somto10:


HANDLING LOVE AND BALLS

SENSE PILL 148 :

Don't flirt with who you can't flaunt

Bro am in ds mess right nw
Hw do i get out? Plz

HARDDON:


After collecting and making her fall in lost, you clean mouth and discharge her with my help?

No bros, carry your Cross!

fucc12:
So I met this girl last week Sunday we vibed, but didn't exchange contacts cuz I chose not to, then we met again last Sunday, we talked about a few this that occurred during the week this normal stuff na, I asked her out that same day to the pool she agreed, then later that day she called asked about our plans I was busy then so I told her in the night, I think about 7pm she called said she was bored, and asked if were still going to hangout, I told it was late and I was occupied she said, she was kind if disappointed tho, so I told her we'll hang today she gets of work at 6 I picked a place, she would come meet me today..

Now my problem is she's fine she probably has a boyfriend which I strongly believe she does not, or many other guys chasing after her,

I really do like her, as a matter of fact looking forward to having something with her,
I dunno if I should tell her my plans and what I want with her all those stuffs now, so as not to waste eachothers time or I should I hold on a bit....
Because I no wan take chances, thirsty niggas full outside

DavidTheGeek:


Attracting girls through chat is very easy. Like, very very easy. But first you have to let go of two things:
1. The mindset that you suck at chatting.
2. Trying too hard to be interesting.

The reason why you run out of things to chat about is because you are too worried about what to say next instead of actually enjoying whatever topic is currently being discussed. (Yes enjoy the conversation!).

There is nothing wrong with running out of what to talk about. You're not a robot. In fact, if you chat with a girl, especially a girl you just met, to the point where you have nothing else to say, it means you have over stayed your welcome.

Guys like me suddenly bid a girl farewell half way through the chat, right when the chat is still very interesting and she's enjoying it and laughing her ass out. She'll beg us to stay, saying she'll be bored if we leave and guess what? We'll leave still and go watch a cartoon we don't even know the title on NTA.

Read in between those lines and go figure.

The way to attract a girl through chat is the same way to attract a girl offline - Sendless, be funny, flirt, take fun jabs, make her happy, sad, angry and jealous etc.

Have this at the back of your mind, not everyone flows well on chat. There are girls who are great in person but bad at chatting. In fact, lots of Nigerian girls suck at chatting. It's not your fault that a girl is boring. If you initiate a chat and it's not flowing well, end it immediately. Don't force it.

Also, there is no perfect "topic" to discuss. Talk about any and everything.

PenGriffey:
Let me be the first to say MERRY CHRISTMAS since no one did


Merry Christmas to you all.

Dont sell your blue ballls to no shawty all in the name of Christmas gift or shopping
Be smart. And turn the table around

fucc12:


Merry Christmas bro, you de this thread too

oderinde151:
Good morning to all the bosses in the building

Seriously, this is very bad when you have some bosses on Nairaland and still some girls still plays with your balls. I will summarize my problem now and please I need your help my people..

It all started in September , I have a female friend which I know personally uploaded some pictures of another girl celebrating her birthday, I fell in love with those pictures instantly .so I told my friend if she could give the girl's number but she refused, so I had to chat her myself to get her number..
Fast forward, we started chatting and all that and everything was going fine until I asked her out ( like a month after)..
I was the one that do the calls and the text messages and she doesn't call me nor next..
Later she gained admission into my school in November this year so I was thinking things would work out since she is within..
She can attest to the fact that I love her but I believe that she is using it to play me . Ive never seen this girl before guys but believe me I love her..
There was a time I called her and one of her friends answered the call at first I didn't know that she was not the one speakin later I realized the person said something that she herself don't say so I had to tell the person to give the phone to the owner, I was pissed off..
I told her sometimes when we were in school before this ASUU problem that I wanted to see her and Lo and behold this girl changed it for me to the extent she said that I am mad.
After that I left her for a week and later messaged me and apologize sa..
I asked her why she didn't want to date me and she said why I would I say I love her without seeing her..
And she said she doesn't want to date but her reasons are personal ..

Guys I need my balls back Abeg
What can I do cos I know say I don Bleep up big time

Perdon my grammar abeg

temi4fash:


Bros,

This girl is obviously playing you.

my advice free her and read your books

temi4fash:


Bros,

This girl is obviously playing you.

my advice free her and read your books

oderinde151:
Good morning to all the bosses in the building

Seriously, this is very bad when you have some bosses on Nairaland and still some girls still plays with your balls. I will summarize my problem now and please I need your help my people..

It all started in September , I have a female friend which I know personally uploaded some pictures of another girl celebrating her birthday, I fell in love with those pictures instantly .so I told my friend if she could give the girl's number but she refused, so I had to chat her myself to get her number..
Fast forward, we started chatting and all that and everything was going fine until I asked her out ( like a month after)..
I was the one that do the calls and the text messages and she doesn't call me nor next..
Later she gained admission into my school in November this year so I was thinking things would work out since she is within..
She can attest to the fact that I love her but I believe that she is using it to play me . Ive never seen this girl before guys but believe me I love her..
There was a time I called her and one of her friends answered the call at first I didn't know that she was not the one speakin later I realized the person said something that she herself don't say so I had to tell the person to give the phone to the owner, I was pissed off..
I told her sometimes when we were in school before this ASUU problem that I wanted to see her and Lo and behold this girl changed it for me to the extent she said that I am mad.
After that I left her for a week and later messaged me and apologize sa..
I asked her why she didn't want to date me and she said why I would I say I love her without seeing her..
And she said she doesn't want to date but her reasons are personal ..

