my name is xavier im 19 ive been a nairalander for years! i need ur help on this
okay strait to the point i had an issue with my dad since last year november ! it all started when he found out that i dint sleep home for a week he came home on a saturday as per buisness man he damanded for my car key i gave it to him innocently then he took it to his room and came out back and asked for my laptop n i was like why? and he threatened to spank me which he has never done i gave him my laptop obediently suddenly he asked for my phone chaii i no fit leave daa one so i lied that twas with a repairer then he got more furious and spanked my face i was nonplussed at that moment but i no still gree to release am haaaa all the mojo? no way! i just told him its not with me then he went strait to my closet and took so many of my shoes in my mind i was lyk 'naso e dey start' buh i stood there and watched him take them all..imagine he even blocked me from using home wifi daa one enter me die buh i tried to stay calm
the next morning i greeted him buhh he dinn reply so i just said in my mind dnt wry he'll still cool off...buh it kept going on for month i employed my mum nd slibing on my behalf buh nothing! so i decided to go myself so i went and told him okay dad i know u knw wat i did n m very sorry i was suprised that after a month of not talking to me he just said dnt get on my nerves oboi see afraidment way catch me i just went to my room
i hv been doing evrytin to impress buh yet nothing even last week was my bday i was expecting him to say hbd oo he just went out daat day with my mum n oda siblings see paining ehnnn buh i just ignored it
ve apologised millions of times buh no avail
im really scared daa this will spoil my relationship with him in the future
pls should i involve outsiders i dnt knw wah to do again i need matured advice thanks alot



pls mods do the needful thanks!!

Just gv him ur fone!

Cutehector:
Just gv him ur fone!

lai lai o

obedience is always better than sacrifice

spotlessduke:
lai lai o

alright. Suit urself den

what is this world turning into so you left home for a whole week haa you are anyway give him your phone kneel down and beg him and.promise not to do that again at least while you are still in his house he is just very disappointed that's all just keep begging and trying he will come around

Clean up your phone,get rid of all p*rn videos and take it to him.Apologise again to him.

You want reconciliation,don't you?

U said u left your house for a week. What were you doing?

Blade21:
what is this world turning into so you left home for a whole week haa you are anyway give him your phone kneel down and beg him and.promise not to do that again at least while you are still in his house he is just very disappointed that's all just keep begging and trying he will come around

a've beg nd tire

You shld have given him your phone.

You are only 19yrs old,you still have a long way to go in life and you will surely need his help.

Do the needful and reconcile with him.

thorpido:
Clean up your phone,get rid of all p*rn videos and take it to him.Apologise again to him.

You want reconciliation,don't you?

haaa ! Thanks tho' imma try!

spotlessduke:
a've beg nd tire

keep begging dear he's just very disappointed like so you can do this he's feeling bad like maybe he wasn't a good dad keep begging both in words and action daddy will come around

kaziblake:
You shld have given him your phone.

You are only 19yrs old,you still have a long way to go in life and you will surely need his help.

Do the needful and reconcile with him.

thanks!

Blade21:
keep begging dear he's just very disappointed like so you can do this he's feeling bad like maybe he wasn't a good dad keep begging both in words and action daddy will come around

thanks ! Really appreciate

What exactly did you do to ur dad? U didn't say that.

young man every older persons here have been in such situation. though, yours might differ a little, but guess what? in every degree of annoyance by any of your parent; there's always a principle of diminishing strategies, which i call "CONTROL KEYS"
In ur case all need to do are of two option:
1)sole remedy
2)a subordinate remedy

sole remedy: get up early tommorow morning straight to your dad's, kneel or lie down plead with him to forgive you. promising you'll never do it again.

a subordinate: it could be any person, but since your mum and siblin interceded and no result i advice u to get ur dad's close or family friend(let it be a man).

lastly, pls be a good boy. if you can take your dad's car for days without returning, then you must be must be something else. i wonder what you'll do if your were 25yrs...

unpredictedone:
young man every older persons here have been in such situation. though, yours might differ a little, but guess what? in every degree of annoyance by any of your parent; there's always a principle of diminishing strategies, which i call "CONTROL KEYS"
In ur case all need to do are of two option:
1)sole remedy
2)a subordinate remedy

sole remedy: get up early tommorow morning straight to your dad's, kneel or lie down plead with him to forgive you. promising you'll never do it again.

a subordinate: it could be any person, but since your mum and siblin interceded and no result i advice u to get ur dad's close or family friend(let it be a man).

lastly, pls be a good boy. if you can take your dad's car for days without returning, then you must be must be something else. i wonder what you'll do if your were 25yrs...

lol thanks i appreciate buh d car is mine...i'm planning to do exactly wah u said

RadicallyBlunt:
What exactly did you do to ur dad? U didn't say that.

read it again

Hmmmm... God help us! Children of this generation! Leave home for a week?? Doing what?

You're simply over pampered. .your dad is regretting it now..
I hope it's not too late to redeem you...


Anyway, keep apologising to your dad and promise him you would be a better person. ..

Are you sure datz what is causing his anger?
Give him d phone. If u ar Yoruba, prostrate before him & apologise.

Bcoz no mata how much you think u can live on ur own (without a father wen he's not dead), one day, u will realise you need him & I pray it won't be too late then.