1. Knowing You Have a Life


There’s this idea that men like women who are hard to get. It’s a bit of
a myth. What men like is women who have a life. That, in turn, means
you aren’t going to go off with the first man who comes knocking.
Men want to know you test them to see if they behave themselves. If
you are always available, always answer the minute you get a text
message, change your schedule to fit theirs and are desperately
waiting for their next phone call, it shows you’re giving yourself to
them without checking if they’re worthy of you. They won’t feel like
you’re a reward—a prize for them being amazing.
Now, a woman who plays hard to get gives off signs that she’s
checking to see if a guy is worthy of her, even though that’s not what
she’s doing. However, playing games isn’t particularly fun because
chances are she’ll be hard to get and aloof at times when it’s
inappropriate and frustrating.
Instead, make sure to focus on your life. Fill it with things you love
doing. Get busy achieving your goals. Ensure you don’t stop working
or move your focus away from your friends as soon as you get a text
message. Save the text till the break or when you get home from your
night out with your friends.
It’s not that you shouldn’t savor the excitement of meeting someone
new because you should—just make sure your life comes first. That
way, chances are the guy will think you’re amazing because you lead
an amazing life and he will want to be part of that life.


2. Adrenaline


Yep, it’s true: a man rescuing you from a dragon is more likely to fall in
love with you than a man who isn’t rescuing you from a dragon. Why?
Adrenaline makes us fall in love quicker—or so studies say.
It might also have something to do with the bonding you do in
different experiences. Having dinner with someone is a lot less
engaging than going zip lining with someone (on one of those
obstacle tracks in the woods or similar), where you get to chat with
them, help them and together feel the fear and thrill of getting through
each obstacle.
It also makes sense that you fall in love faster as you are in a
heightened emotional state when you are in a fearful or exciting
situation. Compare the exhilaration of skiing down the alps and then
cuddling up with hot chocolate afterwards, when your senses are still
tingling, to having a drink at your local bar.
Also, experiencing new things will make you feel alive—only too often
do we stop experiencing life and go on autopilot with our routines.
When you have great experiences with someone, you associate them
with the experience. If you want to make a great impression on
someone, make sure you create great experiences with them.



3. Intimacy

I’m not talking about jumping into the sack with someone, but rather
being intimate with your thoughts and emotions.
Psychologist Arthur Aron and co. did an experiment in which strangers
got to sit down together and ask each other 36 questions then looked
each other in the eye for four minutes. The results showed that people
suddenly got close very quickly.
Normally we take time to get to know each other and as the
relationship deepens, we open up more. Asking each other questions
that speed up this process leads to feelings flying high a lot faster. It
will also help you to establish more about the other person.
You can find the questions in the New York Times . (There’s a free app
for it too, which you can find in the same place.)




4. Innuendo: Dare to Think it



When we fall for someone, we often get a bit… nervous. Suddenly, we
have skin in the game because we want them and it makes us fearful
of not getting them. The problem with nervousness is that it blocks
out other things.
When you’re with someone, instead of bottling up your nervousness—
which is like putting the lid on champagne—is that, sooner or later it
will explode. Let it be. If you uncork the champagne, the bubbles will
bubble away till there are none left. Nervousness is similar to that. I
call it “hanging with the tension” as opposed to wanting to resolve it
by repressing it, overriding it with charm or jokes, etc.
You see, once you are present and feel what you really feel, the other
person will pick up on that. If all they pick up on is nervousness, they
won’t feel a sizzling attraction. A little bit of nervousness every so
often is cute—a whole night of it… not so much.
What attracts us to a person is a combo of things (our personality,
physical appearance, intelligence, emotional state, etc.), but also sex.
If you look someone in the eye , thinking about exactly how attracted
you are to them, smiling and mentally alluding to what is to come, they
will sense it. You just gave them “the look.” You’re promising them
something—but only with your eyes.
No man will be unaffected if they’re attracted to you. Touching your
leg or twirling your hair while thinking those thoughts also works a
charm.
You can allude to sex in other ways, too, by touching the person, for
example. If you say something like, “Well, you know, eating chocolate
can be sexy…it’s such an intense taste,” they will think of sex.
People have called me the queen of innuendo due to my blog (I had
this idea of spicing it up with sexy headlines and have since come up
with more metaphors for bedroom romps than you care to know). It
can be fun. You don’t have to be dirty. You never have talk about it
straight out. You just allude to it.
Men and women are biologically wired to want sex, so whether we
want it to be or not, it’s part of the attraction we feel for someone. The
only way to turn a friendship into something more is if the other
person suddenly sees you in a sexual light. That’s what differentiates
friends from lovers.




5. Compliments



Tell a man he’s great and he will feel wonderful. Say it in front of
others and he will feel like he can take on the world. The better you
make him feel, the more he will like you. Keep it honest and real, but
don’t be shy to compliment him. Too often, we think something
without saying it.
It’s like having great experiences with someone (which is why you
should go on interesting dates together): the more of a good time they
have or, as with compliments, the better they feel around you, the
more they will like you. It’s the basis for creating a healthy relationship
as well—one where you love and respect each other and grow as a
couple by doing interesting things together.




---- The Sum Up for Making a Man Fall for You - - -



If you want a man to fall in love with you, first get a life you love, so
that he can dream of becoming part of it. Then, take him on some
adrenaline-fueled and fun dates , get intimate by asking the 36
questions, play with sexual innuendo and start giving him heartfelt
compliments. Soon, he will be head over heels!


Cc; lalaclastica, seun

Valentine, everywhere... Nawa o. 14th abeg pass make we hear scores.

eyeon:
Valentine, everywhere... Nawa o.
14th abeg pass make we hear scores.

Lol!