape from the effectiveness of the drills. Just pray guys no get your time.

nice one. I get to learn all the possible methods he can use then find counter measures.

Culin:
nice one. I get to learn all the possible methods he can use then find counter measures.

U will still fall for upcoming drills

Mikolion87:
A lot of people obsess about girls, this is why they'll continue to play with you and milk you dry while channeling their love to the men they really care about. From my experience with girls, you don't need to struggle so much to get any girl's attention if you have attended first to the basic things. As it is said, first things first. This has been my message about dating and will continue to be, because it works. I don't know why guys like to take the hard route thereby jeopardizing their emotions.
If you want a girl to be all over you in reality, these are the basic things you should pursue, anyone telling you something else is not being realistic. You may succeed in getting a girl but you may not be able to keep her attracted to you for so long. In order not to be a victim of heartbreaks, follow these rules:

. Be independent and Successful : little wonder why many girls have abandoned their college lover for other men (real men). This should not come as a surprise. Success is attractive. Who wouldn't want to be associated with a successful and independent man. It is for this reason that most girls fall for doctors, lawyers, business men, etc. If you're still in school, face your studies, graduate, get a job.. Then you'll really begin to stress less about getting a girl. How do I know? Speaking from experience. This is the most important aspect of getting any girl. Every other rule is secondary.

. Be cute and presentable: Do not wear oversized clothes. Be moderately fashionable. Be clean and cute, with nice haircut. Wear a good cologne and footwear. First impression matters a lot, and looking good is good business.

. Have a good command of English language. It can be a turn off when one can't speak well enough. You don't have to speak big grammar. Simple words spoken well is enough. If you weren't opportune to go to school, it shouldn't stop you from learning. Learning is a lifetime process.

. Be romantic and have a good sense of humor: A good sense of humor has a way of turning on the emotional tap of every woman. You don't have to be a clown. Just know the right things to say at any point in time without appearing too serious. Crack jokes from time to time.

. Don't appear desperate : This is where a lot of guys screw things up. By desperately pursuing a girl. It can be a total turn off. It is said that scarcity creates value. Be caring without appearing desperate and boggy. It will give her enough room to think about you and miss you.

. Do not compliment her too soon or ask her out: The idea is not trying to do the conventional things others do. This is the exact reason most girls go after guys who don't seem to be giving them any attention. This gets them confused and at the same time stupefied. They unconsciously start longing for your compliment and attention.

. Tell her about your other female friends (even if you have none). This will make her believe you have other options aside her. It will increase the value she has for you. By so doing, you're turning around the table, she'll be the one doing the chasing (unless she's so good at pretending not to care).

At this time, you must have succeeded in getting her attracted to you without appearing desperate. Asking her out would only be a formality. An opportunity she would be so happy to grab.

Don't go about pursuing girls without first finding a purpose for your life. It will give you more confidence and pave the way for you. Seek to make girls attracted to you and coming for you instead of the other way.

In summary, be bold, try as much girls as possible.
Fear means go, but stay within your limits.

Culin:
nice one. I get to learn all the possible methods he can use then find counter measures.

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Hi, Haddon! I appreciate the great work you are doing here in helping out jerks like me. Please I want to ask, there is this lady I got her number like a week ago and we've got talking though not intimately. My question is, is it too soon to ask her out on a date

Supremor:
Hi, Haddon! I appreciate the great work you are doing here in helping out jerks like me. Please I want to ask, there is this lady I got her number like a week ago and we've got talking though not intimately. My question is, is it too soon to ask her out on a date

nope bro

You can jokingly tell her
Say it funny/cocky way

When is she gonna be taking you out
That you wanna chop her money like nkwobi
That you are a Perfect Gentleman u wont finish her money ..you will take it slow on her

LieDetector:
you blew e'ry thing. Wen she replied "bestie". My reply if I were in ur shoe would be
"u can't be my best man on my wedding day. Choose anoda one jhor "

Trust me. The Chat would still flow with the cocky and funny elements. You blew it all up when you made it obvious you're crushing on her. Gather some balls bro.