Guys I need my balls back Abeg
What can I do cos I know say I don Bleep up big time

Perdon my grammar abeg

oderinde151:
Good morning to all the bosses in the building

Seriously, this is very bad when you have some bosses on Nairaland and still some girls still plays with your balls. I will summarize my problem now and please I need your help my people..

It all started in September , I have a female friend which I know personally uploaded some pictures of another girl celebrating her birthday, I fell in love with those pictures instantly .so I told my friend if she could give the girl's number but she refused, so I had to chat her myself to get her number..
Fast forward, we started chatting and all that and everything was going fine until I asked her out ( like a month after)..
I was the one that do the calls and the text messages and she doesn't call me nor next..
Later she gained admission into my school in November this year so I was thinking things would work out since she is within..
She can attest to the fact that I love her but I believe that she is using it to play me . Ive never seen this girl before guys but believe me I love her..
There was a time I called her and one of her friends answered the call at first I didn't know that she was not the one speakin later I realized the person said something that she herself don't say so I had to tell the person to give the phone to the owner, I was pissed off..
I told her sometimes when we were in school before this ASUU problem that I wanted to see her and Lo and behold this girl changed it for me to the extent she said that I am mad.
After that I left her for a week and later messaged me and apologize sa..
I asked her why she didn't want to date me and she said why I would I say I love her without seeing her..
And she said she doesn't want to date but her reasons are personal ..

Guys I need my balls back Abeg
What can I do cos I know say I don Bleep up big time

Perdon my grammar abeg

Nastydroid:
You were about to have your balls back here

oderinde151:
im not getting it bro

Nastydroid:
just forget about her and move on, go to where you will be celebrated

DaudaAbu:
Guy have you read this e-book


The game; penetrating the secret society of pick up artist by Neil Strauss

Thank me later......

Keep up the good job of de-hussing guys and giving them game

ugnoble:


Now, my question is:

1) when should I answer her(i just wanna punish her small make she for know say she done f for my side.)

2) if I'm to pick up her calls Now, how/what should be my response cause I know the questions will roll. She may ask what's wrong or what she did. I just want to try my best not to be so direct with my answer.

3) I need more tips or advice on how to go about this whole thing.

temi4fash:
Ugnoble

Harddon is not teaching everyone to always have your way with girls you meet.

My advise for you is don't push it, Forget the marriage plans and do other things in your life.

Dont go spilling seeds up and down, Just get in toouch with yourself and be in control.

That way the new babe would no chance you

Amaterasu:
It's like a guy that was crushing on my babe during their secondary school days is trying to rekindle their love though they never dated according to my gf. It started recently when my fiancee (I have told her she is the one I will marry, and she is fully aware of the reason
for the delay which has nothing to do with money ) went for their secondary school reunion party, she stays in another city from me, I discovered she called the guy late that day at about 8:00 pm and the guy also caller her at about 10:30pm in the night. The one that broke my heart was the next day call from the guy that lasted exactly 16mins (I looked through her call log) . Who listens to a guy she is not crushing on for 16mins on phone. I have not been picking her calls for 3days now. I didn't tell her what I saw, I have just been forming busy and pondering on it. Am I about to enter a dark pit if I eventually decide to marry her. House pls advise a brother

Amaterasu:
It's like a guy that was crushing on my babe during their secondary school days is trying to rekindle their love though they never dated according to my gf. It started recently when my fiancee (I have told her she is the one I will marry, and she is fully aware of the reason
for the delay which has nothing to do with money ) went for their secondary school reunion party, she stays in another city from me, I discovered she called the guy late that day at about 8:00 pm after they returned from the party and the guy also called her at about 10:30pm that same night. The one that broke my heart was the next day call from the guy that lasted exactly 16mins (I looked through her call log) . Who listens to a guy she is not crushing on for 16mins on phone. I have not been picking her calls for 3days now. I didn't tell her what I saw, I have just been forming busy and pondering on it. Am I about to enter a dark pit if I eventually decide to marry her. House pls advise a brother.



And secondly, does it even make sense to talk about it with her again? I had a big quarrel with her about a year ago because of this same guy when she was on call with the guy and refused to pick my call for about 5min until she finished with the guy, that was the first time I she told me about him when I asked who she was on call with. The idea of talking about this same guy with her again is so irritating to me now.......

NB: I went to their house recently to spend the holiday just to get familiar with members of her family and she did this call thing a day to my arrival and some hours before I arrived . She is 30yrs old now meaning time is not on her side marriage wise but she is still thinking and behaving this way.

ugnoble:



If you read the story I dropped, you'd know she ain't new. We've been in a relationship since 10years(2009) and trying to make thing official(marriage wise) isn't really rushing up things cause her family and mine knows we're literally dating. The issue was that I refused going physical with her through these years cause I felt I wasn't ready then(coupled with how shy and reserved I was). Now I want to take things through another level which I should have rightly done from the onset and maybe ease the tension I always felt between us. Am kind of a straightforward guy who just say what's on my mind which lead to our discussion of taking thing to another dimension( which I shouldn't have done. I should have acted). Now that's where the no sex stuff came from her and the 'I never knew you were serious' statement aroused.


So, its not like am moving to fast. Hell, she even knows i've been slow all this while. i've been playing these nice guy traits for so so long now. I just want to be free with her. To be free be tag along, flow along, joke along and do other stuffs with her without the tension.

Thanks for your input though, I appreciate. Still waiting on HARDDON though.

Amaterasu:
@AutoElectNG and @TheCar I appreciate your response had to go through them twice pondering over it.
Thanks bro