@HARDDON, I salute u. I was among the first batch of graduants from this thread. I'm out in the field drafting some nest to lay my eggs. This thread has been helpful

boss thanks

I was chatting with this girl and she replied me with this below Me:it seems you took abk weed this afternoon mimi Her:Yea bt jst six wraps Me:jezzzz No wonder make sure you don't step out of your room..... I'm coming right now Her:Lol dnt worry my boo z here.. pls how I do I reply her last msg

Learning mood activated

I started to follow this thread last year november.
I read some the drills.
I was 25 then n i never had a girlfriend.

I summoned the courage to get one. I gót one and my first try was a hit a former classmate of mine in the university fortunately we were posted to the same state for NYSC.
I got her number during the rural rugged and began to communicate with her via whatsapp. We went to our convocation. I demanded we meet she refused.
After the convo we returned to our differaent local govt in the same state.
It dawned on me that i loved her. I then sent a love message to her on whatsapp. I asked if she feels the same way she said she doesnt know yet until she knows me better that we only know each as classmate. She called me n was asking all sort of questions like if i wanted her jst a gf or more i said more she asked for my extra hussle aside from nysc i told her she asked for my age i tld her and all other questions like that. I was already feeling on top of tha world.
A week later she called me and asked for an amount of money tha she needed it for her training i instantly sent it to her

I went to her place a day before christmas we discussed and i left. And i called her severally after tha day she didnt pickup her phone i sent whatsapp message to her on christmas she didnt reply i sent new year's message she didnt reply. I had given up on her until she called and said that she missed me. I was excited.
She started investing more in the relationship i informed her i was broke. She called me and we discussed for hours.
I went to her place again this time for the weekend she told we should visit one of her fathers we went there. It was like a mini introduction i was feeling excited.

on sunday she suddenly said i shoud leave i felt what is freaking happening. I left to a friend's house was just bored there. She then called back that i should return to her. At this point my mind became calm went back to her tha night was a sleepless night tho. She was pushing for sex(raw) i wasnt ready for that i told her i had a condom she refused she said she doesnt like it dat way. She then said if so i should lick her i almost but I withdrew i felt it was awkward.
On momday sha i left her house n i went back to my place.
I caled her she didnt pick again when she eventually pjcked she said i shouldnt called more than twice that she was busy(angrily) i promised i was gonna buy sth for her i forget i sent the money small amount tho to her.

She then found her voice again. We started contacting each other. I told her to come down to my place she did. I spoke to her mum. Her mum said we should come and visit her.
That night again was long she wanted it raw again i refused she asked y that am i scared. I didnt talk sje said i should lick her again i almost but i withdrew.
The day broke and friend visit who i am suggesting has a mental disorder. She knck i opened the door n saw she was the one i felt somehow. Then she started saying whos this i said shes my fiancee she said ooo you? Wey no dey allow female enter your room? Wey dey always do shy shy. She left sha . And she cameback she said she wanted to see her in camera i didnt was her to go but she went anyways. I asked her waht she said she replied nothing i kept troubling her she insisted nothing. She bursted out that i like panicking too much that she doesnt like it.

The week of my pop, i got a job test invite for a day after my pop. I was excited i called her n told her about it she started cryingshe the said theres no one to help her. Her dad just got a bad divorce her dad is a doctor in the USA.
I told her to touch down at my place before the pop she did. I asked her if she knew a former roomate of mine she said yes. She was somehow n then i asked wah is wrong she said she had an affair with him. He sexed her, he den left after. I was unhappy but waht can i say i jst said she shouldnt bother its no prob.
Inshort, i did the test i was successful i told her she calmed me thảt better opportunity awaits. But me i know say na suffer they wait. I was scared that i am about to lose her because she got a job unknown to her n i its gnld she rented an apartment(i was expecting tha after service she will go to her mother)
I applied for the gnld job too i never knew it was gnld tho until she told me we would have to pay 18k i was curious after i had paid 4k i researched d company here on nairalamd and i got to know its gnld. She had already paid all the sums she was lamenting. I became childish tho i was laughing and making jokes. Tho i was laughing at myself and waht thr mess i have gotten into in terms of work and finances. She became annoyed saying all sort that i am using her for experiment and she will just breakup with me if i am not careful that she cNt leave with someone with dat kinda attitude. I realised i sent a wrong impression i apologised to her. Because i loved her so much
I was triply scared by rhose statment. I left to lagos. I was so depressed (because of my family her going thru abject poverty, my mother was ill, my father was jobless, my sister needs to pay her school which i support, my bro needed to go to camp in the north iam jobless too) to the extent tha i said we should go on a break till i get a work amd get settled. She warned me tha break do lead to breakups i told her it all depend on her. She then agreed.
2wks later i realised i made an error i called her she said she aint coming back I asked her why she said she has been in relationships b4 tho i am GOOD person oo tha we hv different ideas cannot be together we can be friends tho. I was mad already i told my mother, my father my brother to talk to her. She alluded that i am always laughing when she not happy, and that i am always panicking. Rhat she cant live with me.

I called her mum her mum told me she will talk to her tha she already new it smal thing tha will cause or sepation.

I begged her, she blocked me in whatspp, telegram n facebook i went to her place she insisted.

I kept texting her until it dawned on my after 3 months she never comeback. I jst had to move on.

I made mistakes tho. I have always known my first trial to love will be a hard on. Because of the kinda relation i have with girls.

I sure didnt use the drills here because i was complacent and in love.

Some of my mistakes
Sending whatsapp love message

She kept me to feel a gap in her heart, she wasnt fully in love with me but i tht all her axns were love

She controlled me like a puppet

I was scared of losing her

I was insensitive

I showed childish attitude
I talked too much
I showed lack of confidence etc

I wrote this for future reference and to ensure some dont fall in same pit

Hardon thanks for this great thread. I am currently reading this thread from page zero

Supremor:
Hi, Haddon! I appreciate the great work you are doing here in helping out jerks like me. Please I want to ask, there is this lady I got her number like a week ago and we've got talking though not intimately. My question is, is it too soon to ask her out on a date

Only average guys ask gurls out on a date!

If you didn't realise, asking a gurl on a date falls into same lame shade as asking a gurl out. DONT DO IT!


A Real guy would rather invite her to share his space and sprite!; As I've subtly outlined in the pages of this life transforming, light inducing and mind enriching thread.

Hopefully, you get the jeck.

AbleChuks1:
I was chatting with this girl and she replied me with this below
Me:it seems you took abk weed this afternoon mimi
Her:Yea bt jst six wraps
Me:jezzzz
No wonder
make sure you don't step out of your room..... I'm coming right now
Her:Lol dnt worry my boo z here..
pls how I do I reply her last msg

some of us arrived mother earth fitted with an abundant dose of the gift of the gab , others have to learn same, you inclusive.

Might I ask you a question? What was your aim with that lame joke? And your follow up line? Arrrh! Dude!

SingleLady01:
Learning mood activated

The ways of the Royal man is a mirage to the mind of a lost SingleLady no matter how hard she searches.

Read she may, however, I can attest, learn she wouldn't.

Wyrax:
Hardon thanks for this great thread. I am currently reading this thread from page zero

The only joy / gratitude you can give to me is being a better version of you after you done reading!

Btw, a Chick that would grow into a c0ck can be spotted the very day it was hatched. ( I don't suppose you'd fathom that)

A lil word of encouragement though, know why you started reading this thread and keep the hunger on....

HARDDON:


The only joy / gratitude you can give to me is being a better version of you after you done reading!

Btw, a Chick that would grow into a c0ck can be spotted the very day it was hatched. ( I don't suppose you'd fathom that)

A lil word of encouragement though, know why you started reading this thread and keep the hunger on....

What happend to the blog?